Lewis Howes reflects on how he used to handle relationship conflicts, chasing a quick return to harmony instead of working through what actually changed. He explores how identity shifts within relationships create friction that can't be rushed past.
Where I used to approach every breakdown or conflict is, how could I get through this as quickly as possible? Back to peace, back to safety, back to harmony, back to Back to soulmate. Energy versus power struggle. Energy. Right. How can we just go back to where it was in the first month was so easy and fun and amazing. Can't you just be that person again? Like, it was like, who are you? What is going on? You weren't this way for the first six months of knowing you. Now this, like, hurt, wounded little girl is crying every other day and yelling at me, well, what? This isn't who I knew. So you're like, you're going through an identity shift of the relationship where you're like, what is this?
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