#15: Dre Valenzuela, Business Confidence Coach

And I would much rather do something that I'm passionate about than continue on in something that, that doesn't fuel me.

Welcome back everyone to the Aligned Coach Interview Series. I am super excited to have our guest with us today. I have the amazing business confidence coach, Ms. Dre Valenzuela, Please tell me I said that right.

You totally— you nailed it.

Everyone always says my last name wrong, and actually I probably say it a little wrong also. I like try to get it right whenever I pronounce people's names. So cool. I'm so excited to have you here, Dre. Thank you.

I'm excited to be here. Actually, this is my first interview with someone else. I interview lots of female coaches on my page, but this is the first one I'm doing with someone else, so I'm excited.

Oh cool, there's nothing like your first time, they say. Just kidding. Okay, it's getting hot in here. All right, yeah, I'm super excited to have you here, Dre, and I'm honored that we get to, um, that we get to chat and then we get to have this time together. So I like to open these up and just like hand you the mic and say, all right, introduce us to yourself. Let us know who you are, where you're from, your story. Give us all the deets. So here you go.

Oh gosh, this could get real long. No, um, so well, first of all, again, thank you so much for having me. Um, I'm Dre Valenzuela. I'm a business confidence coach. And, um, let's see, I am from— I was born in San Diego, California, but I have pretty much been raised in Texas, Dallas area. Um, so I'm a Texan. I, I say I'm a Texan, but, um, I think my story really starts, um, probably about 2 years ago. I worked in corporate America. I was a senior director of a software company, and I— yeah, I managed about 100 people in the U.S. and in the Philippines.. And, uh, you know, I had been there for, at that time, 6 years. And, um, kind of started from like sales and like worked my way all the way up to an executive. And, um, I started to find myself not being able to get out of bed in the morning. Like, I was super stressed. I felt like I didn't have any purpose. Like, I was just doing the same thing every single day. I was traveling a lot. I would have to travel to the Philippines, travel to California, North Carolina, where all my teams were. Um, and my kids, you know, had their dad. He was obviously helping me raise them, but I was traveling all the time, and I just wasn't feeling fulfilled. Like, I felt empty. Like, I felt like I didn't have a purpose. And, um, it got to the point where I really had to do some self-reflection, um, about like what I wanted to do with my life because it wasn't work— it wasn't working. Like, I was barely getting up. I wasn't doing my makeup. I wasn't putting on cute clothes. Like, I just didn't care. Yeah. And, uh, so I actually sought out a coach and, um, I'm like, I need some help. Some guidance with my life. And yeah, I mean, I'm like, please help me. Like, I don't— I'm empty, I'm missing something. And, uh, we talked, but at the time I actually ended up not hiring her because I was scared to do the work, you know? Like, I did it. Once you invest in a coach and you pay them to help you, like you are held accountable to do the work. And I still wasn't in that right state of mind to like hold myself accountable for what I needed to do. Um, come April of 2019, and I remember the month because I remember writing it on this paper, I, um, I decided like I needed to take back my life. So I did like take back my life plan. And I set all these goals. And one of the goals was to resign from my corporate job and start my own business, because I had always known that I wanted something for myself and I wanted to be an entrepreneur, but I didn't know what that was. And even when I wrote that, I had no idea what I was gonna do, but I gave myself a year and a half. So that was April of 2019. I said by December 18th, 2020, like exactly, like right before the holidays, I was gonna resign from my corporate job. Still had no idea what the heck I was gonna do, but I knew I was leaving. Yeah. So over the next couple months, I really like tried to figure out what made me happy what were my passions. And I realized that once I could get myself out of bed and I got to work, coaching and mentoring my employees is what made me so happy, like helping them be successful and find their passions. And so I was like, like, I could totally do that in the real world, and I could make money from it, and I could do it myself, and it could be mine.

Wow.

So that's when I called back the coach and I said, hey, I'm ready to hire you. And I invested in myself, I invested in her, and we started on this journey to just really first getting my mindset right because I felt like I needed to do that before I could help anybody else. Um, and then come May 28th 2020. So still months away, 6 months away from leaving my job, um, I was called into my boss's office. And this is now the 8th year I've been working with them. So this started my 6th year. I had worked another 2 years with them.

