5 First Date Tips That Make Them Want You More | Rewind

So we end up giving either passive answers like, I don't know, I'm just playing it easy and cool and casual blah blah blah lie lie lie. Or we go down the other route and we're like, I will settle for nothing but a relationship right now.

Hey everybody it's Matthew Huss with the Love Life Podcast. I am excited to share this clip with you today. Let's get into it.

What is a date? A date is a trailer for the movie that is you. I'm gonna give you a few things that you can say that put forward the best trailer for your movie. And for those of you that think, I don't want a predetermined thing to say, that's not me, I just want to go out there and be spontaneous, you can absolutely to do that. But I challenge you to think of someone who dances. Yes, you can go and dance and not think about what you're doing, but the best dancers freestyle by putting together moves they've already mastered. Yes, they're putting them together in a different order each time. Yes, they're free-flowing but they already know the moves. So this video is just giving you a few moves. You put them together however you want. Number one, I love the movie La La Land. No, it doesn't have to be the movie La La Land. It could be any movie or any book for that matter. The point is when you express certainty about loving or liking something, it's much more attractive. And studies have proved this than using language like kind of and sort of. That kind of uncertainty doesn't make us attractive. And by the way, when you do put forward a strong opinion about something, be prepared to have fun defending it. The dialectic is one of the best parts of interacting with other human beings. When someone can feel that there's a little fun tension between you disagreeing and agreeing about things that creates dynamic conversation. And also I do actually really like the movie La La Land. Didn't know it was a musical Jameson until I went in there. Heard them singing, thought what an absolute dream, not just Gozo. Number two, I bet you'd be fun to do whatever with. If a guy shows you that he's got a certain quality, let's say he loves music, you could say to him, I bet you'd be fun to go to a concert with. In doing so, you both recognize a great quality about him, in this case, that he's a music lover, that he seems like he's passionate about that subject. But you also plant the idea of a future date in his head. It's the same way that if you discovered a guy was an avid learner, he just went on a cultural trip somewhere and he comes back telling you all of these amazing tales and facts about the place he went. You could say, I bet you'd be a lot of fun to go to a museum with. First, it compliments him on the quality of being educated, of being a learner. Second, what's going through his mind right now? I'd like to see her again. I wonder if we went on a date, what we would do? I guess we could go to a museum. A date within a date. Number three. Let's get one. I remember being at the cinema, movie theater to you Americans, and I said, that popcorn smells amazing. And she said, yeah. And then that was it. And I was like, Do you want anything? And she was like, Nah. And then we went to the movie. And secretly, I wanted her to be like, Let's get one. If you were on the pier, Santa Monica Pier, Jameson, they write your name on a little grain of rice. takes a couple of minutes, it's easy, it's cheap. If he was like, oh look, they're writing names on rice and you're like, let's get one. This is really a point about saying yes to the little things on a date, even before he does, because you might find that he's being a bit too cool and manly to say something, but secretly he really wants you, the feminine, free, beautiful energy to say, let's get one. Number four, I like the idea of a relationship, but it has to be the right one. Now on a date, very often relationships come up. Why am I not in one? Do I really want one? Is that what I'm looking for right now? And this conversation is fraught with a kind of intensity that scares people. So we end up giving either passive answers like, oh, I don't know, I'm just playing it easy and cool and casual and blah, blah, blah, lie, lie, lie. Or we go down the other route and we're like, I will settle for nothing but a relationship right now. And if you even try to be casual, mate, It's gonna end badly for you and that scares people. So we've got to try and find a middle ground where we state that yes, a relationship is something we're interested in but you have a high standard for who you're in a relationship with. Number five, this has been fun but next time could you please not wear that shirt? Because it gives you an unfair advantage. Now he wants to wear that shirt every day for the rest of his life. Could you please not wear that shirt? He's like, Is this an insult? I don't know where this is going. It immediately just, your brain is mine for the next few seconds. You're gonna listen to what I'm gonna say. It gives you an unfair advantage. Ah, who's gonna forget that compliment? I would remember that. That shirt, when I went into my wardrobe, that shirt would stand out to me. It would glow. It would have a halo around it. So there you have it. Five super secret Jedi Ninja moves to use on a first date to get more attraction, more magnetism with the guy you like.

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