#19: How to balance new mom life and building your own business with Chandreyi Das

Amazing because I'm not just doing it just to make money. I'm doing it to really, really help women and help mothers. And, and I definitely see a lot of growth.

Hello, welcome back to the Aligned Coach Podcast. This is your host, Lindsay Padilla, and I welcome you. I welcome you back, any new listeners. I welcome, or I welcome you back, any recurring listeners or any new listeners. Thank you for coming in. This is the go-to place for new and growing coaches to feel like they're part of a community, to get tangible tips in building their business, and to ultimately know in their heart that they're living in their purpose and that they're building a sustainable business. So thank you for being here. I am so excited for today's episode. It is with an expert in productivity and organization, especially for moms, for for moms who are coming into motherhood, who are balancing work and motherhood, mom life, right? All the good stuff. So I'm super excited for today's episode. If you would like, you can always share this episode over on the Gram, over on Instagram, tag me in it @lindseyrbadio, and I will send you a free gift to give you some clarity and direction going forward in your coaching business. So definitely do that. Leave us a review. Let us know what you enjoyed about today's episode. Stars on it. As you know, ratings and reviews are the currency of podcasts. So please be a sweetie and leave a review so that other coaches can find this podcast, right? So that they can also be a part of an uplifting, empowered community where they know that they are living in their purpose, right? So thank you for being here. And let's jump right in. Okay, welcome everyone. Welcome back to the Aligned Coach Podcast. I'm so excited for our guest today. I have an amazing woman, a freaking powerhouse of a woman. We just just did like 10 minutes, almost like 20 minutes actually, of like pre, pre-podcast talk over here. And we're like, okay, we just have to press record because this is already like so juicy. So I'm so excited to have you here, Shondre. Did I say that right? Please like correct me.

Shondre. Shondre. Yes. Yes.

Shondre.

I love it.

Welcome, Shondre. Thank you so much for coming on today.

It's an honor. Thank you so much for having me on your show. I'm so excited to be here.

Yes. Amazing. Amazing. Okay, cool. So I'm just gonna like let us jump right in. Tell us who it is that you help. What do you do? What are your passions? What lights you up? Like, what is the gift that you're putting into the world?

So I am an organizational and productivity coach for mamas. And what I do is really I've combined my 15+ years of the corporate organization and process efficiency and streamlining processes. And I've taken all of that plus working at daycares, growing up with my mom and my grandmother who were both teachers and being a mom myself. And I've really mashed everything and married everything together to really bring this beautiful, beautiful experience for working mamas. So that is my audience. I love working with moms. I'm a working mom myself. I've been, you know, did the whole structure of going through getting my bachelor's, getting my MBA, working full-time. So I know firsthand what it's like to try to balance the working life and the home life and trying to, trying to do it all without a sweat. So that's really what lights me up is being able to be that voice and be the heartbeat of the company or be the heartbeat of like making sure that Moms don't feel alone. And of course what lights me up is 100% my family. I have a 3-year-old, almost a 2-year-old, she turned 3 in January. I have a 3-year-old daughter, Leilani, my husband, and then we have a furry, furry Pip, Pippin. So yeah, the family, Pippin, yeah, he's sleeping away over there. But yeah, so here we are in New Jersey where it's rainy and muggy today, getting ready for spring.

Well, thank you. Yes, thank you for that. I love that, you know, honestly what you said. I help mamas do it without breaking a sweat and like I help you pull it all together. And I'm just thinking like, is it really possible? Like, because, you know, I think that we're all like doing our best, you know, like no one really has it all figured out. I was having a talk with I think she's a self-care coach earlier this week and I was actually in her Facebook group doing an interview like she was interviewing me and we were talking about like the guilt that moms have, you know, like whenever they are working or they're staying home or like they decide to nurse or they don't nurse, like whatever, you know, we talked about like the guilt and like we're all just like doing our best, you know, and like there is no like a rulebook and like if there was one, like we wouldn't follow it anyways. You know? So, so yeah, I love that. I love what you're doing. I love the work that you're putting into the world. How did you get here? How did this, how did this come about? Like how, how did you even come to this?

