Dr. Ramani Durvasula explains that narcissists don't actually love themselves. They're driven by deep self-loathing and chronic insecurity, so they project their self-hatred onto others, calling them liars and worse. This creates misery for everyone involved.
What's the biggest misconceptions about a narcissist, then?
That they love themselves.
They don't love themselves.
Oh, hell no. It's self loathing. This is a disorder of self loathing. All that inadequacy and ugly insecurity. They hate.
Themselves, but then they put it on other people.
I project it onto other people. You're a horrible, lying, disgusting person. You make me sick.
Oh, my God.
They're talking about themselves.
Oh, my gosh.
Sometimes you just want to give them a hug.
See, narcissists are miserable.
They're miserable, miserable, miserable. It's awful. I actually say that the compassion we can find in ourselves is people. Like, I want to get revenge on them. I say, you don't have to. They have to keep being them.
They have to live with it.
The universe wins on that one. Like, they have to keep being them. It is a imagine every day you're comparing yourself to everyone. You're thinking, they have that and they have that. How come I don't have this? And how come this? And they're constantly anxious, they're constantly angry, they constantly feel like a victim. They.
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