#6: Wynter Comfort, Transformation Life Coach & Life Designer

Just, you know, I had to learn to just allow it to happen and just, you know, it's okay. Be okay with it. Nothing has to be perfect and no one's setting the rules for me.

Now we have Winter Comfort here. Winter is one of my dear friends. She's also my client. And Winter, I just like love— first of all, I've loved watching your own transformation. Just over the past year and then especially over the past few months and like just to watch you step into this like leadership role in your business and in your life. It's just been a beautiful journey. So welcome, welcome on, Winter. I'm so glad to have you.

Thank you, thank you so much. I'm so glad to be here. Thank you for inviting me onto this. I really appreciate it.

Yay, yay. So like I said, Winter and I, I'm gonna cover up this thing right there. So I have known each other for about a year now, a little bit more, and I would just love for you to introduce yourself, sort of tell us about where you're from, what it is that you do, um, tell us your story. I don't know, like give us all the details, you know, we like to know. So go ahead.

All right, give you the—

give you the—

all the info. So my name is Winter Comfort. I'm actually from Michigan. I am a stay-at-home mom. Um, I actually started this journey because I became a stay a stay-at-home mom and I wanted to be home with my son. And I started my own online business where I was selling like comfy cozy stuff because everyone had already always told me whenever they heard my name, they're like, oh my gosh, you should sell candles and wine and comforters and all these like cozy sweaters. And I'm like, you know what, that's a great idea. So I did it and, um, I put it— I hooked up with a bunch of vendors and I got this this awesome website up. I put all this work into it and it just seemed to go nowhere. It just like—

wow.

You know, and I had like— I would have like a sale here and there and I would do this awesome little happy dance, but nothing ever seemed to really grow. So I started branching out and seeing like, what can I do to get this thing off the ground? And then I found this program that was the program that we did together. So yes, yes, yes, yes. Yeah, so I met Allie, we did the Path of Freedom, and then I decided, you know what, I'm gonna be a coach. I'm like, I'm gonna teach, um, self-care for moms because it kind of tied into my, uh, the little shop that I had. And I kind of sort of like changed it to more of like a self-care vibe, comfy cozy thing. And I was teaching stay-at-home moms how to practice self-care.

I remember it was called No BS Self-Care, wasn't it?

Yep, yep, that's what it was. And And I did that for, geez, probably almost 6 months, I think I did. And then I kind of started to pivot. While I loved it, it was just like, you know what? This is kind of falling flat again and I'm not really sure what I want to do. And then I started really getting into my own transformation and really digging in deep and doing all the inner work. And I started to blossom myself. And then it hit me one day like, holy crap, this is where I belong. And I want to show other people how to do this because I, even before I became a mom and I decided that I wanted to work from home, I had always struggled before in my own personal life and then my professional life. I just kind of felt like I was a victim of my own circumstances. And, um, after finding this program and really literally wanting to just grow my business, I found like this epic personal growth journey that was just like I had. It came out of left field, it felt like, but it was meant for me and I wanted to share it with everyone else. So I became a certified transformation life coach. That's what I am now.

I love it. It sounds so good. Thank you.

And, and then so I became a certified transformation life coach. And then since then I've just been growing and changing and pivoting and just adding all of this awesome epic stuff underneath this umbrella of transformation life coaching. And here we are.

Oh my God, I love that, Winter. And I just feel like this whole— it's an entire different air of confidence, of assurance, of certainty, just in the way that you speak about it. You're like, I'm a transformational life coach and I can do this for your life and I can help transform your life. Like, I love it. It's a total, it's a total, total, like, new energy about yourself and a new confidence in your business. So I did you like 5 years ago, did you know that you were going to be a life coach?

Hell no. No, no, I really didn't. I really didn't. 5 years ago, I really didn't see myself working for myself. I always thought that I would work for someone else because I was intimidated to work for myself. Like, it's so much work. It's how am I? I don't even know what I would do. Like, no.

