This is a YouTube video titled "The SHAME of Looking for Love" created in June 2025. The content is a monologue or talk discussing the emotional difficulties and societal pressures involved in dating and seeking romantic relationships. It explores themes of shame, frustration, and the challenges of finding love, emphasizing that it is a hard process and normalizing those struggles. There is only one speaker sharing personal reflections and insights on the topic.
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There's a lot of shame in looking for love. Why is that? Because this feels like there's no winning. There's no winning. It's like, I. You know, it sucks to date for. For a lot of us, it can feel really miserable, dating, going on dates. So there's no chemistry. And then there is a bit of chemistry, but it doesn't go anywhere. And then. So you got your hopes up, but now nothing. And these things happen to people enough times that it's like, it's easier to make myself not want this than it is to want this. So now I'm going to be someone who kind of pretends like they don't want it, even though deep down I feel like there's some. Maybe some part of my life that, you know, it doesn't mean we're not whole, but maybe there's something that we'd like to happen. Yeah, we would like to meet someone or have, you know, someone in our lives. And it. But then we. So we kind of hold back, and then people in our lives, they're at the Thanksgiving table, are like, so why aren't you at the time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you're like, well, because I haven't. I haven't met anyone. And, you know, so then you feel like, oh, I really should meet someone. But then you go out and you try, and you actually start making that claim like, I want to meet someone. And then everyone says, you sound a little desperate. You know, why are you trying so hard? It will happen. And you're like, well, because I haven't. I haven't met anyone. And, you know, so then you feel like, oh, I really should meet someone. But then you go out and you try. You actually start making that claim like, I want to meet someone. And then everyone says you're a sen. A little desperate. You know, why are you trying so hard? It will happen. She's laughing and she's like, that's my life. Yeah, expect it. Am I trying too hard? Am I not trying hard enough? Am I. You know, what is it? And this is the people that. People are like, they're frustrated, and it can feel so thankless. I can feel so thankless. And so then people just carry around this kind of shame for wanting something, for feeling like someone else holds the keys to this thing that I want. You know, if I want to go and make some money, it feels like I can own that. And I can. And by the way, it feels like a lot of it is in my control. I can decide if I want to make another sale today, I can pick up the phone 10 more times. But if I want a relationship, it feels like I can't just. Just pick up the phone more times. I have to actually meet someone who wants the same things as I do, who's age appropriate, lifestyle appropriate, likes me back. Like, there's so many things contained in that. So, of course everyone's, you know, having a hard time. It is hard. It is hard. Finding love is not easy. It is hard, and that's okay. And the more we start to accept that it is hard, instead of expecting it to be easy or listening to people when they say, oh, it's going to happen, like, no, it's hard.
