#22: What it REALLY means to tap into your Higher Self with Jacqui Hoitingh

So when I'm out walking and I'm, oh wow, look at that tree and the water, and I'm feeling great, and I get little robins every day come to visit me, and that's my higher self.

All right, hello everyone, welcome back to the Aligned Coach Podcast. It is Lindsay, your host, and I have an amazing woman here. Um, she is—

she's amazing.

We just met actually. We met on the inner— the interwebs a few weeks ago, and now she's here today. She's going to share some really awesome tips with us, sharing her journey, um, stepping into her power as a healer, as a lightworker, um, as a coach. And yeah, I'm actually going to let her introduce herself, but this is Jackie Hoyting. I'm so excited for you to be here today. Thank you, Jackie.

Thank you very much, Lindsay. Yeah, hi everyone, thank you for the invite for coming to speak to you all. I'll tell you a little bit about myself. I've been an instructor, a teacher for Bowen Therapy, which is a body alignment therapy. So it's all about— it's not like massage, very precise work over muscles, tendons, and ligaments, and it's all about getting the body back into alignment. But over the years, the more I've worked with the human body, the more it The body's always trying to tell us something. So often if someone had sciatica, I would ask them to describe it, and it's all the same emotions that they're not expressing. So the body's like trying to show them that, you know, this is important, we need to get all these emotions out. So, you know, it normally feels like restricted and Nerves, so they feel nervous, or, you know, because it is a nerve. So it's all the same words that the body's indicating for the emotions. So that led me to go on and work with limiting beliefs, because limiting beliefs are all, you know, where we're all held back in our business, in our life, in our relationships. So Couple of years ago, I did some pendulum work with charts, and I connect with your higher self, and they give me all the answers. So they'll tell me— I can go to my master chart, I can find out what's going on in your life without you having told me anything. Your higher self tells me through the charts, so I can basically find out what the, what the main thing is for you right now, what's going on, what you need to work on, and then I can clear it. I can find the fears behind that limiting belief and then clear them, and then I replace them with positives. And recently it's like it's— I've ramped that up tenfold, um, with this new kind of, um, technique where, again, with your higher self, but I actually, um, give it instructions to to help you to release traumas, events, things holding you back. So it's pretty exciting stuff. So the combination and that, and I put in my— I do distant work, I work over Zoom, so I can work with anyone at any time, which is ideal because I can't do my physical work right now. I can't teach, you know, I can't get to the UK. I'm from Scotland, but I live in Holland, and I can't get to the UK to teach in London, can't get there to teach my courses. So So this is ideal. So yeah, that's basically what I do.

Basically, I just basically change your life and like rewire your entire subconscious and tap into your highest self. No big deal.

Your higher self is there to help you with everything. And most of us, if we, we have to realize our higher self has a very high vibe, and we have a lower vibration. And unless we lift ours, we can't communicate with our higher self. So, and the happy vibe is where we, we talk to our higher self. You know, sometimes for people it's when they chill out and they do a meditation. For me, it's when I go a walk in nature. That's when I, um, that's when I will communicate with my— I talk to my higher self all the time, but that used to be the only time where— now I try to help people to realize that it's— if you imagine it's like a radio station. If you're stressed out and overwhelmed and, oh God, I've got all this to do, and you're on a different frequency than your higher self, and you'll never get inspired ideas on that frequency. So you have to raise your vibration and be happy and do happy things. And so when I'm out walking and I'm, oh wow, look at that tree and the water, and I'm feeling great, and I get little robins every day come to visit me, and that's my higher self. Oh, that was a great idea. So, so I tried to help people to tune into their higher self and I've just created a new membership area, a, to help people to do that. So it's all about teaching you about, you know, how to communicate with your higher self, all about your vibration, all about, you know, stop the negative self-talk. That's what you're putting out to the universe. You need to switch it all up. But the membership The goal of it really is to get your goals for the week. So it's done on a Monday and you'll set your goals for the week, but we do it in a reverse order. So what do you want to achieve this week? And then you write it as if you've already achieved it.

That is the coolest.