No, you can see it as an option. Like, I didn't even see it as like an option really. Like, I started like a little ornament business, um, 4 Christmases ago, and y'all probably saw me selling ornaments on here on this past weekend. And it— like, I didn't even— that was like really my first taste of entrepreneurship. But I would say before that, I wanted to be a psychologist and I wanted to be a teacher, you know. So those are things where you have like a set pay, you have a salary, you go to work 9 to 5, you're off on the weekends. And that was really my goal. It was like, I remember specifically thinking whenever I, whenever I went into, whenever I changed from psychology to education, I was like, I want a job that I can turn off at a certain time. And that, you know, it's Monday through Friday and I would get summers off and all this stuff. And it's like, oh my God, could that be any, any more opposite than running your own business? Especially an online coaching business. Like it's the total opposite of that. So did you even think that it was possible? What was your— like, have you ever, you know, done any type of like entrepreneurship or any type of like business building or anything like that, um, before your website?

So what I was before I became a stay-at-home mom— so I, I went to college to become a graphic designer/web designer, and that's what I did. I started in 2011, and I was in the design world for about 5 years, and I tried to do freelance work. So I did kind kind of tried to work for myself, but I kind of wanted that same thing that you were looking for. Like, it was all paved out for you. They told you when to show up, when you got breaks, you know, it was just easy. It seemed like almost like mindless work. You just have to, you know, fill in the— you have to show up and fill in the in-between, you know. I just had to do what they told me to, and it just seemed easier. But honestly, like, I felt like I have I had no creative freedom. I didn't have— I didn't like the structure as much as I thought I was going to. It was laid out for me and I just had to be there. But honestly, I just felt so trapped and kind of confined. And here it is, I'm doing the same thing day after day. People are constantly telling me, oh, you have creative freedom. Show me what you want, but in this box. Just in this box. And I'm like, okay, I've had enough. I don't want this anymore. And trying to go out on my own and do it, it just felt like the exact same thing, but now I had more work.

So I know you have, like, you have power over how you show up. You're always adding these new tools to your tool belt. You know, you get to— and I like the, the saying that you use, like, you get to design your life, right? Like, you need to be the designer of your life. You get to create your life.. And it's like so much more than just, oh, building your coaching business. Oh, starting your own business. Like it's about what you dress in, how you show up with your kids, like how you show up with friends and family. Oh my gosh, this thing's gonna drop me. How you show up just day to day, like with regular interactions, like you are the designer of your life. And I think that like a lot of people get stuck in this, like in the just the day-to-day, like, normalcy. We get stuck in the go to work, come home, cook dinner, bath time, bedtime, wake up, go to work, you know, come on. And it's like, it's hard to break from that, you know. And I remember, like, I was— I had only been teaching for like a few months before I realized, like, holy crap, there's no way I can do this for another 30 years. Like, it literally made me sick to my stomach. And even though I had only been doing it for a few months in that specific job, you know, like I still felt it was hard. It was hard to think about leaving that, that cushion, you know, leaving that, like, that was guaranteed and stepping out on my own, you know? So, so what, what had to happen for you, Winter, whenever you realized that, like, okay, I'm going to do this, I'm going to start my coaching business, like I'm really going to go all in. What had to happen, like, mindset-wise the inner work that we, we call it the inner work, but like what really happens in that time?

So like you said, it is really hard to break out of those, that, that day-to-day because it's ingrained in you from childhood, watching your parents do it, your grandparents do it, like all these people around you doing the same thing. And it's just, you feel like that's what you're supposed to do. I had to get to like a rock bottom in order to realize like, I didn't want that anymore. I wasn't happy. I wasn't feeling fulfilled. I was barely getting by. I mean, hell, I filed for bankruptcy. I had my car repoed. I was going broke and I was just unhappy and I wanted to do better for my son. I wanted to teach my son that there was something better and I wanted to be home with him at the same time because when I started all of this, he was an infant. So I wanted to be at home, but I didn't want to feel like, oh, I am I'm just a mom now. And nothing wrong with being a mom or just a mom, but feeling like you're just a mom and nothing more, that's where the real issue lies. And I felt like I was just a mom. I didn't hold any more value than that. I lost who I was. And that's why I started the whole self-care thing. And then it was just like, no, I'm meant for something bigger. I'm meant for this life transformation, this pushing out all of the bullshit and finally accepting that I am meant for greater and I am meant for better and that I can help other people do that too. And that's kind of where it finally transformed into my head that, you know what, this is possible.

