Not Enough People Say This on A First Date...

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Oh, Lordy Lou, how the devil are you? It is Stephen Hussey here, host of the Love Life podcast, featuring, of course, my wonderful brother, Mr. Matthew Hussey. So, today we are going to talk about some very underappreciated words to say on a date. Because, wouldn't you know it, a lot of us love to play it very, very cool when we're dating. And as a result, we kind of miss out a lot. Because we kind of end up not giving people the signal that we want to give them. We try very hard to put on a and sort of be a little too cool for school, be too guarded with our feelings because we're taught, hey, you gotta play the game and all that crap. So let me hand over to my brother, Matthew Hussey, now to set the record straight on this. Check it out.

We can go on a date and have a great chat with someone, have a great connection, feel like, oh, wow, this was fun. We got on really well. But that doesn't secure the next date. Simply having good conversation on a date isn't necessarily enough to create a second date or a third date. Because when we see someone romantically, there are two things that are really necessary. One is the connection that we often feel when we have great conversation with someone, when we feel like time just flew by. and the other one is the sense that we actually feel desired by that person. And I really believe one of the things that people do wrong in the early stages of dating is that they don't actually show any desire for the other person. They have great conversation. They can talk and talk and talk. Oh my God, three hours passed and we're still talking. But I still don't know if you find me attractive on that level. So how do you do this? Are you ready? It's revolutionary. Tell them. Tell them that you find them desirable. There's an indirect way to do this. Let's say there was someone that you were particularly attracted to because of their passion about what they do. You could say to someone, When I first met you, I thought your passion was really endearing. Like, I really enjoyed that about you. I mean, of course, I I also sent you a message 'cause I thought you were really handsome. But your passion for what you do, I just found really intriguing. I'm slipping it in there as if it's a side note, but what I'm really telling you is I am sexually attracted to you and thereby I'm communicating that A, I am a sexual being understated in its importance, by the way, and B, it shows that I have it towards you. you. I really believe that so often things don't progress because people might have a kind of connection but they don't have chemistry. And even a tiny thing like this can fuel chemistry where before there was only connection. By the way, if you like this kind of content where I give you very specific things that you can say to a person to create attraction, I have a program called How to Talk to Men which literally gives you 59 different things you can say to create massive attraction with the person that you like. Go check that out at this link and otherwise, I will see you next week.

Those of you who want to grab that program, I recommend you go start with the free chapter. So that's at getthefreechapter.com and you'll get a slice of the program for yourself to have a check out. And if you really want the full scripts of conversations you can have in flirting, attraction, getting a date, Commitment, having difficult conversations in a relationship, get the whole How To Talk To Men program and you can find that at howtgetttheguy.com Just go straight over to the products page and search for How To Talk To Men. Well, I'm glad we put this episode out as, you know, I've been a man who's gone on many a date in my time and Matt and I have spoken about this before where I think there is such a sense of people trying to scope each other out and not really open up or be vulnerable at all. And you never want to be so vulnerable as to be needy and overly persistent of someone, especially if you're not getting the signs back. But just someone knowing there's a reason you're actually on a date with them, feeling that sense that they think you're attractive. even if they say it in an offhand way, like Matt said in a video, it just makes such a huge difference to get that little spark from someone. You know, it's like when you're at school even, and maybe you hear that someone kind of likes you, it instantly makes you take a bit of a shine to them just because you think, oh, okay, they like me. Okay, cool. And especially hearing the specifics, if someone just says one hobby you do that they admire or the fact you, I don't know, started your own business or what you work, you work for a nonprofit and they, you know, they really admire that. Like even just saying I was drawn to you because of X or there was something I was drawn to in this photo or when you said blah, blah, blah. It, it just opens up some avenue for connection, for a spark of attraction, and it shows confidence. It shows that you're willing to express admiration for someone else. And again, I think there's such a weird thing where people have this competitive nature now and they're scared to show that they are impressed by something by someone else or admire something. I think that's all a fool's game. It's really, really important that, you know, even on the smallest level, someone gets that there's something you're interested in about them. and hopefully they'll show it back as well. Yeah, so go and try that on your next day. Try a bit of openness and see where it gets you. And you can email us how that goes at podcast@matthewhussie.com and you can email us any thoughts or questions you happen to have or comments on the podcast on your mind we'd love to hear from you, podcast@matthewhassi.com and as always you can subscribe or leave a lovely review on iTunes if you're feeling very generous or Spotify, all those podcast platforms. And that's it from your old pal Stevie today. It's Friday night and you know what? I have plans for tomorrow for a barbecue but Today I am taking it easy. Maybe I'll read a little bit of my book. Maybe I'll play a bit of Nintendo Switch, who knows? But Matthew and I are gonna be reunited very soon in the same room. So maybe, maybe we'll be back with a special podcast with us together in the same vicinity. So stay tuned for that. for now, I'm heading out. You have a lovely weekend. I will see you on the next one. Bye-bye.

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