Lewis HowesYour Personal 24/7 Greatness Coach

The #1 sign you’re with the right person

22 Aug 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief segment, Lewis Howes (Speaker A) explains that the ability to argue safely with a partner is a key indicator of a healthy relationship. He emphasizes that arguments do not signal the end of a relationship; rather, they demonstrate that both individuals recognize each other as autonomous people with their own beliefs. The speaker notes that occasional stubbornness from both sides can create chemistry, reinforcing that a relationship is built on real, independent individuals rather than an idealized projection.

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It's knowing that an argument is not going to end your relationship. When you feel safe enough to argue with your partner, I would say that is a very good measure of a good relationship. Sure. That you know that that's not— it doesn't mean that it's going to blow up. It's an argument. And you know what? You're supposed to argue because you have to sometimes be very reminded of the fact that you are not in a relationship with a projection of your ideal. You are in a relationship with an autonomous person who has their own beliefs and their own mind And sometimes they're stubborn and sometimes you're stubborn. And that creates chemistry, by the way.