Mary Kostka, founder of Ohana ot, explains the five love languages while floating down the White River. She walks through each one with examples from her own life to show how understanding them can improve how you communicate with people you care about.
Hey, aloha, everyone. This is Mary Koska, founder and CEO of Ohana ot. And I am just floating down the White river and thought of one more quick tip I wanted to share. And this one is the Love Languages. So some of you have heard of them, some haven't. There's five love Languages. Sorry, I got it turned a little bit here. Headed down the river a little better. I do a lot of my best thinking floating on the river. So that's why I make these videos then. But anyway, isn't it beautiful? So if you don't know the five Love Languages, there you can go, you can look it up, you can Google it. And there's really neat tests you can do with your spouse. You can also do one with your kids. And it's really interesting to find out what their love language is because a lot of times our love languages are really different from each other and it really affects how we communicate with each other. So the five love languages, if I can remember them right, are. One is words of affirmation. Another one is physical touch. Another one is quality time, acts of service, and gifts. And so let's say your love language is acts of Service, which, that's one of my big ones. So it's these love languages will be how you feel loved, but it also can be how you feel hurt. So for me, acts of service, you know, somebody says they're going to do something and then they don't do it, I'll feel hurt where, you know, somebody else might not be a big deal. And it's. It's also how I feel loved. So when people do things that take things off my plate, oh, man, do I ever feel loved. That's great. Like, somebody cleaned my car out. Oh, man, I'd feel the love. So gifts don't have to be expensive gifts. It's just a physical representation that you thought of them. So it could be, oh, I saw this really cool rock and thought you'd like it, or I have a daughter that loves strawberry jelly and you're at a restaurant and so you pick up one of those little strawberry jelly packs and bring, bring it home to them. Just it's a symbolic thing that you thought of them when you were away. Quality time can just be that you are together. So you're just riding in the car together. You have a bunch of kids, but you only take one one with you on an errand. It can just be time together in any way. What have I not talked about yet? Where's the affirmation? Or just you know, they could be notes verbally, but, you know, if your love language is words of affirmation, you're going to be a lot more sensitive to negative words than the average person might be. Which one? Have I not gone over gifts, Acts of service, quality time, Words of affirmation. Physical touch. So physical touch, it can just be hugs, it can just be physically sitting next to each other.
