#25: High-Performing Women and Childhood Trauma with Sorcha McAloon

You've got to recognize yourself, acknowledge yourself, not from a place of ego at all, but from a really true place of putting your hand on your heart and acknowledging, wow, I was there.

Hey, coach, my name is Lindsay, and I'm here to help heart-centered women like you build the money-making coaching business of their dreams. I've been coaching since 2019, and this pod is about So much more than building your business. It's about using your gifts to build a life and business you're 100% obsessed with. I went from working 50+ hours a week as a first grade teacher to building a sustainable business that replaced my job salary and gave me back 30+ hours a week of my time. Tune in to join the ride and learn from other coaches and experts along the way. Welcome to the— welcome to the show. Let me start over. Welcome to the show, Sorsha. I am so honored to have you here. Everyone tuning in to the Align Coach Podcast, I have an amazing guest here today. Her name is Sorsha McElhone, and she is a transformational coach for women. She helps them heal childhood wounds, childhood trauma, and I'm so excited to have you here.

Lindsay, thank you so much. It's such a pleasure. I was really looking forward to connecting with you and really excited about reaching out to your audience. Audience and sharing some of, some of my journey and story.

Amazing, so good. So tell us a little bit about you.

Okay, so I'm based in Northern Ireland, you can probably tell from the accent, and I actually, a bit of my background is I was a policewoman for 11 years and certainly had the career, looked like I had the life, everything going well, I was strong, independent, feisty, and and then my childhood trauma caught up with me and bit me on the butt, and that was it. I didn't even see it coming, and I started my— that's really when my healing journey started back in 2010, where I went from just everything falling apart, couldn't go to work, couldn't really function. But the worst part for me was the fear that it would always be like that, the fear that I would just live in this dark hole of like going through life with concrete boots on, that I just thought, this is it. I've blocked this for so long and now it's caught up with me and I can't put it back in the box. It's— I can't put it back in the box. And I had no idea how to cope with that, but I didn't give up and I found my way through and my life completely changed, completely transformed.

Yeah, that's beautiful. Wow.

Wow.

What a beautiful journey. So for you, it sounds like you sort of put these things on the back burner, trauma from your childhood and the things from your past. You had like almost buried them and then they quite literally caught up with you until you could no longer bury it, no longer hide from it. And in what— like, I know that that's the case for so many, so many women especially, like, in these— that are very highly motivated. I work with a lot of women that are very motivated, very self-driven, you know, hard workers, phenomenal women. But it sometimes— that, that, that high-achieving personality is actually like a manifestation of some wounding and some anxiety. So for you, what did that look like? Like, what— whenever you say it caught up with you, like, what, what do you mean by that?

I mean, I absolutely agree with you. I think that high-achieving women are driven to prove that they are good enough, to prove themselves, and to just nearly prove that their past, their abuser, isn't going to rob them, isn't going to keep them down. And for me then, what happened was it just sideswiped me. I didn't even see it coming. Coming, and I was floored. I mean, I just— I stopped functioning. I couldn't— I couldn't get up. I spent a year in bed just staring at the ceiling. I didn't want to get dressed. I just struggled to do the simplest of things like brush my teeth, and I really did, you know, it was like I had spent years and years of ignoring the flashbacks. I spent thousands of times a day telling myself the mantra, 'It wasn't that bad, it wasn't that bad, it wasn't that bad,' just so that I could keep going. And I didn't even know that it was that bad. I didn't even know that I was using coping strategies. I didn't even know, honestly, I really, I really didn't believe it was that bad because I was highly functioning. And I thought, well, surely if it was that bad, I'd be on drugs, I'd be an alcoholic, I'd be, you know, really, you know, in a very bad place. But I was, I was highly functioning. I was well achieved. And then when it sideswipes you, that's pretty scary. Yeah, that's pretty scary. Scary to be very functional, very motivational, very successful to nothing.

Yeah, because unlike if you were on drugs or you were like an alcoholic, you are almost not aware of it, but you are so highly functioning that you were so self-aware that it like was that much harder because you knew that you were no longer functioning. Like you knew that this was not you.