I love what you said about the guilt because I think that is like the biggest thing because in our culture growing up, it's kind of ingrained in your head to really always go after that title. Like you're supposed to go to school and after you go to school you get your grad degree and after you get you get your grad degree, you get married, and you have kids and you do this. So when anything goes off course and you don't do everything before you turn 30, people start raising an eye. They're just like, wait, what's going on? Like, why isn't she getting pregnant? Why? What's going on? And, and my— the whole reason I wanted to get into this is really to break the stigma of the whole everything has to have its own timeline. I am the first person that will say, hey, you don't have to nurse, you don't have to extremely, you know, formula feed because I've done both. You don't have to start your child in daycare at 6 months or at 6 weeks like you have to do. At the end of the day, the biggest rule that parents should abide by is to listen to each other, communicate with each other. It doesn't matter what Susie or Peter says or, you know, Great Aunt Bertha says. It really, really comes down to this. And I think that is my, that's the mission of doing what I do because I really want to reel mamas in and try to maybe not listen so much to the noise and the overwhelm of Facebook posts, but really try to dig in deep and really try to trust themselves and gain the confidence within themselves so that they can be the best version of themselves as first and foremost a woman, then you're a mother because you were a woman before you became a mother. And it's so important when we're wearing so many hats that you don't think your entire identity is about being a mama and you get lost in the whole process of it. And it happens. I'm not saying I'm perfect. I 100% can tell you that I'm the first person to be like, Yes, I'm a mom, I get it. But there are definitely times that if you don't take care of yourself, it ripples down. It's a full-on ripple-down process. You take it out on yourself, you take it out on your husband, you take it out on your partner and everyone around you. But it's really, you know, within and focusing on yourself.

Yep, absolutely. I feel that creep up sometimes, like what you said about sending your kids to daycare or not sending them to daycare. I know we're kind of like getting off track here, but like, I just want to like really like reiterate this, especially for moms that are listening and feel torn because maybe you're working from home now, or maybe like, like you, like you've went full time into your business and now you're like, well, do I like send my kids to daycare or do I keep them at home with me? Because technically I am working from home. So like, shouldn't I have them here? And I actually went back and forth on this. I So I was a teacher. I actually put in my notice, like quit teaching, and then COVID happened. So then we all got sent home anyways. So I was like virtual teaching, the kids were home, and it was like confirmation that like, I'm definitely making the right decision. Definitely don't wanna go back to school next year. So like, it was good, right? But then it came up, I was like, well, maybe I should like keep the kids at home, you know, since technically like I work for myself and like I can just have them here all day. So I, oh my gosh. So whenever daycares opened back up, I see that look, you're like, I don't know about that. But so I sent them to daycare part-time, right? I was like, yes, I can do it part-time, 2 days a week. It'll be fine. You know, I can get all my work in those 2 days. And it was like, I tried to bear, I tried to hang in, like I tried to do it. Um, but I felt a ton of like pressure, you know, um, to, to make that work because I was working from home and yeah, like I should spend more time with my kids now. And, um, but what happened happened was I ended up like really putting so much pressure on myself to be the perfect mom and to do what everyone thought I should do. And, and then to also run my business successfully, right, in those 2 days. And then I ended up like not being present with my kids during the time that they were here because there were still things that needed to get done. So yeah, needless to say, they're back in daycare full time. And it's like, It's great. Thank you. Like, I love my daycare. Like, I'm so glad that they're open right now during this weird time. So, so yeah. Do you— are your kids in school or are they home?

They are. So we— so I actually— my— both my parents and my in-laws, they were just like, what are you doing? She's, she's barely 4 months old. So my daughter actually started daycare before she was 4 months old because I was full-time working momma. And I worked in the city. So I couldn't just drop everything and go pick her up. So my husband would do drop off and pick up just because the time it would take for me. So fast forward to, you know, she goes in 5 days a week. Fast forward to when COVID shut down or when COVID hit and the daycares had shut down, she was home with me all the time. And my husband, he can't really technically because of the job, he can't work from home. So we really had to struggle and try to figure out what routine would work out and he was able to do shifts. So then he would watch her during the morning and then I would take over. But it was the same thing. I was trying to work full-time, taking care of a 2-year-old while trying to run a business. And, and I was right after she went down for bed by 8 o'clock, I would sign back on and then I would be working until midnight. And, you know, that went on until her daycare reopened and I loved it. I really, I really did love— let me go back. I loved having her there because come 3:00, I said, you know what, I'm done working. I'm going to go be present with my daughter. So from 3:00 until she had dinner time, I was there with her. We would go outside, we would just play. And we lived in a townhome, so we didn't really have a backyard. So it was really just playing on the porch or in the back or just walking around. So it was a lot of walks. But that time was invaluable because as soon as the daycare opened, we said, okay, you know what, let's put her in. It was nerve-wracking, but we, we were really, really lucky because they put a lot of protocols and safety measures in place to ensure that our kids were safe. So we couldn't go inside, only one parent could drop off, and then we had to text them to pick up. So she went back in July, but those few months, I 100% get it. It was definitely hard. So she's back in daycare full-time. And so, you know, we got some semblance of normalcy as it can be.