Yeah.

Um, they, you know, said to me, you know, Andrea, unfortunately, due to the impact COVID has had on our business we're gonna have to let you go. Wow. Yeah. And I remember thinking like, yeah, like, you know, that feeling. But, and I had kind of had a feeling, you know, you get that like gut feeling that something's going on. So I had had that feeling and I had let my employees know, like my direct managers, I think I'm gonna get let go. But I think the shock and the feeling that I was having wasn't that I was being let go because I had been preparing for that. I had been saving because I, I knew I was going to leave, right? It was that now I had no excuse to not launch my business and do something for myself.

Yeah, it's showtime now.

Yeah, like, I gotta do it. And fortunately, it was, you know, probably the best time because they had— I got a severance, all the extra unemployment, all that stuff that was going on. And they were— God was like, girl, if you don't do it now, I can't help you. You know, I can't help you. Um, so that's what started my journey. And, you know, I think as a coach originally, I got my certification and I thought I wanted to be a personal development and life transition transformation coach. Because that's what I had just went through, you know what I'm saying? So I felt like that's the kind of coach I needed to be. Well, I was wrong.

Well, I was wrong.

Yeah, well, a lot of coaches can, you know, people who've been doing— coaches who've been doing this for a while, your niche changes. Oh yeah, you're gonna do something that you're not gonna do. And so I started building a program and getting ready to launch, and I was gonna be a, you know, personal development and transformational, life transformational coach. And then I realized that's not what I was gonna do. And I had spent several months preparing for this launch, realizing that, um, no, I needed to go to the business side because that is what I had been doing in corporate America. Yeah, but I was self-sabotaging and feeling like I was an imposter because I had just gotten fired from a job doing, you know, this similar stuff. Like, how dare I try to go do this for someone else when I just got let go? Yeah. So I was psyching myself out and had to really come to Jesus and say, no, like, you really were good at this, and this is what you should continue to do— empowering other women in their businesses and in their own success— because that's what you've been doing for, you know, 8 years. So go do that. Um, so I quickly pivoted, changed my niche, and, um, now I help empower. And, you know, my, my tagline is I help female coaches let go of this shit holding them back and launch authentically. And the reason I focus so much on the authenticity side is because part of the reason I was so miserable in my corporate job is because I felt like I couldn't be myself. Yep. I felt like I was being put in a box and I had to dress a certain way and I had to act a certain way, um, even to the point where like my nails— like if I had my nails a certain color or there's a certain length or my nose piercing or my tattoos— like I never had any of this before. I left my job. Um, so I, I realized that that's why I was so miserable and, you know, went through that whole process of like coming into me and who I am. And it feels so amazing to be able to just be me, not only have something for myself but have a business where I can be myself and help other women, other female coaches who are struggling with the same thing. Like, they're trying to launch this business and they're watching other coaches and they feel like they have to be a certain way, or they have to look a certain way, or their content has to be a certain way. And it's just not true. Like, oh my God, can be you, and it's so much easier. So, you know, helping female coaches show up online and not care. Like, in the beginning, I used to spend hours before I went live or got on video, and I finally was like, what am I doing? Like, this is the whole reason I did this, so that I could be me. Um, so yeah, I mean, I think that's, that's my story. So now I help other female coaches launch their coaching business and just show up authentically and when they brand themselves and they find their niche, they are just them. And really helping them dig into that and not being afraid. Yep. To be them while they're launching their business or their coaching programs.

So much goodness in that. So like, I was listening to a podcast this morning. I freaking love podcasts. Like, I just, you know, like to tune in, listen while I'm on the treadmill or like in the car or something or getting ready. Um, and it was a new one. It's called Screw the 9 to 5. And gosh, I don't even know the girl's name. It was a guest that was on there, and she was saying how a lot of times whenever we go into the entrepreneurial world, and especially like the online world, that we, we start shitting on ourselves. Like, we're literally shitting on ourselves.

