1 Jul 2016 · 6 min
Matthew Hussey shares six opening lines designed to ease tension and spark conversation on blind dates. The focus is on playful, genuine approaches that work better than standard small talk.
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How to do it. Today, we are talking about blind dates. Now, in a normal situation, we go on a date because there's chemistry here. You're going on a date to find out if there's chemistry. So it's a slightly unnatural thing. We have to ease ourselves into it. But I'm going to give you some things today that are going to help you hit the ground running. And they're literally going to be things that you can say on the date that will help you have fun and also ease the pressure for the other person at the same time. So, firstly, let's start a little vanilla. Doesn't have to go too advanced in the beginning. You just say, my friend told me you're amazing at whatever. You're a rower, it doesn't matter. You're amazing at rowing. You have to tell me about that. I don't know anything about it that way. You're saying that my friend has already built you up. Tell me about that thing that she has told me about. Okay, so that's the first part. The second part, you can actually take this to a more playful place. If you say, I'm sure my friend has told you all of the amazing things about me, I actually feel a lot of pressure because I know that she will have, you know. Really? I know my friend, she's in love with me. She will have made me seem like a goddess. And I feel like there's only. We can only go down from here. So it's like a nice, funny brag, little sarcasm. That's a nice place to start as well. If he does something embarrassing on the date, this is another thing you can do. Let's say you were in the car and you were. He was, you know, you were driving to. To the next location with him and he parked the car crooked and he had a bit of trouble parking and he got a bit flustered. That's a nice place to introduce little teasing with him and say, you know, What? I get it. I'm even better looking than you thought I'd be. It's got you all flustered. I get it. Don't worry. I'm going to. I'm going to forget this ever happened. Playful fun. Another great thing you can say. Here's another cool thing you say to him. All right, you have to tell me something that my friend doesn't know about you. Because I want it to. When I see my friend, I want her to think that I've got to know you better in this one occasion than she's got to know you in the whole time she's known you. All right, so tell me one thing that she wouldn't know about you so I can tease her about it. Another thing you can say, and this is actually taking it to a more genuine place, you can say if. And this is obviously, if you're having a good time, say, you know what? My friend normally has truly bad taste when it comes to assessing who I might like. And it's actually really cool that she got it right. In this case, you know, she. I'm actually having fun with you. I need to give my friend a high five. I'm actually. She actually did good on this one. It's a nice way of being genuine and paying him a compliment, but you're doing it in a fun way. You're giving your friend a little dig at the same time as giving him the compliment. If you get to the end of the date and he is having a good time and he goes in for the kiss, then this is a chance to play with him a little bit rather than. Rather than simply going for the kiss. You can. You can tease him a little bit and say, oh, are we. Are we allowed to kiss on. On a blind date? Because we didn't really know each other before. This is. This is almost like kissing a stranger. You're basically, you could be dangerous for all I know. And he's gonna. He's gonna defend himself and go, no, no, no. He goes, of course you can kiss on. On this. You go, I'm not sure. I feel like you can. We could kiss on date 2 or even. Maybe even date 1.5 and let him convince you that it's okay. And then you can kiss him if you wish. So that's a nice way of playing and creating a little bit more challenge as well in that moment, even if you're going to go for the kiss. So that's it. The last thing I'll say about this is with your friend, if you're getting your friend to introduce you to guys and set you up on a. On a date like this, make sure that she is selling you as someone who needs to be persuaded to go. In other words, you don't want her going to her guy friend and being like, Jane really needs to go on a date with someone. Will you go on a date with her? That's the worst thing she can do. The best thing she can do is be like, oh my God, you would love my friend Jane. I'm gonna see. I don't know if I may have to twist her arm to go on a date with someone she doesn't know, but you should really, if I can make it work, you should go out with her because she's amazing. That way. By the time you arrive on the date, she's already done some of the work for you because she's raised your value by showing that you needed your arm twisted a little bit to just go on a date with someone you didn't know rather than he was the one that needed to be persuaded and you were the one who was eager just to meet a guy. So this involves everyone. I hope you enjoy your date. Go use these lines. They're going to work really well, but be playful with them. Don't take yourself too seriously. And look, blind dates are a little fun funny anyway, if you think about it, the whole concept is, is a little funny. So go with it and enjoy it and have fun. I will speak to you soon. Go. Follow me on Facebook. I'm@facebook.com coachmathewhussey keep up with me there and I'll see you in the next episode.
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