A man describes how breaking promises to himself—about drinking, eating, waking early—destroyed his self-trust and confidence. He avoided mirrors and photos, convinced no one could trust him if he couldn't trust himself. Keeping your word to yourself, he argues, is where belief starts.
Yeah. So my whole journey started not to get in the body that I'm in now. Like, it literally started to stop the negative self-talk that I was having about myself, right? Because of the way that I was treating my body and the way that I looked and felt in my body, I no longer was taking— looking myself in the mirror. I no longer believed my own word to myself. I no longer was, like, desiring or taking and leading my wife. I wasn't taking selfies or pictures with my kids. These are all things that I was super proud of, but for some reason, I wasn't displaying that. And a lot of it came down to the insecurity that I had. And the insecurity came from the negative self-talk, which came from a direct correlation of I constantly was saying I was going to do things that I no longer was doing, right? I'm not going to drink that. I drink that. I'm not going to eat that. I eat that. I'm going to wake up early. I'm going to— I slept in late, right? Like, so I think a lot of the mental health comes from not holding your own word to yourself. So, you no longer believe it. And if you don't believe your own word, how could you expect other people to believe your word?
