Unlock Irresistible Attraction (Dating Advice) | Mel Robbins

The way to connect with somebody that you're attracted with is not to have sex with them. Don't have sex with them. Don't have sex. Do not. It's not. And here's something else that especially for men, that if you deny them what they want, They want you more. The chase mechanism kicks in in your brain. You want them more. If you have going on, 'cause you're a cool person, They're gonna want you more. People wanna have sex with somebody that's available 'cause they wanna have an orgasm. People are interested in pursuing something with somebody who they have to chase. I'm not talking about playing games. I'm just talking about the basic power dynamic here. It makes perfect sense that if you have sex with somebody the first night you meet them, all they're ever gonna look at you for is sex. That's it.