Change happens when staying stuck hurts more than the fear of what's next. Resentment is like drinking poison, and no car or shopping spree fixes the real pain. Most people resist changing themselves while demanding others change, stuck in a victim mindset of excuses and blame instead of seeing themselves as the creator of their own life.
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When the pain of your discomfort outweighs your fear of making a different choice and stepping into the unknown, you'll actually decide to change because you'll sooner or later realize that the person who's betrayed you 5 years ago has gone on and lived their life. And the only person that's being affected by your thought or your emotional response to that person is you. It's like drinking poison, expecting the person to die. You know, we were sooner or later, we come to that point where, um, No drug, no shopping spree, no sports car is going to make that feeling go away. And this is really kind of the moment of truth, right? So, and there's nothing wrong with it. I just think that there comes a point in our life where we have to really decide, okay, um, maybe if I change, my life can change as a consequence of it.
But why do people have so much resistance to themselves changing when they're always trying to make others change? Because change is completely uncomfortable.
And it's so inconvenient. It's really inconvenient. It's never the right time. It's just never the right— there's always a lot of excuses. It's always someone else's fault. And I think that's the default, to live your life as a victim of your life instead of the creator of your life. And I think there's a big distinction between that.
