Lewis Howes argues that healthy relationships require constant effort, not effortless connection. Once the initial excitement fades, most people stop trying and assume love survives on its own. What actually matters is the emotional work both partners keep putting in.
One of the biggest myths is a relationship should be easy. A relationship is only as healthy as the two people are behaving in it. What happens is that the masks come off and we get comfortable, and it's almost like our partner becomes a family member and we think, oh, they'll love me anyway. There is great value in continuing to put your best foot forward every day for yourself and for your partner. Because we're human beings and we're complicated and we have negative emotions and sadness and anger. These are all part of life. But where are you living emotionally? What are you bringing consistently to the table? That's really what's important.
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