Values are the stable foundation of a relationship, like inclusivity or curiosity. Beliefs are fluid and change over time. A healthy marriage displays its shared values publicly while giving partners room for their beliefs to evolve.
Can you still make a relationship or marriage work with a lot of different beliefs? Yeah, we confuse values and beliefs. Values are what we anchor into. This is who we are. We value everybody's welcome at our table, period. We value curiosity. We value community. We believe in filling the book. We value faith. Why in the world would you read a book if you weren't open to having your beliefs changed? that's why you read. That's why you listen to this podcast. And so I think couples don't make enough space for, I want my wife's beliefs to change. I want mine to change. And so if couples say, here's who we're gonna be, let's put that on a wall in the house. Boom, we're gonna anchor into this. And then our beliefs, man, I hope those change over.
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