I knew there was something, there's something really badly wrong here. And I, and what terrified me was thinking, oh my God, what if I can never get out of this abyss? What if I never get back? What if I don't? What if I never get my life back?

Oh my goodness, yeah.

That was my fear. What if I never get my life back? It has— what if this has just robbed me now of everything? And really, it was like watching my life go through my hands like water. My health was deteriorating, relationships were just gone, and my career was slipping through my fingers because I wasn't at work, so I was getting into trouble there. And just everything, just everything just started to slip away that I'd worked for.

Wow, wow. Was it something that triggered that? Like, what did something trigger that change?

It was just a cousin had said, had just rang me up. It was the 4th of December. I was driving home from a training, rang me up and said, I've told an uncle of what happened to you as a child. And that was it. In that moment, my life changed. 2 days before my birthday, my life just changed. It just came crashing down around me. The secret was out. A secret I had managed to keep keep for 26 years was out, and I— there was no going back. I had— I'd lost control. I had no control of the situation anymore.

Wow.

And that's pretty scary after having been very good at keeping it a secret for 26 years. And you know, Lindsay, it's not even just this specific childhood abuse or sexual abuse or trauma that happens. Then it was everything. Then it was all of the traumas that I lived through growing up through the Troubles in Northern Ireland. Then they started to rear their ugly head. I mean, It was just like everything thought, right, okay, I'm just going to throw everything at you and we'll just give it to you all. Yeah, it was a really dark, bleak time in my life.

Yeah, all at once, all of it just out on the table and now you have to deal with it.

There it is. It was just like, wow.

Yeah. What did that process look like? What did, what did your healing journey— because I'm just to, um, skip to the ending here, everyone, uh, you are functioning and your life did not slip through your hands and I'm so glad that you're here with us today. Um, So, so let's, we'll go ahead and spoil that ending.

Yeah. It's like spoiler alert.

Yeah.

It didn't get the better of me. Yes.

We're out on the other end of it. Woo-hoo. And I know that, and not to say that there's not work left to be done because there's always more work and more things to go through. I know that through my own experiences. Um, but yeah, tell us about your, about your journey of working through that. I know the first year was like, oh gosh, poor pitiful me. And what am I going to do? And yeah, but after that, what, what did that look like for you?

Well, you know, I would, so that first year, The first year was a place where I wanted to die, but I wasn't going to end my own life, but I thought, "Oh my God, am I going to opt out of this life because I can't bear this pain?" And I remember, you know, I remember the doctor asking me, and I remember saying, "He has robbed me of everything. He's not going to take the last breath out of my body. I'm not going to give him that. He's taken everything else from me. He's not getting that." And I remember that conversation so clearly, and I did— that was it. Like, I remember going to my own GP, my own doctor, and I couldn't even answer her questions and she said to me, "Just nod your head or shake your head to answer my questions," because I couldn't even speak, I was just so hysterical and crying and oh my God, I was a walking zombie. So I was on the highest dose of medication, the flashbacks intensified, PTSD, I mean the night horrors were horrific, you know, it was all of it, truly and truly, everything was thrown at me. So you go down the route of everything, you know, the conventional therapy, the talk therapy, the psychotherapy, therapy, the psychology, you know, the analysis, reading books, I mean reading books.

Yeah, so many books.

You just, you know, it's like nearly there's a written criteria, oh check, I've done that, check, I've done that, and but I wasn't getting anywhere. I wasn't, I had the most remarkable therapists, like the support was phenomenal and they got me to that place where I could function and after a year I could go back to work, but I was— it was like I was living in a world where there was no color. I just was going through the motions of living, and my body was breathing in and breathing out, and I was like, why the hell am I alive? Why? What is the purpose to my life? Why am I going through this and alive? But not one to give up, or certainly not one to let things get the better of me, and I did, I very much did feel that way. I thought, you're not doing— I'm not giving you my life. You've taken 26 years, I'm not giving anymore, I'm really not. So just through so many, just a series of events, I went to Australia, I went for an angel card reading, she started to talk about other things and it just naturally, I was just led to different people. Yeah. And I then went to one guy and whatever he did, just energy work, energy healing, and within 4 to 6 weeks I was off all my medication and I remember standing at the sink brushing my teeth and thinking, oh, where's, where's my depression gone? Where's my— I was like, oh my God, I'm up and dressed and I'm functioning. It really was. I remember the moment. I remember where I was standing thinking, oh, I don't have to think. I don't have to think about getting myself up out of bed. I'm actually up dressed and ready to go.

