Brian Armstrong on the importance of disagreeableness if you want to do important things

If you think about companies that have gotten to really big scale, it makes all your problems look small by comparison. Okay, like. Like look at Mark Zuckerberg, right? I mean, the amount of negative news coming out on that guy on a daily basis. Right. What I've realized about a lot of people who I think are building important things in the world is that they've developed this, like, high disagreeableness muscle where they've recognized, like, they're not going to make everybody happy and they've made peace with it. Right. So they realize at a certain point, like, whether I do the thing that I think everyone's going to like or the thing that is more authentic to me, someone's going to be pissed no matter what. So at the end of the day, I'm just going to do the thing that I think is the right thing. And they. They've. They've leaned more into authenticity instead of trying to say what they think people want to hear. And that does require you to have some amount of thick skin, some kind of high disagreeableness, and then they can actually do even more interesting stuff because they're being themselves instead of trying to be liked. So I definitely had to grow through that. I don't know. I think I'm still growing through that. I would like to get to a place where you don't want to become, like, isolated to a place where you're not listening to anybody, because that's also really bad. So you need people who can keep you grounded, like your family, like your friends, whatever, and people who around you who will tell you when you're being an idiot or you're just wrong. So you don't ever want to get to a place where I listen to nobody. Right. You want to be around people who have your best interests at heart, then listen to them. Or people who've already done what you're trying to do it, like, listen. That's good advice. But a lot of the people who are just trying to take shots at you to build their own whatever in life, you need to build the ability to ignore them. And it's a real superpower to, like, care less what other people think, at least people who don't have your best interests at heart.