Neil Strauss explains a framework for relationships: treat it as three entities that must all stay healthy. Any choice that harms one partner or the relationship itself fails the test, even if it feels good to you.
There's three entities, which is the one partner, the other partner, and then the relationship itself. I think everything you do should be healthy for all three entities. So in other words, we're in a relationship, but like I feel trapped, so I want to just go have another experience with someone else and you're going to let me even though it hurts you. Well, that's not good for you or the relationship. So if you think about what can be good for all three, and if.
It'S a yes or a green.
Light, then go.
Right, but it's got to be healthy for all three.
Right, exactly.
And if it's not, then you're fracturing a part of the relationship. Yeah, yeah. You're fracturing.
Yourself or.
Your relationship or the person you're with.
So it's choosing out of a place.
Of, you know, you know, conscious integrity that is best for all three, I guess.
Well said.
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