The episode opens with a commercial for Amica Home Insurance and Oikos protein drinks, then transitions to host Matthew Hussey discussing the concept of "frenemies"—people who are simultaneously friends and sources of negativity. Hussey argues that while occasional criticism can build resilience, chronic negativity is harmful. He outlines a four‑step process for dealing with frenemies: (1) express genuine appreciation for the person’s positive traits, (2) calmly point out the specific behaviors that are hurtful, (3) give them space to respond and acknowledge your feelings, and (4) observe whether their behavior changes; if not, distance yourself while remaining courteous. Hussey emphasizes the need for courage and pragmatism in maintaining healthy relationships. The episode concludes with a brief plug for a free video revealing three female mindsets that drive men wild, inviting listeners to visit his website for more relationship coaching content.
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Each cup, Oikos Triple Zero can help build strength for every day. Oikos, stronger makes everything better. Matthew Hussie here with Love Life. Have you ever wondered whether you should date more than one guy at a time? Every dating expert seems to have a different opinion on this. But what do guys really think about a woman who keeps her options open? Well I'll tell you how to get the answer at the end of the show. First let's get into today's episode. Today we're going to be talking about the subject of frenemies. Frenemies, by the way, I don't know where this word came from, but it seems to me to describe a friend who is also just not good for your life. Someone who doesn't support you, isn't there for you in the ways that you might want, puts you down when you tell them that you have good news, they're not really interested in hearing your good news. So, the question is, are frenemies good for us? Well, the obvious answer is no. There is definitely an argument to say that having certain people in our lives who knock us every now and again can sharpen us. You know, it can make us resistant to criticism. It can make sure that we actually don't care what people think, that we stay strong in moving forward in the direction we want without worrying what other people are doing. But the danger is that with a friend, you keep them so close that those, that negativity and that criticism and that cynicism can actually begin to affect us. And that's really dangerous. So how do you actually pull the friend out of the frenemy? How do you make sure that you get the best of that person? Firstly, tell someone what you love and admire about them, even when they're being negative. If you need to explain something to them that they're doing wrong towards you, Tell them why you're their friend in the first place. In other words, do you know what I've always loved about you? I love that you're so fun and carefree and when we go out, we have such a good time and you bring so much life to every party and you're just, you're an amazing person to be around. It's so exciting being on, you know, in this life with you and having you close to me. It's so exciting. Now you're gonna introduce the things that you don't like about that person. look, I love all those things about you, but I have to be honest with you. One of the things that is holding me back from spending more time with you is that you don't support me. Or it seems that when I express something I'm excited about, you don't seem to be interested or, you know, you, there was you. I, I feel like you, you sometimes put me down in front of other people, and I really don't like that. And I don't want to be around that sort of energy. Now, you're gonna let them speak at this point. Let them have their say, because guaranteed, they will get defensive and they will tell you that you're being crazy or that you're wrong or that. seeing things the wrong way. That's okay. Let them speak, hear them out, and say to them, look, you know what? Maybe I'm being a little oversensitive. Maybe I've got this all wrong, but that's just how I'm feeling and I don't want to feel like that in my friendship with you. That is a very non-confrontational way of having that conversation with that person. Now, what you're going to watch for over the coming days, weeks, months is does their behavior change? Do they actually now start to take a different approach with you? If they do, then you'll know your words had some effect and there's actually hope for that real friendship. If they don't, then you have to have the courage, and we all have to have the courage, to actually distance ourselves from that person. Doesn't mean we're not friendly towards that person. It doesn't mean we don't still love them or care for them in some way. But we have to be pragmatic in our approach to moving forward in life. And if someone continuously wants to keep us in the past and wants to keep us where we are, or even worse, wants to drag us down, sometimes we have to be brave enough to cut the ties and actually spend time with people who are interested in moving us forward. I find that too often people who don't move forward in life are the ones that are unable to do that or don't have the strength or courage. So that's it my friends. Beware of the frenemies and go have the conversation with them and be prepared to distance yourself if you need to. This is Matthew Hussey from Love Life. You can follow me at Twitter or Facebook at my name Matthew Hussey or go to my website howtgetttheguy.com and check out my blog which has plenty of videos and articles for you to keep your learning going. Thanks guys, I'll see you soon. 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