When two unhealed people enter a relationship, their rough egos create friction like rocks rubbing together. Healing work smooths out that roughness and builds self-awareness, so you can handle conflict without losing your center. You can't eliminate tension, but you can stop letting it destroy you.
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When two people get together and they haven't healed their past, what typically happens? Whenever two people are in close proximity, whether they're in a relationship or not, an intimate relationship or not, you literally have two egos. And these two egos, when they rub up against each other, sometimes there's going to be friction. Like egos are rough, right? It's almost like two rocks. You rub the right rocks and there's gonna be fire, right? So these egos, I think when we carry that past pain, they're dense, they're super rough. And when you do that healing work, you smooth out that roughness, you decrease that density that you're carrying so that you can have more self-awareness when points of friction happen. Because those are undeniable. You're not going to peel yourself and then never more will you have arguments or anything like that. That's unrealistic. But you can maintain your inner harmony or try your best to while something difficult is happening.