Wow.

And that was it. It was just upwards after that.

Like, where's, where's that rain cloud that's been like following me around? It's gone. Where is it?

Honestly, it was. But I realized I had been living like that for a few days and hadn't recognized it, and then in that moment of brushing my teeth thinking, "Oh, I don't feel depressed anymore," where it really was that dramatic for me. And he kept at me and at me saying, "You know, you have to do this work. You're going to be phenomenal. You're gonna, you're gonna be able to help women in ways that other people can't." And I was like, "Hell no." No, no, no, I did not get out of my trauma and pain just to go back and jump into someone else's. Yeah, no, I was like, absolutely, I have a career to go back to, I have a career to go back to. But he kept on and kept on and kept on, and I still said no. I went back to my career, and the universe, of course, has its other ideas for us, doesn't it? Right? Yes, like, you know, Sorshe, you're not listening, so we're gonna give you another little, another little nudge. And I got injured, I got injured doing an arrest, I got injured and that really set me back and I needed surgery and different things and that was it, that was my police career over.

Did you know in that moment, were you like, oh, I see what you're doing?

No, oh no, no, no, oh no, no, no, I was, I was determined to get back to my career, I was like, I'm gonna have surgery, I'm gonna do rehab, I'm gonna, you know, I'm fit and well and no, it just was not for me and I, yeah, I'm medically retired out of the police and in between all of that happening, I went to England, I did training, I went to London and I did training and I trained and I trained, really if I'm completely honest it was to get this guy off my back who kept saying to me, this is your purpose, this is what you're gonna do and I was like, no it's not, I'm gonna say no it's not, I'll keep you happy and I'll just do the training to keep you happy. Yeah, that was it. This was just obviously the path I was to be on, and the universe found a way to— I mean, I was a bit stubborn and I didn't listen. It had to nudge me a couple of times very brutally, and that was it. I've never looked back. I know I have clients all over the world, and I love what I do. I love what I do. And yeah, isn't that a wonderful feeling?

You know, like, I wake up every day and I love what I do.

Yeah, yeah, like to waken up, like as I woke this morning and thought, this is my life. I can't— this, to where I was 10 years ago, this is unrecognizable.

Yeah, yeah, absolutely, 100%. Like you don't even— then this wasn't even like a possibility. You didn't even know that it was possible.

Yeah, no. And you know, when I used to read about these people who said, oh, you know, I work anywhere in the world and I have clients all over the world, I I was like, oh please, that is not possible, that is just such a marketing BS, you know. Yeah, it used to really bug me, you know, it's like obviously now because I must have wanted that freedom, you know, but subconsciously. Yeah, I honestly, this is just, I mean for me I was in my career and that's what I was going to do until, you know, I retired. I just didn't realize I'd retire a lot earlier, but yeah, I cannot believe how much the passion I have for what I do and how it never ever feels like work.

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And I love that, like, you, you know, it's through like these stories, and it's through our experiences of like how we get to help others, you know. So first we have to like deal with that ourselves, we have to work through it ourselves before we can help other people. But without that, we wouldn't have that place to speak from, you know, like we wouldn't have that experience to speak from. So, and that's what like a lot of like the work that my clients do is they're like, well, what, what do I have to give to people? And how can I help people whenever I'm still working through my own blocks? And then, and, and like, what I like to say is you only have to be like 2 steps ahead of the person that you want to help, you know, if you have the space to hold for them, and you are 2 to 3 steps ahead of them, like that makes it so much more attainable for them, you know, to know that, oh, like you did it. So like, I can do it too, right? So what would you say to maybe be someone that was starting out and maybe they've, they've got these life experiences and they're trying to come into, um, you know, helping people and, and they just know that like, okay, universe, you keep giving me these signs, right? Like you got, and I think I'm supposed to be doing this work, but I don't know if, if I'm ready for this. Like what was maybe some of the stories that you had to tell yourself during that transition?

