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Why Women Choose the SAFE Guy | Stephan Speaks

24 Apr 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker argues that many women tend to select a "safe" partner rather than the "right" one, and that this choice is typically a mistake. He explains that a "safe" choice implies a lower level of emotional investment—while it may feel deep relative to some standards, it lacks the intensity that would make a woman feel truly devastated if the relationship ends. Consequently, women start from a deficit of commitment, never fully immersing themselves in the relationship, which leads to suboptimal outcomes.

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Do you think a lot of women choose the safe guy as opposed to the right guy? Absolutely, and the safe choice is almost always if not always the wrong choice. Oh, man. Why is a safe choice always the wrong choice for a woman? In order for it to be safe it means you are not deeply invested. You may be invested, it may be deep compared to certain people's perceptions of deep but it's not as deep as you know you can go. It's not as deep to where you feel like you'll be devastated by it. So you're starting from a deficit as far as I'm not fully into this. I'm not fully into this guy.