Yeah, it opens the mind up to— it thinks, okay, because your mind doesn't know the difference between what is and what you imagine. So your imagination is wonderful. We write it as if we've already created it, and then we go back, and then you write down the steps. What steps did you take to get these goals? So, and then you just start writing, and your higher self will kind of help in here because we get in a nice grounded meditative state to get you tuned in. And then I do all my mind work. I clear all the doubts and fears standing in your way. Plus you've got accountability because we're going to say, right, okay, last week you wanted to do that, and how did you feel about achieving that? And right, it was about 7 out of 10 stress. It's like, oh, I've got a lot to do and I don't know I'm going to fit it in. And then at the end of the half-hour session, you'll then give me a number, right? Okay, how stressful does How does it feel now? And it will have changed, it'll have gone down because I've got rid of all the obstacles in your way. I've also shown you that there is no obstacles, you can— this is what you can achieve. And so your mind actually just opens up all these possibilities and your higher self steps in to give you inspired ideas. And that's what we call, you know, instead of working harder, we're working smarter. And that's when you've got your higher self on board. You can just do everything like double quick.

Yeah, it's like you're using like your higher self to like bridge the gap. Like your higher— like your higher self is like, this is where you want to go and this is where you are now, so let's reverse engineer the process, tap into a higher vibration.

Yep.

Yeah, I love that. And then you're like cutting out all of the like second-guessing yourself and all of the busy work and like doing all the things that you think you're supposed to be doing. Yeah, yeah, that's so good.

Your higher self doesn't have any limiting beliefs. And, you know, you're saying, right, that's where I want to go, what I need to do to get it. And, you know, your higher self might— you might meet someone that's going to help you with whatever, or just fast-track you into some— who knows? It's quite magical what your, what your higher self can do. When I set out to do my my membership area, you know, other colleagues who were taking months to do it. And I'm like, okay, this is what I want. And this— and then so I wrote it all out, and within a couple of weeks it was all done. And I'm like, wow. I mean, I'm still—

that was really fast.

Um, yeah, because I had my higher self helping me. It was like, wow, who would have thought I could have done that? It's like, I thought I'd be months struggling with this, but yeah, yeah.

This, this is amazing work. I want to touch on, um, something that you said. You said, um, I like the way that you— the way that you said it. You said your higher self is like vibrating higher, and we just naturally as humans vibrate like at a lower frequency. So we have to give ourselves, um, like time, or we have to meditate, or we have to do that, we have to have fun, or we have to go outside and walk, like do the thing that like puts you in that higher place. Yeah, you get the inspiration, right? So that you can get the act, right?

Yeah, that, that's so interesting because I was like literally just asking my community like a week ago, I said, do y'all get the like the best ideas whenever you're not actually working? And is that why?

That's why, because your vibration's higher. You're ha— you need a happy vibe. You need to be on a wow, I'm really enjoying this. Things that you like to do and relaxed and not stressing and worrying about this or that, and that's when you get the ideas. So, and I know how busy everyone is, so I created this so that on a Monday you've got 30, maybe 35 minutes to do that goal setting for the week, but that's gonna fast-track your whole week. And then after that, there's a journal that you can fill in, there's magnetisations, meditations that you can do, and there's the odd like 10-minute self-care talk thing that'll just remind you, right? Okay, right, telling myself I'm rubbish at that is not going to— it's not. And you know, at any one time, right, okay, what am I putting out to the universe? Because that's what I'm going to get back. Whatever I'm thought— I'm thinking, that's what I'm going to get back. So it's a little reminder. We know all these things. We know we need to set goals. We know we need to do all these things and meditate. But this is going to help you do it. And it's designed to do it in like half an hour a day. So all of us scroll through Facebook, don't we, and waste so much time.

Oh yeah, when we're scrolling, yeah.

So the half hour, if you spent that half hour on you, then all the rest will all come so much quicker. And this goal setting is just gold, it's like Yeah, yeah.

I'm sorry, go ahead.

Well, I was going to say once a month I will be putting in extra, you know, I just did a training on fear of public speaking or doing lives.

Oh yeah, that's a good one.