Yep.

Once she went back.

Yep. The exact same, exact same. Like I look back at that time because, you know, March, this is a year from whenever everything like shut down, like we were going into lockdown. Like it's literally been a a year.

And so, yeah, crazy.

I was, I was on a walk today and I was thinking back to a year ago and I was like, wow, a year ago the kids were home and I was probably like pulling them in a wagon, like behind me, you know, on this walk. So it's kind of like bittersweet, you know, and I think back to all those days that we were inside or outside, you know, just us, not, you know, and it was kind of like, I don't know if I thought this then, but it was kind of nice, you know, to like not have this pressure to go anywhere or do anything. So yes, I do value that time as well. I do look back at it and I cherish the time that we had. And I have like these memories of the kids. We were picking blackberries and like they're eating blackberries out of their bowl. You know, it's just sweet summer memories from last year. So, but yes, as soon as daycares were open, or my daycare anyways, they're very, very vigilant, very like tons of protocol, sends them home as soon as they have any type of like cough or anything, you know. And I'm, and so I'm thankful for that. You know, I'm very thankful for for where, where they go and the care that they have there. So yes, yes. All of that to say, whatever you choose to do that's best for your family, like do your thing, girl. Do your thing. You got this, right?

100%.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I love that. Okay. So tell me, how did your family take it? Like whenever you told them that you wanted to be like this self-care, like this productivity coach, like what was their reaction to that?

So I actually told my parents. I didn't really tell my in-laws because they, they don't even know what I do for my full-time job, let alone trying to explain to them what I do. So I told my parents as soon as the idea hit me, and I'm super lucky that my parents actually, they work full-time, but they also are entrepreneurs as well. My mother runs a jewelry company and my father runs a nonprofit organization and he does a ton of volunteer activities and he's, you know, a very, very amazing— he's like extremely talented singer and performer. I digress. But so when I told them, they were extremely proud of me. They were so excited and they were like, absolutely, we're so excited for you. I mean, when I first told them, I think they were they were expecting it was like baby number 2. And I was like, no, I had a baby, but I'm the CEO. But so I told them. And then when I actually— I made a decision to leave my corporate world to go full in. There was definitely a lot of hesitation, but they were very— my parents were very pragmatic about it because they said, you know, you definitely want to make sure especially when you have a mortgage and daycare and this, that, and the other. And of course, we're very— my husband and I are very in tune with all of our finances. We don't overspend or anything like that. But I told them, and at first they said, you know, definitely make sure you have something else lined up. And, and at first I said, well, no, I'm not. I told them, I said, I'm going all in. Like instead of, hey, this is my, my chance, what do you think? I flipped the script and the second time I approached it, I said, this is my plan. I'm going all in and giving myself 6 months and doing this and doing that. I've already, you know, I've already secured clients before. So I know that this will be amazing because I'm not just doing it just to make money. I'm doing it to really, really help women and help mothers. And, and I definitely see a lot of growth. And they said, absolutely, go for it. Let us know what we can do. So I was super excited. I even reached out to my former manager, the one that hired me for this current role or my job that I left after 8 years. And he was super excited. He said, let me call you. And he gave me tons of advice. So I was just like, yes, yes. I think, you know, as entrepreneurs, especially when you're first starting out, I've only been in my business for a year, you do tend to seek that outside validity because this is something completely different. It's like the same thing. Think of it when you're graduating from high school and you're like, is this the right major? Like, can you tell me? You're asking your guidance counselor, is this the right major? And your counselor's like, well, this is for you. Like, How am I going to tell you if you want to be a doctor or if you want to go into like law school and stuff? That's not for me. I can tell you based on your grades and stuff like that. So I think it's the same thing. But you, you also, you feel that you have like the imposter syndrome and you're like, am I going to do this? Am I going to fail? But let me tell you, entrepreneur is no different. I heard this somewhere than being a mama. Like, you question yourself. My, my coach even said this to me and I was like, I was like, whoa, this is so true. So Ashley, this is for you. You quoted this. I'm going to take this. She did say like you're learning along the way. You tend to go to people for advice and validity, but at the end of the day, you really do have to trust yourself and trust that you're making a good decision. And of course, being a mom, I'm like, I 100% get that. So I'm excited for what's to come.

