1 Mar 2017 · 1 min
Matthew Hussey shares three compliments that make men feel valued: "You're such a guy," "I feel really safe around you," and "I feel bad for other women that I got you." He argues these phrases trigger protective and exclusive behavior by affirming masculinity and making him feel uniquely chosen.
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Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Do you ever feel like you keep attracting the wrong kinds of men? I can understand how frustrated and hopeless this must make you feel at times. All you want is a good guy who appreciates you and treats you well.
Someone who's a partner in all of.
Life'S ups and downs. But instead you end up with jerks. Well, you're not alone so many women can relate to. I want you to smile right now.
Because today I'm going to give you.
A simple way to get rid of the jerks and only attract quality men into your life. Before I give that to you, let's get into today's episode.
Today's topic is making a man feel like a man and why that is.
So important if you actually want to have successful relationships.
The first compliment you can give a guy, this is going to seem interesting because it's not even going to sound like a compliment. You say to something that he does, you're such a guy. Anytime you say to a guy, you're such a guy, he goes, oh, you're right, I am, aren't I? He likes that because he never he doesn't want to be associated with not being a guy, and he doesn't think of it in terms of, well, then I'm like billions of other people. He just thinks I like being manly. So you're such a guy. The next time he does something that feels like something a guy would do, just say casually, you're such a guy. The next one you say, I feel really safe around you. I like that. I feel really safe around you. Again, this is going to be a compliment that plays to his masculinity, but in a more serious way. Now he feels like someone who can protect you. He feels strong around you. By the way, the benefits of this are twofold. Firstly, he's going to like you more because he's going to feel like a man around you. And anytime a man meets a woman who makes him feel more of a man, he wants to be around that woman more because guess what? Not every woman makes a guy feel like he's manly. The other thing is, if you validate him for making you feel safe, what is he going to want to do more? He's going to want to make you feel safe. He's going to look for opportunities to make you feel safe as a woman. The third one. Now, this one can be said kind of with a wink on the first couple of dates, or it can be said much more authentically and seriously, in a relationship, you say, you're so great. I feel bad for other women that I got you. I feel bad for. I feel bad for all the other women in here that I get to spend this time with you. When you say that, immediately he feels like the most special guy in the room. And by the way, I know as I'm saying this, there are going to be some women listening to this, rolling their eyes. Oh, what? Like, I have to say to him that I feel bad that for other women that I got him. Well, he should feel bad for other men that he got me. Blah, blah, blah. They get very, very defensive. And what I'd say to you is, those usually are the same women who say, well, I don't like to build men up too much, because as soon as you build them up too much, they get confident and they leave you. Well, think about that for a moment as a way to live that you're like. The philosophy, therefore, is just make sure someone doesn't feel too good around you. Make keep them lukewarm. It's a ridiculous way to be. If you're with someone, make them feel amazing around you. I guarantee you it's a better strategy for keeping someone around than keeping them insecure around you. So those are the three compliments. You're such a guy. I love that you make me feel so safe. And I feel bad for other women that I got you or that I get to be around you. Enjoy. Go make someone feel special. I'll see you soon. If you want more information, go to howtogetheguy.com and I will see you there.
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