Neil Strauss on why people blame others instead of looking inward. External criticism is easier than asking yourself what your part is in a conflict. Real accountability means resisting the urge to judge others and examining your own behavior instead.
Why is it so hard for us to look in the mirror and say, I need to work on me? Because it's so much easier to criticize someone else. I mean, look at all of Twitter is people looking at what's wrong with the world and everyone else. And then would they do better in that position? Probably not. They'd be defending their own behavior. I think it's really hard, and I've worked really hard on it, to say I have no control over anyone else. And before I accuse anyone of anything, like, how what. What's my. How am I contributing here? What's my part in it? What am I doing? How am I engaging, and how am I trying to control, for my own safety, all these. All these types of things?
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