I'll be putting things because I talk to your subconscious mind, I talk and instruct your higher self, looks back at what created all these fears and clears all that fear away. Away. So yeah, they're thinking, oh, what was I, what was I thinking? You know, why did I think that was so stressful? What, you know, I feel quite confident now. So, um, I mean, it sounds quite magical, but I mean, I've even cleared like real big traumas for people. Um, so yeah, it's all doable. Your mind can be, it's quite pliable. And it doesn't know the difference between what is and what's what you imagine. So I just get you to imagine the best version of yourself. So what I do is always clear all the rubbish out, and then I build it all up to really empower you, reinforce that, and I magnify it by 100 or whatever, and, and tell the, the mind, right, that's, that's where we are, and that's where we need to stay.

I love that. Yeah, I've done this before. Like when I journal, like I will write things as if they've already happened. Like, and then kind of like tell myself, of course, I, you know, make $50,000 a month. Of course I do that, right? Like, and just kind of like trick my brain into like knowing that, yeah, of course, you're just the type of person that does that. Yeah, of course, those things come naturally. So I love the way that we are taking these like rocks, right? Like these boulders, these like big— yeah, scary goals, these scary things that we have, and then we're having fun, right?

That's the secret sauce, really. Yeah, yeah, it is. It's fun creating it and just knowing that your higher self's there helping you every step of the way. They, they're just waiting to be invited in, but they really do.

So Yeah, I love that. So a lot of times, like, I talk about like spirit and ego. So whenever you like say the word higher self, because this is a word that gets tossed around sometimes like in the self-help industry and in the coaching world, so would you like compare— and because you're the expert in this, so like would you compare like the higher self like to the spirit? Is that similar?

Um, sort of. I always think of it— it depends how you think. You, you Body, mind, spirit, you've got all the try things. But if you think of your subconscious mind, who tends to rule the whole show, basically, you know, you can drive half an hour into town and think, I never even thought about how I got here. Your subconscious mind knows the way, it's just done it, it's just taken you there. So it hates change, absolutely hates change. It likes you to do the same things all the time, and it will remind you of anything scary that happened in the past. So it puts up these barriers. The minute you want to do something exciting or something different, then it'll remind you, or remember when you did that before and it didn't go so well, and then you think, oh, maybe, maybe I shouldn't.

Yeah, yeah.

So it holds you back. So that's what I do, I just get rid of that, that whatever that was, and we just get that out of the way altogether, and it stays away. It's permanent. It doesn't come back. So that's the subconscious mind. Then you've got the conscious mind, and then we've got the superconscious, which is what I would call the, the higher self, and that's attached to spirit, where, um, I can get information from the Akashic Records. We can go past life stuff. Loads of things all affect us in this, in this life.

Yeah, this human experience that we're having, right?

Yeah, yeah, totally. And, and really, I mean, some things are passed down through DNA, through your family. You know, I see reactions in my children that I can see they've come from my husband, and I think, oh, how did they learn that? That's not learned, that's in the DNA. So, and then you can have, you know, other family stuff. You can go back like 8 generations that can still affect you now. Sometimes when I'm doing my pendulum work, I've got to do like generational stuff, especially like over money and things like that, because people were poorer, like a lot poorer a few generations back. So that, um all these fears around money and money's evil and all these things. So I've sometimes got to clear that out of the way before someone will be successful in their business. Yeah. Or one I had personally was I was, um, personally quite scared of being too successful because then I wouldn't have time for my family and time for— so you've got to find out what these things are and clear them. As you said, it clears the rocks off the path to allow you to, to move forward and do what you need in your life. So we've all got different stuff, all of us. There's no one that hasn't got limiting beliefs. So, but knowing them gives you power. Knowing, you think, oh yeah, that does ring true. You know it's yours, but you hadn't thought of it. You hadn't thought that that was holding you back. But when I tell you what comes up, you're like, oh wow, yeah, Yeah, that's— and when I do the other stuff with the mind, it'll go back to the events that you'd completely forgotten about, but you remember them then. Yeah. And you're like, oh wow, that's, that's actually been holding me back all this time.

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And a lot of times it's like, it's things that you, like you said, like you don't even remember, or like you don't even realize what your subconscious is like blocking you from, right? Like, you have like this evidence, I like to call it evidence from your past. Like you said, like the third grader, like you get picked on in third grade, or like you fell on the spelling test that one time, and therefore, you know, you told yourself you weren't a good speller. Like, like we have this evidence from our past, and we don't even realize whenever it's blocking us, you know, same way with like the money beliefs. Like, for example, if I make more money than my husband, then it will affect our relationship, right?

