Winning an argument gives you a brief ego rush that fades fast, leaving you feeling worse the next day. The speaker argues that disguising arguments as casual conversations kills genuine dialogue. Real connection requires dropping the need to prove you're right.
When you win an argument, you lose a lot more meaning. If I say that thing that I know it's going to smash, it feels great. Ego feels freaking. Like a zing high five and everybody down the hall. That lasts for a glimmer. And then you wake up the next day and you look at and you go, what an idiot. What I think was going to happen? Yeah. Instead, what you want to say is, is this an argument? They'll say, no, this is just a conversation. Nobody wants to admit they're having or stimming an argument. They'll say, no, no, I'm trying to have a conversation with you. That's when you bring it down.
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