You Can't Be Your TRUE SELF Without This!

It's hard to live a full life when you can't be your true self. About our childhoods, we needed adults who created the conditions where we could talk about feelings, where we can get support. I found in my research there are three characteristics of these people. The number one is non judgmental, accepting. Yeah, just like, can I just be me? Like, why are you trying to make me into somebody else? The second is listener, just listen, stop talking. And the third is compassionate, just let me know you care. What I think is so fascinating about that is that never do people say, brilliant, wise, talented, or talented fixer, problem solver. We don't want that. We want the presence. Only a third of us say we had someone like that growing up. We want to help kids build resilience. And so if we just constantly tell our kids, like, do this and do this, they're not learning anything and they don't want that anyway. What they want is someone who shows they care and gets them to think critically so they can come up with their own solutions.