Like, we should really—

this way, we should be showing up this way. Um, so it was like, I— and it's so true. Like, that box that you felt like you were in, in your corporate job, that, okay, you couldn't have your hair this certain way, or you couldn't wear the shirt, or you couldn't have nose piercing. I felt that exact same way as a teacher. Like, I was a first grade teacher before I came in, in the coaching world. And before that, I was at a corporate real estate job, and it was like, you know, slacks and heels and dress shirts and long straight hair, and God forbid you have a piercing, you know. So like, that was the shitting on myself. But then also it transferred. Like, it transferred whenever you come into the online world. And we, we sort of touched on this before we went live, but like We think that we should post every single day, or we think that we should post super informative content every single day, or that we should have the pretty color schemes and just all the other crap that we tell ourselves. So Dre, I want to dive into where you started out as like, this has caught my interest as you were talking. You said that you started out and you wanted to be a transformational life coach, and then you were like, wait a minute, I'm about to launch this and it's like, this doesn't feel right to me. Holy shit, that had to have been scary to like get that deep into it.

Yes. But just tell me about that. I just got chills because I remembered what I felt like. So the process of launching, like you've been there, you know what it's like. So I was launching to, at the time I didn't have a following. I had just barely gotten on Instagram trying to build an audience. And I was also using my personal Facebook page. So it was family and friends. And in that niche, personal development and life transformation, like, I could totally get clients from that audience, right? So I was dropping little— I did this whole launch where I was like, hey, I'm doing something, but they had no idea what I was doing. And so I was like kind of teasing them and posting content, and I had these great pictures, and like, I was literally spending hours figuring out my program, my modules, how to do the sales funnel, how to do— put them in, you know, Podia and all this thing to like get ready to launch this stuff. And I'm like, holy shit, like, I don't— I'm not even into this. Like, yes, I just went through this whole life transformation, but like, this wasn't fueling me. And it— and I kept thinking back to my job and like what it— what it felt like to help someone else be successful in their job. And is it different to help a coach be successful in their business? Yes. But it's still like that whole like business success that like— ambitious. Yeah. And it's a certain type of person.

Yes.

And so I'm like, but I kept like, I'm like, I can't do that because like, number one, I hadn't even launched my own damn coaching business yet, so how could I go and help someone else? Yeah, that was a lie too because I had just spent hours learning, all days, months learning how to do all of this. Yep. So just because I hadn't done it yet doesn't mean I can't help somebody else do it. Number one. Number two, the niche that I'm— that I chose, or I ended up choosing down the road, authenticity. Like, I've been there. I've been there where I didn't— I wasn't authentic. And now I'm— every day I show up exactly how I am. Yeah. And I can teach and help someone to do that same thing, you know. So it was that whole battle with what we all deal with, imposter syndrome, feeling like we don't— but like, how dare us? Like, you have no experience, how can you do that? Um, so I, I remember thinking like, man, I just wasted so many months. Um, yep. Like, I, I felt like I failed before I even started. And I remember having conversations with my parents who already didn't understand what the hell I was doing.

You do?

Yeah, we're in a freaking pandemic and you're trying to launch a coaching business? Like, what are you even— are you gonna— like, they didn't understand it, you know? Yeah, yeah. My— and my dad, he's a corporate business dude. Like, he literally was doing almost the same thing I was doing, so he was like He was like, babe, I can get you a job tomorrow. Like, are you sure you don't want to go back to— I'm like, listen, if I don't do this, I'm never going to— like, I already wasn't happy. I was already, you know, in the worst state I could possibly be in. Like, there was no better time than right now.

Yep.

And so I just told him, I'm like, No, I've got to do this. And, um, then I remember thinking like, dang, he's right. Like, I just wasted all these months. And then I was like, you know what, I haven't, I haven't launched yet, so I can just— I'll go ahead and launch, just do a quick— just get it out there, get it over with, and then I'll just continue to build my following, change my content switch it up a little bit. So if, if you guys go to my Instagram, you can see where it changes from a personal development, you know, transformational mindset kind of approach to more business. Yeah. And I just decided, you know what, okay, it's going to be, you know, maybe a couple more months until I can launch my new program, um, in my new niche, but it feels and it feeds me. And I would much rather do something that I'm passionate about than continue on in something that, that doesn't fuel me. So, um, that— yeah, I mean, and that's part of what my program I'm getting ready to launch at the beginning of the year, you know, teaches not only to brand yourself authentically, um, but to really take the time to to be passionate about your niche and what you want to do, but not focus so much on making sure it's the right one, because it will change over time. It will continue to change. And so if you focus on it too much, you'll never launch.

