Stop making your partner carry your pain!

Once we take inventory of our personal insecurities, how can we then create a buffer going into a relationship so we don't self sabotage?

We make sure that we are trying to heal those wounds without expecting that person to break their back to help us heal. What I mean by that is if I know I have an issue with jealousy, I'm trying to work on it, but at the same time, the person doesn't have to break their back to make sure I feel soothed. Okay? I pick consciously. I pick really well because I know that's a wound of mine. But I also learn to embrace and trust the process. Now, when you go in wounded and expect the person to provide you medication, but you don't even tell them what disease you have, we are then going to punish them for everything they do.

Oh my gosh. That's the worst feeling.

Unfortunately, you go in expecting them to be the healer or the doctor to a wound that you didn't create, but you don't even tell them your diagnosis. And as a result, it's destined for failure.