Yeah. And it's like there's no cut and dry of like, this is the way that it has to be done. So for you, you know, you started out with the website and you're like, okay, this is cool for a little bit. And then it went into self-care coaching. And so then you're helping stay-at-home moms and then it changed again. So then it went into, you know, this metamorphosis and like helping you crack out of like this cocoon that you've been in and now it's shifting again. So it's like there— and this is something that I want any new coach, any business owner even, to realize that like it— you're not married to your niche. You're not married to like the, the first time that you choose to do something. Like, you have like literally the rest of your life to go, and you can change at the drop of a dime, you know? Like, you can change overnight. And it always starts with just making up your mind and saying, yep, this is it, this is what I want to do, you know? And, and following, even whenever we don't have certainty, even whenever we don't have We don't know how to do it all yet. Like, like I was just talking to Dana after the show and we were talking about starting a podcast and I was like, yeah, we had no idea how to do it, but we're going to do it. You know? And it's like, you don't have to know all the pieces. You don't know exactly. You don't have to know exactly how everything's going to work, but like you just start somewhere and it will naturally evolve.

Right? Absolutely. And you have to remember that like, this is your life and it's your design. You can change the design as many times as you want and keep evolving it. And that's what I love about it is like, it is truly yours, and you can make it and morph it into whatever you want whenever you want to. Like, it is truly up to you.

Yep, I love that. I love that so much. So knowing— okay, so I only know this because like we've been working together, but you tell us like about like your story, like growing up, how you dealt with like these thoughts of like depression and like feeling really isolated, and like how the heck are you able now to show up online do live videos, like start this business. I know so many women, so many people that, you know, like they're afraid of social media and they're afraid of putting themselves out there. And it has nothing to do with like, oh, it's Facebook or whatever. It's because of like that, you know, they just like, they're not there yet, like confident-wise. So like, what would you tell them, you know, if they're wanting to try something new, or if they also have dealt with things that are similar? Like, can you just share on that experience, or what would you tell them? Like, what, what guidance would you give them?

So yeah, so I've, I've told you this story before and I know you know it. So, but so when I— there is a time where I was working at the, uh, and in an office and I literally— so we were in a meeting and I had been eating an apple and I was finished with the apple and I'm sitting there and I'm like, okay, I don't want to hold on to this anymore, but 'Like, people are talking. I don't want to be disrupted. I'm just gonna hold on to this.' Because I was literally afraid to just get up from my seat and throw it away. Like, it doesn't sound like a big deal, but in my head I was making this a huge thing. I'm like, 'Oh, I'm gonna be disruptive. People are gonna like scoff at me if I try to like make a noise. If I like— if I call attention to myself.' It was really just stay still until I saw someone else get up and realize like, 'Oh, it was no big deal. Nobody cared.' Like, maybe I'm now safe to do this. How did I go from, you know, being so afraid that I might disrupt a meeting just to throw away a fricking apple core, you know, nothing bad, to being okay to go on Facebook Live is I literally just had to do the damn thing. I literally did. I literally just had to like walk out of my head and take baby steps. Like it wasn't just like one day I'm like, oh, I'm just going to show up. Hey, It was baby steps, you know. It was going live little at a time. Like, my first live, oh my gosh, I felt like it was a train wreck. But the whole point was, is like, I did it. I was on there for less than a minute. I'm talking really, really fast and I'm like, oh my God, yeah, this is the thing, all right, bye. Right? I was so proud of myself that I even did it. I had like the gut to do it. And then it was just like going little by little. I started just putting my story out there just in a written post, nothing too out there. It's not too flashy, but it was still being vulnerable. Then moving on to maybe a prerecorded video and then, and then moving on to doing another live and testing it out and then challenging myself to, to do a live series and then just going at it. And each time I got just a little more confident and a little less nervous doing it.

Yeah. And that's anything, right? Like not just with going live.

Yeah.

For one thing, like me personally that I've had to work on is whenever people like in person, like in real person exchanges, like they'll ask, well, what do you do? Or like, you know, what do you do for a living? Where do you work? And I'm like, oh, I run my own online business. Oh, well, what do you do? Oh, well, I help new coaches develop their business. Oh, what does that mean? And it's like, I have had to learn like how to position myself with confidence because a lot of people, you know, I think that now, like, now it's starting to pick up and people are like, oh, okay, I get it, it's an online business, you know, especially from 2020 has been crazy and a lot of people have stepped into the online world. So, but I've had to learn how to like have the confidence and I've had to practice positioning myself, and I've had to practice how I say it to people. And, and it's the same way, like, with you going live and showing up on social media. Like, I've had to literally, like, okay, how do I, you know, um, just, just— well, I did that better, and next time I can say this so that they get it. And, and it's just like, it's a muscle, like everything else, you know. You get better every single time that you do it. So yeah, I love the way that— I love what you said, that I, I knew that I was talking really fast, and I knew that, you know, it wasn't that great, but I still did the damn thing. Like, I still did what I said I was gonna do. And that makes you feel accomplished, right? Like, that makes you feel like you're moving forward.