Huge one.

And they are like so deeply ingrained in our DNA, in our thought patterns, like in our beliefs. We don't even know. Like, that is why I love this. I am so glad you are here to talk about this, about doing this inner work and like diving into that. Do you recommend like, what would you do like if someone had, they are not really sure what their limiting beliefs are? They feel like everything is still kind of— because I work with beginner to like intermediate level coaches. And a lot of times they're like, Lindsay, like, I feel like I'm doing all the things. Like, I feel like I'm doing the marketing. I feel like I'm talking and I'm checking the boxes. But there's a block somewhere, right? So how could they like find that block? How do you, how do you dig into the subconscious? To find what's stopping them?

Well, as I say, I use my pendulum. I can find often, you know, I've got things on money beliefs, it could be family blocks, it could be relationships, it can be whatever. Um, so I go from one chart to the other to the other to find what it is, clear the fears behind. But we've all got patterns in these fears. If I was to look at money blocks for one person and then something else came up in relationships, and something else with— I don't know. Often all the fears that I find will be 70% the same in all the different areas. That's your patterns, that's your programs that you're running day in, day out without realizing. And you know that they're yours the minute I say them, because I haven't a clue. I don't know my clients, I don't know anything about them. I just see what comes up and think, I hope this doesn't hurt too much. And they're like, oh right, yeah, that's mine. So, um, you know, we run these programs all the time. So once you know what they are, then you recognize, right, okay, that's that. I know what that is about now, so I can choose to react as I always react or I can change how I react. That's how I used to work, but when I only worked with a pendulum. Now with the Mind Stuff, I just cleared all that. So, oh, it's so good. There's two options, um, you know, A, finding out what they are. But usually when people come to me, come to me, it will be with a particular— something's going on right now and they're totally going round in circles, they're overstressed, they're like, oh, I don't know what to do about this. And sometimes I listen to to them and I think, I don't know what I can do about this either. This is really in my remit, you know. You know, somebody talking about, I've got a problem with this business thing, and I'm like, oh Jesus, you know, I can't go into their business, but their higher self knows. So I just get the information and pass it on and then let them receive it.

And they know how to receive it. Their higher self can receive it, right? Yeah, oh, that is so good. That is some juicy stuff right there.

Yeah, so it's cool. It's nice work. I love it, love it, love it. And it's so diverse. There's so many different things, you know, whether it's somebody just procrastinating because they're not— because that's why I started that membership. It's like, we're all, we all get stuck. Like you've just said, you're doing all the things, you're busy, busy, busy. It was like me, I was doing the same. I was working till 10 o'clock at night every night, and I'm like, Jeez, if I just asked my higher self, I could have saved myself all these months and all that hard work. And it's done, and it's done real quick when you— because they're the best workforce you can— because it just bypasses, it just fast-tracks you to wherever you need to go. They know all the who you need to meet, what you need to do. Just a wee idea pops into your head Um, so yeah, yeah, I have this download that came to me.

Um, gosh, actually there's been like 3 like big downloads that I've had like in the last week. Um, I had like this really huge thing happen. It was my Instagram got shut down and I was vibrating and I continued to like run my business and I, and things happened and I kept going forward and like, and I, you know, saw the bright side it, but it was like a huge— I was, I was vibrating at a very low level. Like, I'll just say that, you know, because it was just like, oh, it was a heartbreak. Like, I was heartbroken, you know. So it took me a solid like 3 to 4 weeks of me just like doing the bare minimum almost, and just, just working through that and like kind of sitting in it for a little bit. But I will tell you now that I'm sort of vibrating at this higher level, like I have had some really amazing downloads that have came through. And just, and I'm like, why have I been overcomplicating this the last month? Like, why has this felt so hard? And it's because like, now that I'm like, now that we're talking about this, it's because I had that rock, right? I had that boulder in the way. I was heartbroken about my Instagram being shut down because that's like my primary platform. And, and so that was like in the way, it was like clouding my judgment was clouding the path so the higher self couldn't bridge the gap, right? You know, so, so now I'm feeling like, okay, I feel clearer now, like I feel better now, you know. So yeah, yeah, I'm glad that we're having this conversation because it all makes sense.