Yep.

You will literally be at a standstill. And I learned that, so I can teach that because I was there. Um, but the online world is forgiving. Like, you could, you know, you could switch your niche and you're— what happens is you reach a whole different audience. So the audience you were reaching before isn't even going to pay attention anymore.

The new one's gonna fall off on their own.

Yeah, you know. And so, um, I think that— and I also think that maybe this is just me, but when I look at people's Instagrams because I do this, I can see when something has shifted.

Yeah.

And I feel like it's a beautiful thing to see progression. Like, oh, like if you're really learning someone's story and you're really reading their posts, you can see like, ah, like there was a shift and now look what she's doing. And I think that's like, progression is beautiful. Yeah. So it's real. It's like a real life person who shifted, and I think that's okay. And if you're coaching coaches, I feel like you reach them in that way because they're seeing you do something that they're living, and they know you're real and you're a real person going through the same thing they're going through. So it's okay to shift and, you know, pivot to what fuels you as a person. Um, so that's what I did. And yes, it was scary as hell, and yes, it delayed me a little bit, a couple months, but I, I know that my business will be much more profitable and more— much more blessed doing what I know I'm supposed to do. Otherwise, I would have just been repeating what I was already living in the corporate world. Doing that I didn't love. Yep, putting yourself in the box.

Yeah. Oh my gosh, no, I, I know that feeling, like straight up. I remember swapping from relationship and intimacy coaching, and it got to a point— and like, I never made six figures with relationship coaching. Sure, I signed a few clients. Like, sure, I made money, but I was nowhere near like as successful as I am now. Because I am obsessed with what I do now, right? It was like, cool, I like this, I like helping women, you know, heal the wounds in their relationships and like focusing on their marriage. But there was— and like, if any of my old clients are watching this, like, I love you and I love the work that we did, but there is a difference in, um, just in the way that I show up. And I just recently went in and like deleted old content off of my Instagram and off of like my page from, from relationship coaching. But there is such a difference in the way that I show up now doing what I do, speaking to the women that I speak to, just the energy that I show up with. Like, it's totally different from how I did before. And I'm sure that you can relate, right? It's like— and, and there's this thing, it's kind of—

it's—

I can't remember, um, I think it was my biz bestie Morgan and I, we were like, do the thing that makes you forget to eat.

Like do the thing that like you literally lose track of time doing, you know. Oh, I love that. Just made me have chills. Like, yeah, because I remember working 14-hour days in corporate America and I was like, what am I doing? Now I'll work 14-hour days, but it doesn't feel like work. It doesn't feel like work, you know. Like, I absolutely love it. And so yeah, I mean, God, I still have chills from that. Do something that makes you forget to eat.

Yeah, do the thing that makes you forget to eat, not the drugs. Don't do the drugs. I mean, sometimes, like, my husband Daniel will be like, have you eaten today? And I'm like, no, but like, I don't want to, you know. So like, it's like, it's for real, you know. I don't know why my eyes watering, but yeah, it's like for real, you know.

I'm crying over there or what? No, yes.

No, I just so freaking connected to this conversation. And I love your honesty about what you said. You were like, how the hell can I coach coaches whenever my business hasn't even gotten to that level yet? Who am I to do this? Because those are some real feelings. Like, no matter if you're in business coaching, no matter if you're like in relationship coaching, health coaching, so many of us feel like, well, who am I to do that? Who am I to tell them how to live their life or how to meal plan whenever I'm not perfect? You know, but it's like people don't want perfect. If people wanted perfect, like, they would Google it and follow, like, um, you know, a meal plan already made out for them. Like, they want you, they want your humanness, they want your stories, they want your, your progression. Like, they want you, they don't want perfect.

Yeah, no, you're exactly right. I think it's a psychological— so I, I went to school for psychology, I'm trying to go back and get my master's, but it's definitely a psychological thing. So like If you think about it this way, like, if you— let's, let's do a relationship coach or therapist or whatever, and like you see they have like this amazing-ass relationship and marriage, like, and you're going to them with a hot mess relationship, like, you kind of feel a little bit of resentment. Like, you're like, how can I ever be like that? Yeah, no, like, I would rather have someone that's like, I literally just recovered from you know, divorcing my husband and we got remarried and now we're amazing, you know, we're super happy. Like, that's the stuff I want to hear. Not like, we've been married for 60 years and we are so happy and we've never had any issues. I'd be like, how the hell am I gonna do that?