There are a couple of things that really will always sit with me. No matter what, what level I'm trying to obtain, so whatever transformation I still go through in my life, whatever is the next level I want to create for myself, there are certain things that I talk to myself about and check myself in on. The very first thing would be self-belief is everything. Self— for me, self-belief about everything in life, it's everything. Because if you don't believe in yourself, if you don't believe in your abilities, your capabilities, if you don't believe in being able to recognize what you came through to get to where you are. That is crucial, really crucial, and it's self-belief for silencing that little voice that says, "Who do you think you are? But you know, you haven't— you still got this going on and you've still got that going on." You've got to silence that little voice through that self-belief and recognize yourself. You've got to recognize yourself, acknowledge yourself, not from a place of ego, not from a place of ego at all, but from a really true place of putting your hand on your heart and acknowledging, wow, I was there. I cannot believe that I was that low or that I was in that position or that situation, and I got myself out of it. Yeah, I am a lot more capable. Yeah, right?

Yeah, yeah.

But we don't give ourselves— we are taught not to praise ourselves. We're taught not to give ourselves credit, to not look at our abilities and keep capabilities and our amazingness. We're taught to, you know, "Who do you think you are? Dampen that down." And it's not from a place— yeah, and it's not from a place of ego. And the second thing is, for me, I have this thing up in my room. It's written on my chalkboard and it says, "It is always about loyalty to your own self-worth." That's beautiful. Everything is about loyalty to your own self- worth.

It's always about loyalty to your self-worth.

It is always about loyalty to your own self-worth. I love that.

Oh, that's beautiful.

If you are in a situation where you are disrespected, or you're in a situation and you put yourself in that situation and keep yourself in that situation, you've got to ask yourself, am I being loyal to my own self-worth? Am I holding myself to the most exemplary standard of self-worth for myself that I deserve? Yeah, it always starts with self-worth in all areas, you know, every— in your health, the clothes that you wear, how you look after your body, the nutrition that you eat, the exercise that you do, the people you hang about with, the TV that you watch, what you listen to, every— it is the simplest. It is in the micro decisions that your self-worth— it is in the micro decisions.

Wow, that's powerful. That's so powerful.

Right?

Yeah.

And you know, people got to think about that. You've got to think about, well, what are those micro decisions? Those micro decisions are as simple as, does my body need more water, or am I going to drink alcohol, or am I going to drink coffee, or, you know, a fizzy drink? Not all the time. I'm not talking about, you know, extreme discipline. But asking yourself what you need in that moment and having those exemplary standards so that you hold yourself with the greatest sense of excellence and self-worth and self-love and self-respect.

I love it. And like, does it honor yourself? Like, does it honor your self-worth? You know, like, if you're reaching for the cup of coffee, is it because you're honoring yourself and you've drank your water or you've, you know, you're just just, oh, that cup of coffee, you're gonna enjoy that pleasure. Is it from a place of self-worth? Yeah, or like a place of, oh, I need this to keep functioning, to go and go and go, right?

That's exactly right.

Yeah, so I think it's like, it's in, like, the micro decisions, right?

It's in the micro decisions. It's not about the big decisions. Your decisions, the big decisions that you think you have to make in life, you gotta make a lot of micro decisions to get there. So my morning ritual is when I go out in the morning and go for my walk, and then I go and get my, my cappuccino to then sit and do my gratitude and do my energetic work and connect and set my intentions. But that cappuccino is like, yes, right?

You're honoring yourself, right?

Because I'm honoring myself in that moment. This is my This is my silent time. This is my time. So yeah, so it's all self-belief and loyalty to your own self-worth. I love that.

I love that. So I think that that definitely trickles forward into the high-achieving women that listen to this show and the women that know that they have this gift to give to the world and they're trying to figure the pieces out and they're trying to find their community and, and trying to figure out what's the next next best move, right? And it is in the micro decisions. It's why mindset work is so, so, so important and working through those limiting beliefs and figuring out like, what is the trauma that I carry forth from my childhood? And this is something that like I've had to work with like a lot of women. They're like, well, I don't have any trauma. I didn't really have anything bad happen to me. Well, like trauma isn't like a one size fits all. It's simply like What has shaped you? Right? Like, it's like, what has shaped you, shaped your beliefs? What are they? It could have been, you know, your, your mom not reacting to the picture that you drew her and that just crushed your little soul as a 6-year-old, you know, like trauma looks different for everyone. So, so working through those things so that you can make the decisions from a place of self-worth, right, and from a place of self-belief. So that adds up to them, to the big decisions, to the macro decisions.