Yeah, I love that. And you only do better like whenever you know better, right?

Like, exactly.

Same way with being a mom or like parenting or looking back and like, wow, I should have handled that differently. Well, like, you can't until you know better, you know. So same way with running your business. God, I look back at like some of the things that I did in the beginning. And you know, just like, like you said, like questioning myself or even like putting myself out there. And I'm just like, you know, but at least I was doing it right. Like, at least, you know, you're putting that foot forward. So once again, for anyone listening, like, just know that like, bad action is better than no action. I think, you know, like, um, not even to like label it as bad, but imperfect action is better than no action, right? Like it's better than staying stagnant. So yeah, that's so good.

And I am definitely a perfectionist, like a recovering perfectionist. So I 100% get that 100% because that's what I am. That's just, I think that's like the corporate mindset in me is just like trying to make sure that the font is absolutely perfect or like it's lined up straight and stuff. But then I tend to focus on that so much I miss everything else that's going on. And I think the pandemic kind of like shifted that for me. And I was like, oh, I'm trying to get the house all pretty and trying to do the dishes. And I was like, eh, that's it. We're going to go play outside. Like, we're going to go blow bubbles. Yeah.

Such a fun dance. Such a fun line. Yeah, I love it. Cool. Okay, so whenever you are working with these moms, you're helping them really like get their life together, right? Like before becoming a mom, because you work with new moms, right?

Yes.

Okay, so you're like helping them kind of like wrap their head around becoming a mother. And I know that you, your productivity and like organization, like those are like your specialties. So like, can you just like tell us more like what that actually means? Like what that actually like entails, I guess?

Yeah, absolutely. So what I initially started out with is working with mamas before, like first-time mamas before they have a little one. So I help them with curating their registry, their hospital bag, everything that they need for postpartum, but then also making sure that they're reading the right books about like the first trimester and then what to do like when the baby wakes up and just like trying to really hone in on what feels good to them and not what works for everybody else. And there are the 4 pillars that I always speak about when you're a mom. It starts with organizational structure. And it doesn't matter what my nursery looks like or what so-and-so's, you know, perfect Pottery Barn nursery looks like, because you have to do what works for you and for your family because that little one doesn't care what kind of crib sheets you have or what kind of muslin cloths you have, as long as he or she is happy and healthy and fed. And that's all they're going to want for their first couple months. And just really making sure that their space is ready. So organizational structure, time management, routines and schedules, and then most importantly is self-care. I talk about it all the time. And I go through and I really just break down all the myths and all the stigmas that's associated with all 4 of those pillars. And it just, it goes beyond just making like the lists and the printables and all of that. So it's definitely, it's, it's a fun journey. And I've worked with 2 clients who have adorable baby girls now, and it's like blink of an eye and they're going to be, you know, 6 months, they're going to be a year soon. So I'm super, super excited to work with mamas again.

Wow. Wow. That's so awesome. I'm thinking back, I'm thinking back to like my first pregnancy. I have 2 babies. Well, they're not babies. They're 4 and 2, but I'm thinking back.

They're always going to be your babies.

I know they're always my babies, girl. Like I could have like used you back then. I remember like spending hours on Pinterest, like Pinterest in the moms Facebook support groups.

Oh my gosh.