We are not the same.

Yeah, no, like, I would literally seek out somebody who has been where I have been. So, you know, and, and maybe some people are not like that, but I felt like sharing my story with other female coaches and saying like, listen, like, I was there, I struggled, I didn't know what I wanted to do. I also feel like I'm not fit to do this regardless. I feel like I would have felt like that even if I had had experience, you know. Um, but the root of my business is not so much teaching them how to launch their business. It is like, you know, having the blueprint to launch their business, but more so launching it authentically, launching it just as you are. Because it's going to take way more time trying to launch your business being like Sally Sue who you've been watching for 6 months Like, you're never— you may never launch it because you're gonna keep watching Sally Sue. And Sally Sue, she probably is being herself, and you're trying to be like her.

Oh my God.

Yeah. And when you just be you, you can do it so much— you're gonna grow your business and you're gonna launch your business so much quicker because you don't have to try. You don't have to try, you know. So, um, Yeah.

Yep. You're so right. It's going to feel good. You're going to wake up, you're going to want to do it. It's going to come natural. Absolutely. And like you said, she's doing the thing that feels good to her. If that comes natural to her, then let her do her thing. And it's like, I like what you said. You're like, yeah, I teach people how to build their business or how to launch their business, but how do you do it authentically? So it's like, I'm going to give you the roadmap, I'm going to give you the blueprint, and it's cool, but you're going to tweak it. You're going to make it yours, right? Like you're going to do the things that light you up along the way. You don't have to do it the cookie-cutter way. You don't have to follow the same exact plan that I did, right? Like, and teaching them— and I'm sure that you teach your clients how to be comfortable when they do that. Like, how do you— how are you confident in yourself whenever you do that, when you break that mold and you say, all right, I'm going to show up this way instead of this way, I'm going to talk about this instead of this?

Yeah, in each phase, you know, whether it's, you know, in business planning, you know, the planning phase, and What kind of brand do I want to, you know, be in and what kind of niche? All of that. And then the next stage, like managing your business and the content that you create. Like a lot of people will look at other people's Instagrams and feel like, oh, like that's really pretty content, I want to do it that way. No, like do it your own style.

Yeah, because let me tell you, girl, like you may look at people and think they got it going on, but content and cool stories does not make you money. At the end of the day, right? So you may think Sally Sue has it going on, but you don't know what, what it's like in the back end, right? Like, you don't know what her— what's coming to that Stripe account, you know what I mean?

No, 100%. And you hit that because I said this, I think I talked about this last week on my page, is even if Sally Sue— I love, you know what, Sally Sue, whoever Sally Sue is, I love Sally Sue, but she got 10,000 followers, okay? And you're looking at Sally Sue like I'm never gonna be at 10,000 followers. Yeah, but you don't know what Sally Sue was feeling and doing and going through when she was at 500 followers or 1,000 followers. Like, you're only seeing Sally Sue at 10,000 followers, so you're thinking like, uh, but you have no idea, you know, the progression and where she started to get there. So you, you know, if you're not willing to look back all the way at the bottom of Sally Sue's Instagram where she started, when her videos were ugly and gray and her eyebrows were bushy and all of that— yeah, and her nails weren't done, she didn't have good video quality or good audio quality— if you're not willing to do that then stop comparing because you got to take the time to see where Sally Sue started. So then you can compare yourself to her and you may even say like, damn, my video quality is better than hers when she first started. You know, like, yeah, give yourself some grace.

Absolutely. Yeah. And that's not even just for like, oh, followers or video quality, but like just like on like a human level, you know, like, oh, like how does she show up with so much confidence? How does she show up so sure of herself? Like she had to start somewhere too, you know. And it's like the expert does not become the expert overnight. Like they were once the amateur, they were once the rookie. They— everybody sucks in the beginning no matter what it is.