Yeah, it's a really— that's such an interesting topic that you've brought up, Lindsay, because here's the thing, in the world of trauma, they talk about small t traumas and big T traumas, and everybody has trauma in their life, right? Because that's the very human nature, okay? And here is the thing for your listeners to maybe take away from, from this call that might help them really understand this in their own mind. Between the ages of 0 to 7, all our subconscious programming is done. All of it. There is no conscious thinking. We do not have a conscious mind between the ages of 0 to 7. Therefore, there is no filter. Therefore, everything goes into the subconscious mind, and our subconscious mind interprets or understands or interprets or reads 40 million pieces of environmental stimuli per second. Per second. Right? That's the subconscious mind. So between the ages of 0 to 7, there's a lot of seconds in those 7 years of your life, and there is no filter. There's no gatekeeper of your mind, of a 7-year-old's mind, a 3-year-old's mind, okay? They will— that is why they are so good in the imaginary world, because they cannot tell the difference between real or imaginary, okay? They cannot. It's the subconscious mind doesn't know what's real or a lie or an imagination or a memory. The subconscious mind also does not know time. It does not know that your trauma happened 20 years ago or this morning or in the moment that you're thinking it. So in the moment that you have a flashback, in the moment that you have a memory, to your subconscious mind, it's happening there and then, as though it is as real as when it happened, when we consciously know it happened. So these are very important things to understand about our subconscious mind. But here is the thing: when your listeners will say, well, I, you know, I I don't have a lot of trauma. They are remembering it with the adult filter. They're remembering it with how an adult would interpret it. So here's the thing: if you were a 4-year-old sitting at the dinner table and you're told you're not getting up from that dinner table till everything on your plate is gone, you have to eat everything on your plate or you will not get dessert, you're not going to get that treat, you're naughty now if you don't take that, okay? So to a 4-year-old, if I don't eat everything on my plate, I'm naughty, I'm not a good girl. So guess what? As an adult, adult, we have to hoover up and eat everything we see, and then we have weight issues. Then we're overweight. I don't know why I emotionally eat. I don't know why, you know, I have to binge eat. I just, I can't, I can't just stop at one biscuit or one cookie. I have to eat the whole pack. And it can be as simple as in that moment when you were told that you were naughty or you, you weren't going to get what you wanted, you didn't deserve, you then learned I need to eat everything inside in order for me to deserve what I want, in order for me to get what I want. But we don't necessarily remember that as an adult until we start to do the deeper inner subconscious work.

Oh, oh, we— I don't know if you say this phrase in Ireland, but in the States, or in Georgia anyways, we use the word happy plate. Like, to make a happy plate is to eat all of the food that's on your plate. Yeah, have you ever heard that?

No.

Yeah, it's like, it's a very well-known phrase here. So I remember, I consciously remember as a child, make a happy plate. Like, did you make a happy plate? Right? And so that means to eat all the food on your plate. And so like, now as a parent, I have caught myself saying that to my 4-year-old. I have a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old. I'm like, did you make a happy plate? And then so I'll have to catch myself. And, and I think that children know if their body is hungry or not, right?

So it's like Well, what child starves themselves?

Right, right, right. So even if I think that my 4-year-old is eating like a bird and she doesn't eat anything, like, she's, she's giving her body what she needs. So I have to like catch myself. Did you eat all of your food?

Right?

I'm like, why? Why do you need to do that? So this is sort of off topic, but it's also the same in like the things that we are subconsciously training ourselves. And are we passing those generational beliefs down to our to our children, you know, into the generations below us. Yeah.

