18 Jul 2025 · 7 min
Sam shares four moves for the first two weeks: stick to real dates, not Netflix and chill; contribute small gestures like buying popcorn; show genuine excitement; use phone calls instead of endless texts. These signal you're serious and set the tone for what comes next.
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Whatever it is getting excited about, it sends a message to the person you're with. I am a fun person to do life with. The first two weeks of attraction are really really important because if we don't make a great impression there, no one cares how great we're going to be in week four or month six. So here are four things you can do to hook somebody in the first two weeks. Number one, have a real dates only policy. It is quite common these days as you know, for a guy to attempt the Netflix and chill date before he's earned it. So when a guy says to hey, do you want to come over later tonight? We can order in and snuggle. What I want you to send him is as much as I like a snuggle, I prefer to get out into the world with someone first. Keeps it interesting. Number two, buy the popcorn. Look, I don't know if you think it's a guy's job to pay for the date or not, but even if you do, there is an awful mistake that so many people make that relates to what I talk about here. Let me tell you what means something to a guy trying that means something to a guy. When he feels that you're not even trying to contribute. That's when he feels used. Because any guy who's really confident and self respecting, if the woman never is even trying to contribute, he feels like he's being taken advantage of. And it has nothing to do with money. It has to do with the lack of gesture. Gestures matter. It doesn't matter if he bought the movie and dinner that night. You just getting the popcorn or whatever the equivalent is on the date you're on says to him, firstly, I don't take you for granted and secondly, I'm sending you a subtle message that I am a team player. Number three, get excited about the little things. Being cool isn't about indifference. It's not about showing up with a been there, done that attitude. I've done it all before. Nothing impresses me. Cool is passion. Cool is getting excited and about the little stuff. It doesn't even have to be the big stuff. It could be the place that he took you to. It could be the meal that you're eating and there's something on the menu you're really excited about. It could just be a great cup of coffee. Whatever it is getting excited about it sends a message to the person you're with. I am a fun person to do life with. I know that anytime I've been with somebody who gets excited about things, I start thinking of the long list of things that I want to do with them next because I can't wait to experience their reaction to it. Make your reaction to things something somebody wants to experience. Number four Be a grown up and pick up the phone. So annoying waiting for people to text back. I wish someone would invent an app that actually allowed you to speak in real time. Oh wait, Alexander Graham Bell already did. Now I know that already people are probably seething hearing this message because you're saying the problem is with men, they're the ones who don't pick up the phone anymore. They're the ones who always text, who don't bother with the old school ways of talking. To this I say to you, lead by example. I'm not saying you're the one who should call the guy all the time, but what I am saying is the first call you make to a guy sets a precedent. It sets a standard. It lets him know that you are an adult and if he wants to date you, he's going to have to have an adult relationship with you. So when you want to invite him to something, let's say you've been on two dates and on the third date you want to invite him to something, pick up the phone and invite him. Let's say that you're on your way home from work and you're walking and you have five minutes to spare, pick up the phone and say hi to him. That moment where you speak to him on the phone tells him the standard you expect from him in return. And it also gives him a license to call you because many guys don't even know that they can or they should. When you call him, it tells him it's also okay for you to call me. I just held a massive event on confidence called the 30 day confidence challenge. This is an event where I gave five missions for people all across the world. We had thousands of people show up and over 30 days we're going to be going through these missions together that are specifically designed from 17 years of my working with people in their confidence in their lives to improve our confidence in 30 short days. Now, if you missed the live session that I did, it's not too late. You can still watch it for free by going to mhreplay.com and for registering for the 30 day confidence challenge. You'll also get access to the private, free community that we have inside the Love Life app, where we have a special space that is specifically designed for everyone going through the challenge. That means that you're not too late. You can still go with us on this 30 day journey. You haven't missed it. You're like Scrooge on Christmas morning. Christmas came. It's here. You didn't miss it. Go and watch the live session@mhreplay.com and by registering, you'll also get access to the community. It.
