This is a podcast episode titled "(Rewind): 3 Simple Ways to Get Them to Call You Instead of Just Texting" recorded in November 2024. The content features multiple speakers including Matthew AI, who provides advice on improving communication in relationships by encouraging phone calls over texting. The episode also includes segments from other speakers discussing related topics and promotional content for Matthew AI's free masterclass on dating.
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Call me tonight. I want to hear your voice. You may think that seems a bit assertive, but it's assertive in a good way, right? Do you want to have a phone call tonight? That's not sexy. Are you sick of texting? I am concerned. Don't get me wrong, I like texting. I do. I'm not one of those people who says, you know, death to texts, but I do think that we've lost the art of getting on the phone. and we've sort of culturally been regressed to the level of teenagers in our communication, where the idea of getting on the phone and just speaking suddenly seems like a big deal. So if you find yourself in an incessant texting conversation with a man and you want to start building some real connection with him by getting on the phone, even if it's not getting on a date yet, at least speaking on the phone, Here are three ways you can do it. Number one, issue him an order. Say to him, call me tonight. I want to hear your voice. You may think that seems a bit assertive, but it's assertive in a good way. You're not yelling at him, you're simply giving him a directive, which is kind of hot, by the way. Like a woman saying, like telling you to do something, I don't think I'm just speaking for me, Jameson. There's something sexy about that. Call me. All right? Do you want to have a phone call tonight? That's not sexy. Call me tonight. I want to hear your voice. It's also got a little compliment in it. You want to hear his voice. Number two, call out the situation playfully. Here's what you say. Oh, no. We're in danger of becoming pen pals. Let's FaceTime this week so we can catch up properly. When you put this negative label on texting all the time, like you're in danger of becoming pen pals, which is not said as a good thing, you're associating negatively with texting and positively with the idea of catching up properly, in this case, on FaceTime. By the way, I think FaceTime's great because when you can actually see someone on a screen, it's the next best thing to a date, right? We see body language, we see facial expressions. It's real connection, upgraded even from a phone call. but if you're not gonna do FaceTime, at least do the phone call. Number three, call him first. Pick up the phone, you could be in a moment where you're on your way somewhere and you only have a few minutes, which by the way is a good time to do it, because if you can get on the phone and say, hey, I got going a few minutes, but I just wanted to say hi. That takes the pressure off of him because he's like, okay, this isn't gonna be a really long phone call, if that's what he was worried about. Takes the pressure off of you because you've given this kind of timeframe within which you can connect and catch up a little bit, and it just sort of liberates you to not overthink this phone call, but just pick up the phone and say hello. In doing this, you're giving him a license to do the same in the future. You're saying, I think a phone call is a completely reasonable way for us to talk. I think you should do it too. You're putting both of you at ease with that situation and showing it can be enjoyable. All this for a bloody phone call, Jameson. Now, I'm fully aware that we shouldn't have to think this much about how to pick up the phone and speak to someone. But here we are. There's a lot of people out there right now not speaking to each other on the phone, falling into the lazy trap of texting all the time. And you can sit there and complain about guys and the way they are and the way culture is, or you can create your own culture today using these three tips. Thanks for listening, everybody.
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