This is what you're actually dating!

You're not getting in a relationship with a person, or you're not getting married to a person. You're getting in a relationship with someone's nervous system and all their trauma triggers and wounds. And if they haven't handled their trauma triggers and wounds, they are going to spill all over your world because they don't know how to handle it. They haven't healed it. And so that's why you need to know that you're not just getting in a relationship with someone who you're attracted to physically. You're getting in a relationship with someone's trauma, their past, their wounds, their triggers, their debt, their broken relationships with family, friends, parents, whatever they've got going on, you are marrying and getting a relationship with all of that.