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What's Your Love Language? | Martha Higareda

12 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Lewis AI reflects on the importance of understanding one's own love language as a key step toward self‑knowledge and healthier relationships. He shares a personal anecdote about how, early in his partnership, both he and his partner completed love‑language exercises and discovered they share the exact same ranking of love languages. This alignment means that what he prefers to give is also what he prefers to receive, and the same holds for his partner. He explains that receiving gifts feels neutral to him—he appreciates the gesture but does not feel deeply loved—whereas physical touch and words of affirmation resonate strongly, making him feel truly loved. Because their love‑language profiles match, they can express affection naturally without having to work harder to meet each other's needs.

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And getting to know yourself also takes the exercise of knowing how do you like to be loved? And we got very fortunate because early on we went through so many different exercises on our love languages. I don't know if it was like just synchronicities or timing, but we have the exact same order of love language. What I like to give, I also like to receive and she likes to give and receive as well. If she buys me a gift, I'm like, thank you, but it's not like, oh, it makes me feel so loved and so warm and I feel so appreciated and it's like, I'm cool, but I can buy this myself. I'm kind of have that mentality. I'm like, okay, cool, but it doesn't make me feel loved. But touch and affirmations and words of affirmation, like, I'm doing that with you all day and you're doing that with me. And I'm like, man, I feel really loved. So I don't have to work harder to make you feel loved.