Absolutely. It's those little baby steps that you take and just keep going at it that makes it feel like you're, you're actually gaining that momentum to actually do the big thing that scares you the most. And it really helps with anything across the board, like you said, because I mean, I've experienced the same thing. Like, when people ask me, well, what do you do? And I'm like, How do I put this? I don't know.

I just talk to people on Zoom.

I just give them, you know, a little bit of advice and ask them why all the time.

Oh my God, that's funny. How does that make you feel? Exactly. That is so good. So good. Okay. So Tell me about how, how's it been like balancing your business with having your son home and like with your, you know, with your partnership? Like what is that like to balance? Because my kids go to daycare, girl. Like I don't know how you do it with your son home. So tell us what that looks like for you.

So that took, um, a lot of getting used to. Um, it was really different at first and I wasn't really sure like how I was gonna like get over this, but So before I started my online store, I was actually working in network marketing, and this specific company that I was with, um, one of the trainers was actually like— because most of them were stay-at-home moms as well, um, so what they actually suggested is to, you know, just add your kid into it. I know that, you know, you and I have really gotten to know each other, and you see my little man all the time. All the time. He's in most of my videos, he's in most of our trainings. Like, usually makes an appearance because, I mean, he is at home with me all the time. So I mean, occasionally like his dad is at home as well and he'll help me out. But for the most part, like when he's at work, like it just— it is what it is. I get him set up doing something constructive and hope that he stays busy. And if he doesn't, you know, it just— it is— it's just what it is. He's a part of my life and that's, that's just it.

And so I—

in my business is a part of my life just as his— like, he is a part of my life. And what if the two come together? I just allow it to happen. You know, you can't control everything. It's just, you know, I had to learn to just allow it to happen and just, you know, it's okay. Be okay with it. Nothing has to be perfect and no one's setting the rules for me. So if he, if he happens to show up, well, it is what it is. I get to see my little man.

You're welcome.

Exactly. You know, it's a treat at that point. But other than that, like, It was honestly setting boundaries, setting a time for when I was going to work, when I was going to show up in my business, and setting a time on when I was going to show up just as a mom, just have fun with my kid. We're going to start learning or playtime, whatever it is, whether it's nap time, cuddles, whatever it is. This time is for him. This time is for business. This time is for me. It was being very um, what's the word?

Um, you're just being like intentional, I guess.

Like intentional and having discipline. Having discipline.

Yeah, yeah.

With your— with your boundaries. Yeah, that was a really tough thing for me to learn because before all this, like, I was definitely a people pleaser, and that was my biggest like things that I had to overcome was being that people pleaser and always feeling like I was walking on eggshells constantly and worried I was going to ruffle some feathers or I was going to like create a little bit of riffraff somewhere.

Or—

but finally overcoming that and, you know, being intentional and having that discipline and setting those boundaries really was like the game changer that made it all possible.

