This content was created by Lewis Howes. This content was uploaded by Lewis Howes. This is a YouTube video titled "We've created a GENERATION of NARCISSISTIC women!" created on August 22, 2025. It features a discussion between two speakers about the impact of social media, online dating, and feminism on women's self-perception and relationships, highlighting issues of validation and societal values.
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We've created a generation of narcissistic women. And what's happened is the rise of social media and the rise of online dating and the rise of feminism has taught women that they are not to blame for any poor choices. Every poor choice is glamorized. So if you want to be a sex worker, it's great. If you want to post in bikini pictures online, it's fine. If you want to be in with it, every poor choice is glamorized, and every internal reflection is seen as gaslighting yourself. And so what will happen is they are trained to not reflect on themselves. Because we've been told we've been oppressed for so many years now it's time to make sure we project. And so we don't take any accountability. And as a result, when we get into relationships, if we don't feel completely soothed all the time, he must be a narcissist. He must be a manipulator. He must be gaslighting. He, he, he rather than I, I, I. And unfortunately, we've got an online market, and that caters to that wounded woman, that caters to that entitled woman and caters to that narcissistic woman. If I post a picture online, a bikini picture online, there's nothing my husband can do that could compete with that level of tension. Impossible.
The compliments. The compliments, the messaging that you're so sexy and beautiful and all these different things from thousands or potentially millions of men around the world who have money and all these things.
Yeah. And there's nothing he can do. He can't post online and get the same reaction and more. So he can't give me the same level of validation. So what's happened is we've created a setup in society that means men have to compete with a level of validation they can't compete with.
Wow. How did this happen? Like, why do. Why do you think? Is this a values thing, A lack of values thing? Is this a. Okay, if I feel wounded or I feel some type of trauma, I need an emotional release, and so this makes me feel good. And then it's just a slippery slope into more and more. What's the. Where does this. How does this start and when does it end?
I think it comes from the fact that we've created a culture that whenever there's a problem, there's a temporary solution that doesn't get rid of the root. If there's a problem with intimacy for men and they're not getting women, there's pornography. If there's a problem of low self esteem in women because they don't have meaning and purpose. They can post a few pictures online. We've created a way of solving problems that doesn't get rid of the root. So we're always seeking highs. And the problem with highs is they come with lows. So you end up having more problems, more low self esteem, and then seeking bigger highs to get that kind of back to neutral state. So I think the problem comes with problems being solved by seeking highs and a real focus on kind of values that are very empty, empty, materialistic values. So you are a beautiful, high value woman if you're really, really beautiful and you're a high value man. Now, if you are really, really rich. But there's nothing to do with connection and intimacy that now gives us status. And so, and I think that's come from social media mainly.