So, and it's also, you know, it's also, it conditions, you know, it's, it might not only just be about the food, but it conditions us that, oh, I must do this in order to get this. Yep. I must behave in a certain way in order to believe that I deserve this. So then as adults, we're completely blocked and we block ourselves from maybe something beautiful that we want something materialistic, maybe it's a loving relationship, maybe it's to be treated really well, maybe it's to allow ourselves a full weekend off guilt-free, but we think we have to earn it. We've been conditioned that we have to earn it, that it's something we have to deserve in order to get.

Yeah, oh my god, this is so good, that pleasure and enjoyment and fulfillment come after working hard, or after, like, overeating.

You gotta earn it.

Yeah, you have to, like, earn pleasure, like, you have to to earn to live your life.

That's right.

Oh, this is good. Yeah, you're so right. Wow. Wow. I'm just like mind blown right now, like all these pieces coming together. And I was just this morning, so I'm currently working with a mindset coach. And she is, we're going through a lot of like my childhood stuff, like the past 3 months, we've been working through this. And I've seen therapists and things before. So now we're kind of taking a different approach now working with the, like in a coaching, and she does like a lot of subconscious reprogramming and shadow work and things. And I was just this morning before our call, I was going through and doing some shadow work journal prompts. And it literally brought like a, like a visceral response, like in my stomach, the same response that I had as a child, like where my stomach would like get in knots. And like, I would feel almost like I was on a roller coaster. Like, it's like, like, like this anxious feeling. And it was so just like, in the moment that I was like journaling on these things, I literally had that feeling come back in my stomach. So whenever you said a few minutes ago, you said whenever you're thinking about it, you don't know if it happened 20 years ago or if it's happening now. And that was so true because that's literally what happened just 2 hours ago. You know, I was like, wow, there's that feeling in my stomach that I have not felt in so many years. So definitely some truth.

So yeah, so let me just share a wee bit with you about that. So our subconscious mind has no concept of time. It has no concept. So when we get flashbacks or when we have a memory, therefore when you're journaling, you are definitely going to be bringing up memories, and because your subconscious mind, you know, interprets 40 million pieces of environmental stimuli per second, that's why smells trigger us or the sound, the song will trigger us, or the color, because our subconscious mind will have taken in all of the information at the moment of pain, at the moment of trauma. It will be so aware, the temperature of the room, it will know. And therefore, when you were doing work like that, why you would get such a physical response in the body. But here's the other thing to remember, Lindsay. Human beings Humans are the only animals on the planet that can activate the fight-or-flight response through thought, through memory.

Wow.

Okay, so an animal in the wild, when you have a deer by a babbling brook drinking the water, and then the next thing something, you know, jumps out at it, and that's like, oh, I better get out of here, you know, with the fleas, and it's pump, pump, pump, go, go, go. It will discharge the shock, it will discharge the trauma from its body, and it'll go back to the babylon brick and it'll drink the water again. But it's not drinking it going, right, you keep that guy because something could come out of those, from those trees. It's forgotten, it's let it go.

Wow.

Human beings don't. We store— well, human beings, animals in captivity, and domestic animals will store shock and locked in trauma and on a cellular level in the body until it's released, until you work with somebody who knows how to release that from the body. Which is why if you don't heal deep trauma, and sometimes deep hidden trauma, if you don't get somebody who knows how to release that, that locked trauma and shock that's on a cellular level from the body, you will then be able to trigger a response in your body by sheer memory. You will be able to literally activate the fight-or-flight response in the body by memory. It is why when it comes to your stomach, you know, you've got your whole vagus nerve that runs to all of the organs that will give you that, that a lot of people will experience anxiety high up in the stomach, and that is what it is. It is the power of our mind remembering. It is the power of our thoughts remembering, and we We are the only animals in the kingdom that can trigger that fight-or-flight response and that adrenaline in our body.

Yeah, I believe that. After that journaling session, I drank some water and I got up and I walked around, and it was like I had to like literally tell myself in the moment, like, I'm safe, I'm safe, like, I'm okay, you know, I'm safe.

Like, it was like I had to So get her to remove that for you. Get her to remove that for you. Because when— because here's the thing, when you have to tell, when you have to convince yourself, here's the problem with that. It's like affirmations. That's your conscious mind, which is only running maybe, maybe if you're lucky, 5% of the show. And your subconscious mind is running 95, 98% of your programming. So you are trying to get the CD player to play a different tune, play a different tune, but you're not changing the CD.