Yep. I literally like— I know that I keep bringing this up, but I just got off of the other interview, so it's like like fresh. So we were talking about— we were talking about this exact same thing and how she does this. Dana did the same thing. She invites her kids into her videos with her, same thing that you do. And it's something that like I didn't even realize that I was doing until both of you have like said it. And I'm like, oh my God, I think I'm doing that too. Okay, that's okay. Um, you know, and you'll see Ellison and Atlas, like you'll see them come in here sometimes, like if they're home and I'm on a coaching call, or, um, you know, or like on the live Saturday I was selling the ornaments, whatever. Like you see Ellison was like literally half naked. Okay, when I'm like, Ellison, can you please go put some clothes on? Like, we're on the internet right now. And she's like, but Mama, like, oh my God. So yeah, it is, it's real life. And, and I think that that's good that you've just given yourself permission to just like, this is me, this is the way it is, like, this is all of me, you know. And then also, I like— this is something else, is that It's okay to, to have your— like, as a mom, we have a lot of standards that we feel like we're supposed to live up to. We feel like we have to give our kids exactly what they need, you know, right then. But I want to come back to this as something that, you know, we just talked about, was about, um, letting your kids wait sometimes. Like, okay. And, and now thinking about it, Winter, like, thinking about a lot of the calls that you and I have been on, how you're like, okay, like can you be patient? And like, you'll ask your son that, and you're like, can you be patient? Mommy needs you to wait for 5 minutes, and then I'm yours, and then I'll give you my attention. And like, I, I'm thinking back to like specific instances now of you specifically like using that language with your son and saying like, Mom, I need you to be patient, like, and then I'm yours. I have to do this right now. And it's like, it's okay to teach our kids to wait. Like, they don't have to be front and center all the time. And, and that, that's so true. And like, we don't have to feel guilt for that, you know. We don't have to feel guilt for having priorities and like building our business and doing this, you know, and, and creating, you know, time and creating space for all of the different parts of us, right? Absolutely.

Well, it's a good skill for, you know, your kids to learn, my kids to learn, you know, setting those boundaries. He sees that Mom has healthy boundaries, and that'll set him to set his healthy boundaries when, you know, the time comes. And learning to wait, because not everything in life is instantaneous, and you have to be patient. So I mean, it's a good skill for him to learn that, you know, patience is— patience is a virtue, and you got it. You got to learn to appreciate it.

Yep.

And you got to learn to have those boundaries too. So I mean, I'm starting it off young.

Exactly. Like, learn it now, because if not, life is going to be hard. So you better learn it now.

Yes.

If you— if, like, Winter, if you could go back and like tell yourself something, you know, let's say 5 years ago before you became a mom, and you know, you're like venturing into this like self-exploration, like the self-discovery journey, you know, you're starting to realize— I think I have the timeline right— like you're starting to realize that like the corporate world or like 9-to-5 job is like, I don't really know if this is my place, but you're not really sure what to do. Like, what would you have told yourself then? Or, you know, if you could go back and change something, like, I don't know, I like looking like in retrospect, what would you do differently? Or what would you have even like told yourself then?

Honestly, what I would have told myself then is stop limiting yourself and stop being so hard on yourself. Like, it's okay to think outside of the box. It's okay to try different things. You— like, this cookie-cutter way of life isn't the only way. Yep. We're not all cookie-cutter people. Like, life does not work in a cookie-cutter setting. So it's okay to branch out and try different things and stop putting a limit to what it is that you can do and stop being so damn hard on yourself because I I was. I really had to learn how to give myself space and how to just allow myself to try things and not worry about the result.

Yeah, I think that's so true. One of the reasons why whenever you start your own business, it's a ton of self-discovery, inner work, all that stuff. But one of the main reasons that I remember writing it down, I remember just really internalizing it for starting my business was because I wanted Ellis and Atlas to know that like you don't have to do life a certain way for it to be okay, right? Like if— and this is something that Daniel and I even talk about, like we say that like our kids don't have to go to college. Are you good?

Yeah, no, I was just— I seen something going on outside. I think there's a bunny or something jumping out. I was like, what is happening?

Sorry, it's good, just making sure. Um, like they— like we talk about, like they don't have to go to college. Right after high school if they don't want to, you know. Like, they don't have to do things exact, you know, the way that like society tells us to do or whatever, you know. If they want to go travel, it's cool. If they want to start their own business, like, it's cool. If they want to take a gap year, like, it's cool, you know. I like— the one thing that we always say is like, you can do anything you want, but you can't be an asshole and you can't do nothing, you know. Like, those are the two main things. Like, don't be a crappy person and don't be a bum, you know. So unless you're like a beach bum, and then like intentionally doing it, I guess. But I mean, and it's totally like, I mean, of course you want your kids to, to, you know, live up to their potential and do all these things. But then again, it's like, in the end, like, I really just want you to be happy, you know? I want you to feel fulfilled. I want you to, to, to just know that, like, you're, you're taken care of, that you're a beautiful person no matter what, right? So it's like, so, so thinking about that, like, I was freaking miserable, you know, in my job. Like, I really was. And it was like, I love the kids and I loved, you know, my co-workers and stuff. But I just— it didn't feel good. I'm like, is this the example that I want to set for my kids? Like, is this what I want Ellison and Atlas to think is normal? Do I want— would I want this for them? Would I want them to cry before school and after school? Like, no, you know. So I'm sure that that's a big motivator in, in what you do as well and then why you do it. Absolutely.