There's never a coincidence, never.

No, no, there's really not.

Yeah, there'll probably be something good comes out of you haven't been shut down, there'll be something.

Oh yes, it has, it has definitely been good. Like, I've put more emphasis on other areas of my business. For example, the podcast. I have a really big vision for the podcast. I have some another project I'm working on. I hadn't really announced it. I have some really amazing things that I, that I did make space for, you know, that was able to come to me because of that happening.

Right?

So yeah, yeah, there's definitely like some, some good out of it. And, and I started a new Instagram. I have a much smaller community there. However, like, I— they're much more engaged. It's the people that carried me from the other page to this page, you know. So my mindset coach told me, she's like, Lindsay, this is just a big piece of humble pie. And I'm like, yes, it is. Yeah, so I'm eating some humble pie and definitely a bright side out of all of it. So, um, yeah, so I guess like, so from that place, like now that I can speak from that place, you know, whenever you're feeling like you're just like down in the dumps and you're like, ah, my higher self, like, where is she? You know, I guess for me, I just had to like sit with it for a little bit, you know, and just allow myself that grace. And that space to get ready to operate at that higher vibration.

Yeah, yeah, it's just being aware of, right, okay, what am I putting out to the universe right now? What am I putting out? What vibration am I putting out? Right, okay, it's pretty low. Well, I'm just gonna get rubbish back then, aren't I? So, right, maybe I better go and do something that's gonna lift my vibration. Put on a happy song or or your power song, or go for a walk, or stop doing whatever's making it worse and change it. Change your vibration if you can. I know that it's hard at certain times, you know, if you're really down in the dumps, really depressed or that, then it's hard. But, but whatever you can do to lighten, lighten your vibration.

Yeah, like, what do you have control over? You know, what do you have control over? I can't control Instagram doing that, you know. So I did have control over like what I did with my time and how I served my Community and how I showed up for my Clients. And like, those are things that, that do make me feel good, you know? So I really leaned into that heavily. Um, and yeah, it was good.

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Uh, okay.

Jackie, so this has been so good. Um, I know that so many Coaches listening are thinking, okay, I'm gonna tap into my higher self, like let me go take a walk or go listen to some music. That always gets me in like a higher space, like listening to music and like kind of moving and stuff.

Um, dancing.

Yeah, dancing.

You're moving. Yeah, yeah, yep, yep.

That always—

your higher self loves play, you know. Go and swing from the monkey bars or jump on the swings or do something crazy. Go and paddle in the water or Your higher self loves that and being creative, painting, drawing, whatever. Your higher self loves all that.

Oh, that's so true. So true. Have fun, have fun wherever you can. Otherwise, like, what's the point?

You know? Exactly.

This was so good, Jackie.

Okay. So if anyone listening, which I know they do, wants to come and find you, come connect with you, maybe check on this membership that you have that you just launched, um, where they can come in and reverse engineer their goals and and really like dive into this higher self and having support and accountability along the way. Um, where's the best place to contact you and to find you and like to creep on you?

Well, you can get me on Facebook and my profile's just Jackie Hoyting. My membership area is jackiehoiting.com. Very easy, as long as you spell Hoyting right, you'll be okay.

Spell it for us just in case.

It's H-O-I-T H-O-I-T-I-N-G-H. Hoiting. Hoiting. And my group, if anyone wants to join, it's all about positivity, keeping your vibe high. You know, you're not, you're not allowed in if you're coming to moan. No moaners, no. But if you want some high vibe and positivity, it's Extraordinary Sisters. Facebook.com/groups/extraordinariesisters. Shall I put it in the type?

You know what, I am actually gonna link it in the show notes.

Right, okay, I'll send it to you.

Awesome, we will do that. We'll link that in the show notes. Thank you so much for coming on, Jackie.

This is— this has been—

it's been a pleasure to just chat about our higher self and subconscious and this powerful tool that like we all have. We all have access to our higher self.

Everyone, yeah, yeah. And they're waiting to help you, so ask and be in a place to receive.

Absolutely. Thank you, thank you so much, Jackie.

No problem. Thank you very much.

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