Like there should be like a limit on how many of those things you can be in for like mental health, you know? Um, and like just spending all of my time like comparing and like trying to just like figure it out and like, should I do it this way? Should I do this? Um, and then like procrastinating, like the things that I actually need to be doing, for example, like getting the nursery together, like actually doing it instead of like looking at what everyone else is doing. Um, so what you're doing is like definitely, definitely needed. It's definitely necessary. It's going to help so many women, or I know it is already helping them, you know, helping And you know, these moms like really have support. And I think also like just having the, like the supportive ear, you know, like that, that like shoulder to kind of lean on, like that safe container, because like, let's be honest, like our own moms or our sisters, like our close friends, like they're, they're opinionated. Right. So they're going to give us their opinion, not necessarily like help us find our own groove. So I think that what you're doing is so, so, so needed. And it's so good. It's going to help so many people.

And I did the same thing. I think I was just like, it was biased because I have, you know, I went to my sister-in-law's and their kids are much older and they're just like, oh, you have to get this and have to get this. And so of course I wanted to work with moms, but I'm also expanding it more and pivoting more and working with mamas as they're transitioning back to work from maternity leave. So I'm also working with mamas there. So that's my part. My initial task was just focusing on first-time mamas-to-be, but now I'm also focusing on, you know, everything that just transpired in the past couple of months in like the working mom balance between working full-time, taking care of a little one, trying to figure out the whole structure of like how to really pull everything together and how to balance it all because it's overwhelming. And I'm going to definitely say that I'm not saying that I have it together at all. I spent like the entire day, like half the day today cleaning like a maniac because you're just like, oh, we haven't done this. I've been putting it off, putting it off, putting it off for good reasons because priorities and stuff. But I'm like, all right, you know, let me just do the bathroom today and did that.

Yeah.

But yeah. So yeah, I think having an ear and having somebody that's outside of your friends or your family circle, they're not going to tell you based on what— and I do that. I definitely, you know, for my clients, they're like, well, what do you have? I said, I can tell you what I have, um, and I can give you opinions on why I don't think that, you know, this purple pillow that smells like lavender and has like beads on it and stuff, um, would be good for the baby. So like, I would definitely give my opinions, but at the end of the day, it's between the mother-to-be and the father-to-be or the partner-to-be to make the decision.

Well, do you work with the partners as well or do you focus on just the mom?

The partners don't want to get involved. They're just like, you just do you. They don't, but they're just like, yeah, that's fine. You just do you. Because think about it, when we, you know, even if I— when you were getting ready for your little ones, You weren't— of course you'd be like, hey, can you come with me and stuff? But at the end of the day, you're the one that's decorating the nursery and organizing the nursery. Because this is something as little girls and stuff, when we're like, okay, we want our dream wedding or we want our dream nursery, it's something that we have those Pinterest boards on. So husbands and spouses and partners, they're just like, all right, just tell me what to do.

So right, yeah, they're there for you to like almost just say, this is what I'm doing. And they're like, yeah, sounds great, babe. Whatever you say.

Yeah, that's what I did. I did all the organization, of course, but my husband was the one that painted the nursery and he's the one that like put together the nursery furniture. I just wrote down lists and I was like, this is what needs to happen when, so that we weren't waiting at like 35 weeks like, we gotta put everything together. So definitely mapping it out and stuff is is my specialty, so I helped make sure that we were all ready. And she came a week early. I was induced, so she came a week early, so luckily everything was more or so ready.

I was ready, ready to go. Yeah, and you could enjoy that with her and not have to worry.

Exactly. Yeah.

Oh, I love it so much. Okay, so, um, two things. One, what advice would you give to a new mom that is like kind of feeling overwhelmed pulling all these things together. So we'll go there first. And then I want to ask like, what advice or what support would you give to a mom who is like trying to decide if she wants to go back to work, or it is time for her to go back to work and she has a 2-month-old at home, you know, or a 3-month-old, you know, 12 weeks is usually like the time limit. So yeah, tell us how you would— or not how you would support them, or like just like what piece of advice what advice would you give to them?

