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NMLS 696891. We underestimate how many different things have gone into making us who we are and the special cocktail that that makes us. We are our own blend. Hey everyone, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life Podcast. I wanted to share this important idea with you today. I think you're really gonna love it. So check it out and let me know what you think.
I don't feel that enough people embrace being a bit weird. I think there are forces in society that are always trying to get you to conform to anything that's a bit out of the box, a bit strange about you. You do things a little differently. You don't really subscribe to that social custom. You're kind of made to feel either ashamed or like, oh, that's too weird. You shouldn't do that. You should just be very. Do something conventionally the way everyone else does it. And I feel like it's sort of. I feel like people need to be nudged to be more weird. What do you think of that?
I think everyone is weird already. I think the problem is we don't express it. I think it's not that people need to be nudged to be weird. It's that people need to be nudged to be vulnerable with their weirdness because they already are. Right. Everyone's got their thing. Everyone's got like those little things they do when they're on their own or the things they think no one else does or the things that they're a little quirky passions. things they geek out on. I just think that we're not very good at being vulnerable enough to show them to other people. But I do think that that's where those are the little things that often people fall in love with is our little weird things.
A lot of the frustration people have or the self-torturing, it's like they're just not being courageous enough to embrace their unusual idiosyncrasies or talk about them in public or put them out on their content when they like, if they put stuff on social media, they feel they have to conform, right? There's just all these like subtle forces trying to sand off your edges and make you be like, oh, I better just do stuff like everyone else does it, because they'll be weird otherwise. And it always feels like the unique people are more brave in their weirdness.
I just think that's your part of your unique value proposition is the fact that you are different from other people in certain ways. You're a unique blend of traits, a unique blend of interests, a unique, you know, people, I think we sometimes overstate how special and unique everybody is from each other, right? We're all seven billion people on the earth. There's a lot of similar people, but we underestimate how many different things have gone into making us who we are and the special cocktail that makes us. We are our own blend. And whether it's in dating or in business, representing fully the aromas of your unique blend are very important. because that's otherwise you are the same. How many personal trainers are there online? How many? A lot, Steve. How many coaches are there online? How many, you know, I mean, you name it, your profession, there's a million of you online. What makes you different? I often think it's interesting when people talk to me about, like, Matt, you know, I have many different passions. Which one should I go for? I'm like, Well, firstly, whatever it is you go for, whatever thing you decide on to do with your time, bring your other passions into that. That's the whole game, isn't it? It's figuring out what your, you know, Tim Ferriss in the, was all, you know, originally it was all about figuring out what it looks like for you to live a lifestyle you want. And then once you've figured that out, don't try and keep doubling up from that point, create that lifestyle and then enjoy it.
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And I think that it's the same is true of happiness is figure out what happiness actually means to you. Get very self-aware about it. What does happiness mean to me? And now let me put the blinkers on and, and get out of this mindset of constantly comparing my happiness to somebody else's and feeling strange that I don't seem to need that same thing that somebody else does or that chasing that thing doesn't fulfill me. It's very, very important.
Yeah, yeah. And that's where you have to, like, divert, right? You have to get out of copying people or thinking they want that car, so I want that car, or they want to spend money on this, so I must want to spend money on this, whatever. It's like, know your things, and then you can ignore the Superfluous stuff. That's the kind of your freedom you get is to ignore all the stuff that doesn't really matter to you and kind of double down on the, the things that you care about.
Before you go, the MH Retreat is happening again this October and we now have a date. It is from the 9th to the 15th. It's taking place in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. We normally have more tickets left by this stage. There's less than normal, so if you know you want to come, if you want to do that deep work that is going to allow you to have a successful love life and be happy in yourself, yourself. You need to be there with us. Go to mhrtrait.com to get your ticket and to find out all about the event. I really do hope to see you there in October so that we can spend six days together in person. Thank you.
