Matthew Hussey explains why good conversation alone won't lead to another date: the other person needs to feel desired. He suggests embedding a compliment about their passion with a direct statement of physical attraction, like "I find you very handsome." This signals both interest and chemistry.
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And I really believe one of the things that people do wrong in the early stages of dating is that they don't actually show any desire for the other person. Welcome to the Love Life Podcast with me, Matthew Hussey. I wanted to introduce you to an idea I think could really benefit you in your life right now. So I hope you enjoy it. Let me know what you think over at iTunes if you want to leave a review. I very much appreciate them. And now let's get into the episode. We can go on a date and have a great chat with someone. have a great connection, feel like, oh wow, this was fun. We got on really well. But that doesn't secure the next date. Simply having good conversation on a date isn't necessarily enough to create a second date or a third date. Because when we see someone romantically, there are two things that are really necessary. One is the connection that we often feel when we have great conversation with someone, when we feel like time just flew by. And the other one is the sense that we actually feel desired by that person. And I really believe one of the things that people do wrong in the early stages of dating is that they don't actually show any desire for the other person. They have great conversation. They can talk and talk and talk. Oh my God, three hours passed and we're still talking. But I still don't know if you find me attractive on that level. So how do you do this? Are you ready? It's revolutionary. Tell them. Tell them that you find them desirable. There's an indirect way to do this. Let's say there was someone that you were particularly attracted to because of their passion about what they do. You could say to someone, when I first met you, I thought your passion was really endearing. Like I really enjoyed that about you. I mean, of course, I also sent you a message because I thought you were really handsome. But your passion for what you do, I just found really intriguing. I'm slipping it in there as if it's a side note, but what I'm really telling you is I am sexually attracted to you and thereby I'm communicating that A, I am a sexual being understated in its importance, by the way, and B, it shows that I have it towards you. I really believe that so often things don't progress because people might have a kind of connection but they don't have chemistry. And even a tiny thing like this can fuel chemistry where before there was only connection. Thank you so much for listening today. I really appreciate you being here. If you want something fun to continue with today until the next episode, I have a free chapter I'm giving away from my best-selling program How to Talk to this particular chapter is on flirting. So if flirting is something you want to work on, go download this free chapter now at getthefreechapter.com that's getthefreechapter.com I will speak to you in the next episode.
