In this Love Life podcast episode, host Matthew Hussey addresses the common experience of a man suddenly stopping communication, reassuring listeners it’s not their fault and offering concrete strategies to rekindle his interest. He begins by posing the problem of “cold texting,” then answers a listener question about how to get a man to ask her out, illustrating his point with a personal hotel lobby story where a simple line—“Where are you guys going?”—sparked an unexpected social connection. Hussey emphasizes the “one millimeter” principle: a tiny extra effort can dramatically shift one’s love life without overhauling identity. He concludes by promoting a free guide titled “Nine Magic Texts No Man Can Resist,” encouraging listeners to copy‑paste these messages to get back into a man’s mind, and directs them to lovelifepodcast.com/texts for the download.
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Welcome to Love Life. I'm Matthew Hussey and I am really excited about today's show. But before we jump into it, I want to ask you a question. Have you ever been texting with a guy, maybe you've been on a few dates, when suddenly his texts stop cold? One minute you're flirting back and forth late into the night, and the next minute he disappears into thin air. It's not your fault. Guys do this all the time. The question is, what can you do about it? Well, I can tell you exactly what to say to reignite his interest after he's gone cold. Stay with me until the end of the show and I will tell you. We have a question today from Ashley. I am 26, have a good job, and I always hold my head up, smiling to attract everyone, letting them know that I'm a personable individual. But how do you get the man to actually ask you out, show interest in you and make an effort? Good question, Ashley. Here's the thing. Just because you're smiling at men, it doesn't mean they're going to rush over to talk to you. I know that I talk a lot about, in my book, I talk a lot about smiling and eye contact and how important those things are, but that doesn't mean that those things alone are going to guarantee guys come over. In fact, there are many guys that are still standing around wondering if they should come over to you. I'm going to answer this with a story to illuminate. I was in a hotel recently and I was with a few friends of mine. We were walking through the lobby of the hotel and as we were walking through, there were a group of women walking in the opposite direction. Now, as they walked past, we each of us made eye contact. I remember making eye contact with the woman leading the pack. And we looked at each other for a prolonged period of time before passing each other. Now, I can honestly say that we, as a group, we wanted to talk to them. We wanted to see what they were up to and what's going on. But we kept walking. Does that mean we weren't interested? No. Does it mean we weren't attracted? No. It just means that we didn't take the opportunity in that moment. Now, I wonder actually how many guys have done the exact same thing with you. But the story doesn't end there. Here's what happened. One of them, towards the back turned around as we were walking away and said, and she had to shout a little bit because we were already getting out of sight. She said, where are you guys going? Where are you guys going? And all of a sudden, we did an about turn, look back at them, and started walking towards them. We walked over and the two of our groups started talking. We talked for about 20 minutes and then joined up and decided to go and have fun that evening to go out and just socialize. And we had this really wonderful, fun evening because we were out there thinking, oh, it'd be great to just meet some people and have a good time. They were, I'm sure, thinking the same thing. And we did. But the only reason it happened was because one of them, at the last moment, turned around and said, where are you guys going? By the way? Not a bad line, actually. So worth adding to your little repertoire of things to say in social situations. Where are you guys going? If you see someone leaving a venue and. And you don't want to lose the opportunity to speak to them, just say, where are you going? It's kind of cute as well, because it assumes that you have. It assumes that you have a right to know, even though you're. You've never spoken to this person before. I think it's really lovely and adorable. Where are you going? That's what they said to us. It resulted in an interaction that otherwise would never have happened. Was my point that if you put in an extra millimeter of effort, you can change your whole love life. It doesn't involve you doing a thousand things on top of what you're doing right now. It doesn't involve some giant shift in your identity. Just going 1 millimeter further than you normally go can mean the difference between more guys than you know what to do with. And thinking that no one is attracted to you. Okay. At the beginning of the show, I promised you that I would tell you what you could say to reignite a man's interest after he's pulled away. I've actually put together an entire free guide for you called nine Magic Texts no man can resist. Just copy and paste any of the nine texts, and you'll instantly be right back in the forefront of his mind. So ask yourself first, is this guy worthy of me? And if the answer is yes, try one of these texts out and let me know what happens. To get your free guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com texts.