Well, you think about it like as yourself, you're like, okay, you know this is just what I need to do, you know, I can, I can get over it. But then when you think about it coming down to like your kid, your kid going through it, like it breaks your heart. You take it personally. It's amazing like how we don't think of ourselves the same way. We're like, oh, you know what, I can, I can deal with it, I can overcome this, whatever. But then when you think about it like from your kid's aspect, your kid going through that, it's like, no, not my baby, not my baby. Yeah, not my baby. And That was what really like kind of like lit that fire underneath me to like, you know, no, I want him to know that he can do whatever the hell he wants to do, you know. I want him— again, I want him to just be happy. And if that means like, you know, his life is gonna look a little bit different, and like, that is okay. He doesn't— there is no— nothing is written in stone, and he can, he can design his own life.. And that's what I want him to be able to have that power to do. And me staying, you know, staying put, staying comfortable in something that I know that I can control where I'm unhappy and I'm not fulfilling my life purpose. Well, that just wasn't cutting it. That's going to put him in the same path that I was in, on the same path like everyone else has been in and people before us have been in. And I don't want that for him. So I mean, if I'm— if I— it's one thing to tell him, but it's another thing to show him.

Be there. Yeah. So I can't remember where I heard this. It was either from a podcast or maybe it was a book. I don't even remember. Um, but it was about how we forget to see people as like children sometimes. Like we forget that everyone is like someone's son or daughter. So sometimes we have to think about ourselves that way, you know? So it's like if we are a son or daughter, what would we want for ourselves? Like, you know, it's like sometimes— I don't know if I'm— I don't know if I'm explaining this right, but like sometimes that we're really hard on ourselves and like we just have like this inner critic in the back of our— in the back of our head. We have this really loud voice that tells us we're not good enough or that we're not doing life the right way or we're not a good mom or we're not a good wife or whatever, we're not a good coach even. And then it's like, wait a minute, but like would I say that to someone's son or daughter? And it's like, oh, like I, I am that person too, you know? Like, I— how, how could I talk to myself in this moment that is more that is more encouraging, and it actually like wants the best for you, you know. Because in reality, like, if you talk to your child that way, like, they're not going to do as well, you know, as if you were talking to them and out of love and out of encouragement and out of, you know, um, acceptance. Even acceptance that maybe you're not that great of a teacher or whatever, you know, but like still talking to them and talking to yourself out of a place of love rather than like shame or guilt.

Yeah, yeah, no, absolutely. I, you know, I've never actually heard that before, but I really like it. The, the way I've always heard it, and I've kind of seen it, is very similar, but, um, is that taking that negative self-talk and basically like telling yourself like, okay, would I, would I say this to my kid? Would I say this to someone else? If the answer is no, like, that, this shit's toxic. Yeah. And you can't say that to somebody else and you would honestly feel guilty about it, or feel bad about it. Like, why would you, why would you say it to yourself? Because let me tell you, like, I remember doing an exercise where it was literally I had to say like everything that like I had to write down my self-talk and being intentional and thinking about it made me realize that like I was like honestly my own worst bully. Wow. And I didn't, I really never looked at it that way and never thought I was that hard on myself, but I really truly was. And then putting it in that perspective, like, would I say this to my son? It was just like, oh, okay, I'll make it. I gotta be nicer. But it was like finding that different perspective, it really put things into like, okay, this needs to change, this needs to stop, that's not okay. So I— but I like that, thinking that, because I mean, you're right, everyone is someone's son or daughter.

And I mean, what would you tell them to do, right? Like, what would How would you tell them to handle something? Yeah. So, Winter, if someone wanted to start their own business, if they were thinking about going into the coaching world, what advice would you give them?