The CD is still turning, right?

So Pink's playing in your stereo. It's a bit— okay, maybe, you know, Spotify, let's move with the times. And you're like, no, I want you to play Taylor Swift, play Taylor Swift, and you're shouting at it, you're shouting at it, but it's not going to do it because it's the program that needs change, okay? So when you're shouting, when you're telling yourself you're safe, you're safe, you're safe, but the trauma is in your body and the trauma is in your memory and the trauma is in the response It's gone. Yeah, you can tell me I'm safe, but that's not how I feel. Yeah, that's why we got— that is why I'm so passionate about what I do. You've gotta heal the deep trauma that's, yeah, buried under the layers.

So is that what you do with your clients, is that you like literally energetically like remove those things, like subconsciously?

Yeah, so I will work with my clients. So the first thing I always remove— there will always be shock, there will always be shock. Shock and disbelief. And this is a lot of things that therapists don't realize, because it's stored in the body without us knowing. And then, so it's removing that from a deep cellular level. It's then changing the programming. It's imprinting a new, a new empowering healthy subconscious programming that is aligned with what you want, because people aren't getting what they want in life and it's because their subconscious programming just won't allow it. So you've got it, you've got to reprogram it, you've got to imprint new and then we, we then teach our clients how to start creating the exact life they want, a life on their terms. So when the trauma has been removed and they don't have that heaviness and that block and that spending all their energy telling themselves they're safe or like, oh, I can do this, I can do this, we remove it from the body, then the subconscious programming changes, and then they're on the track to be like, yeah, now I'm on, now I'm on the right road here, now I can see the results coming because they're able to receive it, they're able to attract it and create it.

Yeah, now they've made the way for the manifestation, they've made the way for the affirming of what's theirs and the claiming.

Yeah, that's right. But believe in it, they subconsciously and emotionally believe it because their subconscious programming is aligned with that. They're not trying to convince themselves, you know, fake it till you make it. That doesn't work because your subconscious, you can't fake, you cannot You can't bluff your subconscious mind.

Yeah, wow. It's like trying to color over something. It's like coloring over color with a white crayon, you know, trying to take a white crayon and like color over colored marker, over black. Yeah, over black.

Yeah, exactly. No, you can't. Yeah, you can't. So it's— so you can— yeah, I love what I do. It's fascinating. Yeah.

Beautiful. Oh my goodness, we could talk about this all day. So, um, okay. So if someone wants to— first, I just want to thank you so much for sharing your, um, your journey and your expertise with us. I can just feel like your, your grounded energy throughout this and just see how you ground yourself and, and just really speak from a place of full-on knowing. So thank you for sharing that with us.

Thank you. You're welcome.

Yeah. Um, and, and if, um, any of our listeners, and I know that they will, if they want to connect with you after listening to this and saying, wow, maybe I have some things that I should work through, and if they wanted to connect with you, how can they do that?

Sure, and it's easy to find me. So my name, Saoirse McElhinney, and but also there is a direct link to my own personal calendar, which is lifefreefromabuse.com/apply. But my Facebook group is Life Free from Abuse or Sorsha McAloon Coach, they'll, they'll find me.

Okay, Sorsha McAloon on Facebook or—

on Facebook, sorry. Yes, you know, that's okay.

So lifefreefromabuse.com/apply. Perfect.

That will bring them straight to my calendar.

Yeah, that's beautiful. So I'm gonna put that in our show notes, so if you're listening to this, you can go to the episode notes and click on the link and it will take you to Sorsha's page. You can go and check her out on Facebook or Instagram.

Yeah, Instagram. And my website is sorshamacbaleen.com, and there's lots of video testimonials, so they'll get to hear other women's journeys and their experience as well. Yeah.

Wow. Oh, so good. Thank you so much, Sorsha. I have enjoyed this. Like, I feel like I have gotten a treat from this. So thank you again for coming on.

Thank you so much. It's been an absolute pleasure. Thank you.

You're welcome. All right, you all, we'll see you in the next episode of the Aligned Coach Podcast.