Matt Vaadi explains how your response to any event determines the outcome. He uses his son's room cleaning as an example: a sluggish response wastes time and breeds frustration, while a prompt one finishes fast and feels good. We see this clearly in others but rarely notice it in ourselves.
Ultimately, I started to understand that how I react, how I respond to events that happen in my life dictate the outcomes. I just went through this conversation with my son the other day. Event, "Hey, you need to clean your room." Your response can be one of two things. You can mope around, do it slowly, fuss about it, play when you're supposed to be cleaning, and then your outcome is going to be lost time, you're going to get fussed at again, and then you're going to still have to clean your room and you're going to be upset the whole time. You could have a response of clean it quickly, be diligent, do it well, and do it right the first time, and your outcome will be moving on with your day and going ahead and doing whatever you want because you got your big task done for the day. And so, you know, our response to events dictate our outcomes. Sometimes it's easier to see it in our children than in ourselves because— or just in others, right?