Honestly, give yourself the space and allow yourself to fuck it up. Oh yeah. Never going to go well. I mean, I can't tell you how many launches that I was so excited about and I'm like, oh my God, this is going to be so great. This is going to be amazing. People are going to love this. And they went Nowhere. Nowhere. I heard crickets. No one wanted it. No one was interested. No one gave a damn. And it was really like, it brought me down in a lot of ways. And there was like moments where I was just like, okay, maybe this just isn't for me. Like I've wasted all of this time. But honestly, if I would have stopped there, I wouldn't be right here. I wouldn't be a transformation life coach. I wouldn't be helping people already and, you know, making a difference in someone else's else's life, I wouldn't have found that success and I would've just went right back into that toxic cycle that I was in before where I get really super excited, something kind of bad happens, and then I just revert back to just being comfortable and just being in a space where I know I can be in control of. So if you allow yourself to mess it up and just take it as a lesson learned and how you can improve. And, you know, it's going to be okay.

Yep. Just not— sorry, go ahead.

I was just going to say, just to allow yourself to do it because you know it's going to happen. And it takes that, it takes that, you know, that non-successful thing to learn how to be successful because literally everyone that has ever had success in their life has— you have no idea how many times they've failed.

Oh my gosh.

You have no idea because you never see that because they're failures. Nobody ever wants to show it. Everybody shows their highlight reel. But if they wouldn't have kept going, if they would have just said, oh, well, this is a flop. I need to do something else because I'm never going to make it. Think of how much we wouldn't have today if they said, okay, well, this just isn't for me.

Yeah, you're so right. And it's like, uh, another book reference, right? So I'm reading, um, The Million Dollar Women, and she talks about how every single overnight success that you see has been working in the background for 10 years before that. Like, there is no such thing as like get rich quick or like overnight success, or look at them, they're so successful, it happened overnight. Like, it's literally been their life's worth of— their life's worth experience, you know, the sleepless nights, the late nights, the working on the weekends, all those things. Like, it's going to take some hustle. You got to roll your sleeves up and you just have to be ready to eff it up, as you said. Yep. Yes. So good. Okay, so Winter, I have loved this conversation so much. If someone wanted to continue the talk with you, if they wanted to reach out to you, if they want to talk about transforming their life, um, manifesting the life of their dreams, you have a program coming up in January, right? Yeah. Okay. So can you tell us— yeah, tell us about that. Tell us what it entails, who is it for, um, and how can they get in contact with you?

So you can get in contact with me on either Facebook or Instagram. Instagram is @wintercomfort and my Facebook is the same, Winter Comfort. Um, so the program, I haven't even officially released it yet. Oh, but I'll give you, I'll give you some of the details. So what it's called is literally Life Design Master, a mastermind, and I'm so excited about it. So I have, it's something I haven't even like told anybody that I'm doing yet. It's quite like, I haven't released this publicly at all, but what it is, it is taking anybody who has dealt with struggle, who has dealt with this toxic cycle of basically getting excited about something experiencing that negative thing and just quitting and just feeling like they're in this constant cycle of go, stop, go, stop, and just feeling stuck right where they're at and stop attracting all of that negative stuff and start attracting the stuff that you want so you can finally just break that cycle up and say goodbye to it forever. So that is what that program is all about. And it's, um, I'm creating this supportive community to add to it. So there's just, I mean, it is Mm, so good. And I can't wait to share it all. So, but you got a little sneak peek of it today.

So, well, thank you for sharing that with us. We totally let the cat out of the bag. That's awesome. If y'all want to contact Wynter, um, for anyone watching this or catching the replay or listening on the podcast, um, definitely reach out on Facebook or Instagram @wyntercomfort. That's W-Y-N-T-E-R Comfort. Um, and yeah, winter is amazing. Like, we've been working together, you've grown so much, and I know that like the clients that you're working with now and anyone that comes into your path is just— they're just gonna flourish working with you. Like, they're just— and I love the little butterfly, like the butterfly emoji that we like— it's yours, you know, like that's your thing, that that's what it's like to work with you. They're just gonna like spread their wings and turn into this beautiful butterfly. So So yeah, thank you so much for coming on. I have enjoyed this so much, and I know that other people listening have also, um, you know, whether they're a mom or coach or whatever, you know, like, I think that it's so important that we talk about the real deal stuff, you know, and that we know that like we're not the only people that's going through this. Uh-oh, we're losing— okay, there you are— that we're not the only people that are going through these types of situations, and that like the most important part is to just start and to have, you know, like a community of people that are supporting you. Yeah.

So thank you. Well, thank you so much for having me. I really appreciate you inviting me on this and this has been a blast and I'm so glad we got to do this.

Thank you so much. You're welcome. We'll see you all later.