So for the new mama, I would say that the first thing that I do, and I actually have a free challenge in my mama Facebook group that I could definitely pin them on, is to make lists. The very, very first thing is just write down everything. So basically just brain dump everything that's making you feel overwhelmed and just write it down. Because I think as moms, we try to take on so much. You're like, this has to get done, this has to get done. And we're just like kind of like shouting it out out to our husbands and, and they're just like, wait, what? I thought you said you wanted a brownie for breakfast and now you're telling me to go put the crib together? Like, it just like, you're all over the place. So write down everything. And then from there, just start breaking up those lists into smaller chunks, like little, little bite pieces so that it doesn't feel overwhelming because we have so much going on up here. Because we're trying to grow another human. So between the overwhelmed brain and like the mama brain, pregnancy brain, it kind of all is like complete mush up there. And we try to— we— I think we get overwhelmed because we're trying to bite off more than we can chew. And we're also so exhausted. But just, just make lists. So whether you're like, you know, putting it onto your phone or whether you're going through— sorry, Putting it on your phone or writing it down on the list, however it works for you. Just start by making a list and brain dumping it. So that's the first piece of advice. So, yes, it's the easiest thing. You don't even think about it. It doesn't have to be a pretty list. Nobody's looking at it. No one's, you know, this is for you. So start by there. Just brain dump everything. I keep a journal right next to my bed. And anytime something comes off, what I do is I just write it down so that I don't go on my phone and try to put it into my phone and then end up on Instagram watching reels all night, which is, let's be honest, I do that anyways. So that's the first piece of advice. For the mom that's trying to make a decision, definitely communicate with your husband, like in terms of the expectations. Like for me, it was a peace of mind for me going back to work. It was definitely hard going back to work. I had 12 weeks of leave with my daughter and then after that my husband was home for 2 weeks and I still remember it plain as day. April 2018, she was less than 4 months old and she went back to daycare. And of course I cried like I, my grandmother and my teacher and my mother were both teachers and I still cried and I was like, oh my goodness. But in the long run, we know that it's been the best thing for her in terms of social development, mental development, and just not being used to us all the time. So it was really, you know, not saying that daycare is for everybody, but I think from a mental health perspective, it's something super, super needed because otherwise I felt, at least for me and for a lot of moms, you're just on 24/7. You don't, you don't get that mental break from being a mom. And as much as we love our kids and we want to keep them home, you don't get to shut down. So I definitely think look at all the options. If you don't want to send them to daycare, see if you can do a nanny or you can like work with another mama group or like try to find ways that would work for you and your family. And the most, most important part is definitely communicating with your husband. Like, what are the expectations? You know, what can we do? And just try to have that conversation probably earlier before you even decide to get ready for the little one. For us, we decided when I was pregnant what our plan was, so we had everything mapped out. So it's always good to at least have different options available, especially now when we did not see a pandemic hitting and childcare not being available. Luckily this was this time last year, but I think it's definitely good to at least have backup options. Yeah.

So, and that is where you come in, right? That's like where you kind of— I help you.

Absolutely. Yes.

Oh, so good, because I'm not a planner. I'm very much a like, I'll figure it out as I go. Like, that's, that's how I operate, you know, it's how I operate the best, really, like very much like intuitive and like kind of in the moment. But that can backfire whenever you have not set the nursery up and you're, you know, going into labor.

But that's also very important though, because that's one thing that I tell the moms that I'm like, look, sometimes plans are not going to work out. So you have to— the biggest thing is you need to be able to be flexible and you have to at least allow some room for things to change and adapt. And that's the one thing as parents, especially as mothers, you have to be able to be flexible and adapt to different types of situations. So I think it's very, very important. I'm not like by the book, like, excuse me, we have to redo this entire list because it was in blue and not in pink like I wanted. I am a planner, but here's a fun fact that a lot of people probably didn't know. I never wanted to find out the gender. Oh my, yes. So for, um, I didn't know she was going to be a girl. I had an inkling. Everybody thought she was going to be a boy, but I actually never wanted to find out the gender until the day she was born or he was born. Luckily it was a girl. But, um, I said, you know what, the whole pregnancy I never knew. Nope.

Wow.

We didn't do, we didn't do a gender reveal. We didn't want to find out the gender. Everyone's like, well, how can I plan? And I was like, they're babies. Like, get everything gender neutral. He or she will be fine for the first, uh, 3 months because I just, I didn't want everything all pink and girly and, and stuff. I wanted to be able to reuse if we have more kids down the line. And of course, to everyone's surprise, they were like, it's a girl. So, you know, that part of the element was, was really big for me. I like having that surprise, but we did have, you know, the nursery ready. It was gender neutral. We did mint and gray for her nursery, boy or girl. And then we just started throwing like little pieces together that made it, quote unquote. We did Winnie the Pooh for her nursery, which we should change it at this point, but she loves it.