Or they were once not being them themselves. So like my story, I was living for 8 years completely someone that I wasn't. So now, you know, how did— I get this all the time, like, you're so confident, you are, I love your confidence. But girl, I wasn't always that, like, I wasn't always this person. So that's why I feel like I'm the expert and I can teach you to get out of that box and be yourself.

Yeah.

So yeah, and I love it, and I love working with women who are scared to be. You know, I didn't have this nose ring when I— I'm opposite— this nose ring whenever I was in corporate America. I didn't have these tattoos. I have two big tattoos on my arms, see them, but I didn't have any of that because as soon as they let me go, I was like, oh yeah, I just broke out. I'm like, I can finally take my mask off. Um, and I think sometimes it takes someone to help you to realize that it's okay to be exactly who you are, like you're safe.

It's okay that you'll be safe, you'll be okay. Yeah, I remember on Sundays or on— yeah, like on Monday morning, Sunday evenings, whenever it was time to go back to school the next day, and I'd be like, I gotta put my teacher voice back on, gotta put my clear nose ring back in, you know. And it's like little things, and it was like, I love my students and I love what I did Well, I love my students and I love my co-workers, you know, and I loved connecting and teaching, but walking into the atmosphere, it felt like putting— like, what's the, what's the phrase? Putting a square something in a circle.

I don't know, like just in a triangle. I don't know, I get what you're saying though. Yeah, I mean, yeah, and you did— I definitely remember having to mentally prepare myself to go back to work every week because I'd have to put my mask on. And then on Fridays I would like take my mask off and I'd be like, oh, the literal mask, right? Like, yeah, not the ones we wear now, wearing them there.

But yes, so weird.

Yeah, I know, for real.

Oh wow. Okay, so I want to recap Okay, so you said that your story started 2 years ago, but like, let's be honest, it actually started way before that.

Oh yeah.

Okay. All right. So like, I don't know, I like to go back, I like to dig deep. So let's go there. But I just want to know, like, what stories from your past, like what, you know, maybe from childhood or like adolescence or something, you're like, oh shit, you ready for this?

Yeah.

Girl, I mean, like, any, like, recurring things, like, sort of prepare you for where you are? Like, what were, like, big lessons that really you're like, dang, I'm really, like, grateful for that experience?

Are you wanting— you trying to cry today or what?

I mean, we got about 7 minutes, so, um, I'll just do—

I'll summarize, but it's definitely a recurring theme. So, um, when I was a kid, um, my biological mom, she left my brother and I when I was about 3 years old. She left us and my dad raised us full-time, and he ended up remarrying. My stepmom is amazing. Honestly, I don't even call her my stepmom, like she's my mom. She raised me But when you're, you know, you have a biological mom, like, you still have that missing piece, right? Yeah. So I actually didn't even realize this until I was going through that 2-year transformational process, um, that I had this recurring theme of not feeling enough, not feeling loved. Who am I to deserve this? That, that whole like imposter syndrome has started back when I was 3.

Yeah.

And I did not realize it, um, until that 2-year transformational process. I was also going through a divorce at that same time, so— and part of that is because I would not let him love me, because I continuously throughout my whole entire life have felt like I didn't deserve what I had or what I was getting or what I was trying to do. So I have constantly done things for other people because I didn't feel like I deserved something for myself.

Yeah, you were never worthy of it. It wasn't yours. It was—

and I never realized that it was because I had that abandonment issue, because I developed what I learned is called ultra-independence. And what ultra-independence is, is when you feel like, you know, you see these women and they're like, I'm independent, I don't need anyone, I can do this by myself. Like, there's a difference between being independent and being ultra-independent. Yeah, ultra-independence is— it's a, it's a defense mechanism. Develop from, you know, being let down or being betrayed or not trusting people because of past issues, which mine were from my mother. But I never realized it because I developed such a strong, like, I'm strong, yeah, I got this, I can do this. And it wasn't until my whole transformational process I went and took a trip to Sedona, Arizona to have like a spiritual healing, um, experience. And I went and saw this guy and he like dug it out of me and I was just like, what? Wow, this is why I do this. Because of my— and I never— because I, you know, we don't talk, we don't have a relationship because I had my mom, I had my step— she was my mom. Like, I didn't— I felt like I didn't need my biological mother. But in reality, subconsciously, you know, that's what was there. And so my whole life I have felt like I didn't deserve anything good, um, and I would do for others. I helped my, my ex-husband launch two of his own businesses.

