Why It's So Hard to Break Family Patterns

Why is it so hard as adult children to break the family trance though of conditioning from parents guilting or you need to come visit me more, why don't you call me more, you're not doing this more or whatever. Our fantasies, we're still children. I've always wanted a parent who would care and I'm not ready to give up that fantasy. Oh man. It's the fantasy that holds us back. The trance. and what we've learned is normal. And then there's the fantasy of when you don't get it growing up, then you will always be looking for it. I want you to come to me and we work out me helping you to stop looking for it.