Yes. How old is she now? She's 2?

She's 3. And we actually just moved into this new house where I'm talking to you from in October. So we've been— we were living in a townhome during the entire pandemic.. And we got super, super lucky. We were able to find this house and we made an offer. Um, and then they accepted it and then we were able to sell our townhome, which was very, very hard because we were there for 7 years. But that's why I think it's so important with like routines and schedules and stuff, because especially for a 2-year-old, she's known that house for like forever. But then she came here and she was like, we have a backyard.

Oh yeah, that's awesome. That's awesome. That's really— and honestly, like, the advice that you just gave is like so practical and it's so simple, but I think that it gets overlooked, you know, just like do what works for you, make your list, get organized, and like just trust that like it will be okay, you know, and have your support, communicate with your partner or, you know, with the people that are close to you, communicate and get an organization and productivity coach, right?

Exactly, exactly. And I'm always found. So like any questions you mamas and women have, I'm always available.

Thank you so much. That's awesome. So how can people connect with you? Do you have anything going on right now? You know, what's the best way to come into your world?

So you can find me on Instagram. That is where I hang out. I do have a Facebook group. But I'm slowly, slowly because I think there's just so many Facebook groups and I love my Facebook group. It's super intimate, but you can find me on Instagram. My handle is Once Upon a Task because this mama loves Disney, so I kind of just combined all of that together. Um, so Once Upon a Task is my, my, uh, IG handle, so you can find me there. And yes, I will be actually rolling out some exciting offers, and I'll be having some free content coming up, so definitely stay in contact with me. So you can find me on Instagram as well as on Clubhouse, the same name. Awesome.

Thank you so much. That was so awesome. I have not gotten into like— I'm on Clubhouse, like I'm there, but I'm like silent. Like I've not done anything at all.

Oh no, I love it. I think it's, it's really what we've needed is just connecting with people and just like chatting and doing everything. Because It's nice just to connect with people.

Yeah. Yeah. You should show me how to work it.

Absolutely. We'll connect. We'll do a Clubhouse room and stuff.

So yeah, we'll have a Clubhouse party. I don't know what do you cool kids call it?

I think that's what it's called. So Clubhouse, for anyone that's a Clubhouse party, for anyone that's listening, Clubhouse is like the newest like social media platform., but it's voice and it's audio only. So there's no DMs, there is no, like, there's no face video, nothing. It's literally audio only. And you have a plethora of different rooms and you can just jump in and jump out of rooms. And there's always moderators at the top and they will bring you on, I'm doing air quotes here, on the stage, which basically means that you can come up and talk and kind of pitch and talk about what's going on. And there's been so many different types of rooms. Like I walked into a room where they were pitching to Shark Tank. I walked into another room and talking about Overwhelmed Mamas and I even walked into a room with Tyrese and he was talking about God knows what. And I was just like, how is this happening? Wow. But yeah, I mean, there's so many rooms and it's just, it's, it's definitely, it's invite only. And it's for iPhones only.

So definitely 3 invitations that I can like give away. So if anybody wants an invite, like hit me up and I'll get you in there. I don't even know how to send them. Like, I don't even know what to— I'm so— I gotta get with it.

I'll help you. I will help you.

I gotta get with the times.

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I have to figure out Instagram Reels. So maybe in exchange you can figure out how those Reels work on Instagram.

Oh, I love Reels. Like, there's no telling what will happen if I like pull open the reels. I have no idea what it's going to come up, but it's like, who knows what's going to be done with it. Like, it's, it's fun. It's so much fun.

Yeah. Well, thank you. We're digressing so much, but thank you. This has been amazing. This has been so much fun.

Awesome. Thank you so much, Shandrae. I'm so glad that you came on today. Y'all go find her, soak up all of her goodness at Once Upon a Task. Ask on Instagram, on Insta, or on Clubhouse and go chat there. So thank you so much, Andre, and we will see you all next time on the Aligned Coach Podcast.

Bye.