Lewis Howes argues you need to develop yourself and clarify your vision before dating. He uses a puzzle metaphor: you can't build a complete picture of marriage and life goals without first knowing what you're creating.
You've got to do the visionary work when you're single before you bring anybody into the picture. What does that look like? So my children, I got three kids, and our new obsession is puzzles. If you ever built a puzzle. You know, a lot of people go into dating and they've never established a picture of marriage that they want to build. So you've got to start with what is my end destination? Not just I want to be married. What do I want our life to look like romantically? What do I want our life to look like with communication and all that now that I've got a picture and it can't be too specific that only one person on the globe can fit into this picture. But man, a woman or a man, they can fit into that picture. Now I'm out just looking for who's the person that can fit into the picture that I have.
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