Wow.

Even though I wanted to be an entrepreneur. So every day he would wake up and get to do what he wanted to do And I would resent him because I had to go to my job that I was miserable at and I couldn't be myself. Yeah. So that's why I finally did the take back my life plan and said, you know what, F this. Like, I've got to do this for myself. And that is why every month when my dad is like, are you sure this entrepreneur thing is gonna work?

We're hanging in there.

Yeah. We doing this. Yeah, there's no going back now. Yeah. So, you know, I think that's one of the things I think as we go into 2021, if you're a female woman, I think we all do this, like we want to put other people before us. We want to put our kids, our husbands, our partners, our parents, friends before ourselves. Like if if you do anything in 2021, invest in you.

Yeah.

If you're thinking about becoming a coach and you wanted to do it for so long but you're scared, just do it. It doesn't cost any money. Go to my Instagram. I just posted this yesterday: 8 reasons why 2021 is the best year to launch your coaching business. There— it doesn't cost anything, honestly. If you really think about it, you don't have to have any money to start a coaching business. Just do it. And if you are going to do it and you do, the only money you spend, get a coach. That's it. You don't need anything else.

Yep.

Yep.

Get someone.

That's the only one I would say. Don't get a website. Don't get all this other shit. Yeah, they will help you. And if it's a good coach, she will make sure, or he will make sure, you don't spend any money on anything else but them because you don't have to. Yeah, so that's— and we can end on that, like, invest in yourself. Invest in yourself, girl.

Girl, yes, I love it, I love it. Invest in yourself. Yep, so good, so, so good. And it really does it. I mean, honestly, you could Google it. Like, you could Google, how do I get my first client? And like, boom, there you go. So say you don't have— like, you literally have zero $100 in the bank, you don't have the money to get a coach. Like, you could land your first client without a coach yourself, like 100%.

I didn't have a business coach at first. I had a mindset coach, but she wasn't teaching me how to build my business. Yeah, you know, so it wasn't until after I switched gears that I was like, oh, you know, I need a— I need a business coach to help me do all this. But, um, yeah, I mean, invest in yourself in 2021 if you're trying to start a coaching business. Hire a coach and do it. Invest in you and take back your life.

Yes, take back your life. I love it. Oh my God, this is so good, Dre. So good. Ah, so this is— I'm gonna actually come on to— so I'm starting a podcast. Well, it's like in the works. Well, technically I already had one this year with my biz bestie Morgan, and then we like kind of were like, oh, this isn't super aligned anymore. But this episode's gonna re- We're going to repurpose it for the podcast. I am excited because there are so many, like, golden nuggets in this. So yeah, if anyone's listening to this, whether this is on the podcast or whether this is, you know, right now, like you're listening to it right now and like you want to reach out to Dre, um, where can they reach you? Where can they find you, Dre?

Yeah, so my Instagram handle is @followdrevalenzuela, um, and that's the best way to get me. And you can see all my other stuff from there. I have a Facebook group, I have a website. I'm getting ready to launch my program. So, and right now what I'm really doing is I'm offering a free business confidence call where we just, you know, you tell me about where you're at in your business. And, um, you know, it really would be for those coaches, female coaches, because that's who I focus on, who are really struggling to find their confidence in launching their business and really tap into them and their brand, um, and I can really coach them on how to tap into that and then kind of see where they are. If they're interested in working with me further, I can take them through a 12-week program of launching their business from the beginning.

Oh, so good, so good. Okay, so @followdravenvenezuela. Yep. Is that all right?

Okay, cool.

Um, so cool. Yeah, so y'all go follow Dre, and yeah, we will see you all on the next one. Thank you so much, Dre, for coming on.

And hey, I'm gonna reach out. I want to have you on my show.

I would love to. Yeah, hopefully we could talk forever. Like, honestly, our stories, like, just a lot of the stuff that we value, and a lot of it, like, we have a lot in common. So like, I feel like we should be friends.

You want to be friends? Yeah, let's, let's be BFFs.

Yes, besties, BFFs. I love it. Let's do it. Okay, so bye everyone, and I I will see you all in the next episode.

All right, everyone.