Sex Life, Penis Size, Becoming A Mature Adult

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Hello everyone. Matthew Wall.

Let's just get to it.

Go on then. What do you want to do?

Well, I just want to skip all that intro crap that people do because I'm. I can't stand it on podcasts. All right, get to the point.

All right, throw it at me.

Have you seen the series Sex Life yet on Netflix? Not that you're the target audience, but is it even out in the uk?

Sex Life. It's called.

It's called. Called Sex Life. Yes.

No, I haven't seen it.

Unlike this podcast, it's called Love Life. This show is Sex Life. There's a. I was at a party the Other night? Yes. I was at a party in la. Cue all the judgment.

Wow.

There were a bunch of people there. They've just got a new mask mandate coming back this weekend. We've all got to wear masks again. Anyway, let's just. Let's just move on from that. I was at a party and it was for my friend Ryan. He's having a little birthday party and there were a group of women who were talking about the show Sex Life, which I have seen on Netflix. I haven't actually watched it, but it immediately had the. It immediately had that flavor of. What's that other show that was not. It was. Came out last year, I want to say, or earlier this year. What was it, Jameson, about the. It was like. It was basically porn. Soft core porn story. It wasn't really porn. It was on Netflix. It wasn't porn, but it was just a pornographic story. Do you know what I mean? It was a woman who got kidnapped by a guy, but then sort of ended up having lots of sex with him.

Oh, it was controvert, right?

Yeah, it was 365. Yeah, it was. It sort of feels like someone saw 365. The people who made 365 saw 50 Shades of Grey and thought, let's just do a series that appeals to some sort of sexual fantasy. I dare say Steve directed at women. Cause I don't, you know, men, evidently, from all of the nature of porn online, don't need a lot of story.

Right, Good point.

Clearly. You know, but on Netflix, it's, you know, 365 was just a lot of fantasy to get to the point of these two people that, you know, she really shouldn't like him. He's kidnapped her, for God's sakes. But, you know, he's attractive and he's tall, dark and handsome and they have lots of sex. Well, it's like the people who. People saw that. A different set of writers saw that maybe it's the same people and just thought, we'll make a show called Sex Life and it's about a woman in a marriage. I say this having not seen it, so I feel like that guy right now who's commenting on something he hasn't seen. But I'm. I'm not commenting on the show itself necessarily, and the quality of it, although if the trailers are anything to go by.

But no, no, I want your full. I want your full review of this show you've not seen yet.

No, but I heard. I was at a party, Stephen, and I heard people talking about it, and it was interesting. And it's here. I'm getting to the dilemma, Steve. Right. There's a show called Sex Life from the Trailers, and I'm just speaking about the trailers is about a woman who's in a marriage where she's got. They've got a kid. He sort of comes home, gives her a, you know, a quick casual kiss on the cheek, and then, you know, gives lots of his attention to the kid instead and then says, you know, I'll see you later. I'm going to go and watch the game. Meanwhile, she's got an ex that she's. Again, I'm just reading from the description on YouTube now, Steve. She's got sort of. They didn't say sordid. They said sort of a. She has, like an interesting sexual past. They didn't use the. The adjective interesting. They used something else that was a bit saucier. I can't remember what it was, but basically it was. The insinuation is she's had a mad old time with her ex, who's British, I think, and figures, you know. Right. And she's had a pretty wild sex life with him. But now she's in this stale old marriage with a kid, and I suppose she can't tell him that she's not happy. I don't know. I don't know why. I suppose maybe she is trying. Maybe. Maybe in episodes one, two and three, she does try and communicate like, hey, not happy. Can we. Can we spend a bit more quality time together? Can we work on our intimacy, maybe? The first five episodes, Steve, are about couples therapy.

She can't tell him. She can't tell him more. I had the best sex of my life with old English. English fella over there.

Right? Exactly. She can't say that. But then English guy comes back into her life. I don't know how, but he does and all. And in a trailer in the. They're at dinner together, him and her. Her and her husband and the English guy and his current girlfriend, I think, which is a weird scenario to be in. But she's now at dinner with. You know. Anyway, it all kicks off. That's all I know about the show. So. So I was. I'm thinking. I'll tell you my first thought, Steve. I keep thinking, you know how, like, there are great videos out there, different content creators make videos about, like, current things, and you and I basically never do. We just, you know, we always. We're always talking about timeless concepts. You know, we're. We're like an Ancient religion.

No, but at least now we've got this new feature. Matthew reacts to YouTube trailers of shows he hadn't seen.

Netflix trailers. Anyway. Oh, I've got cramp in my ribs right now. How do you carry on a podcast when you've got cramp?

Oh, this is all. It's all good for viewer.

So imagine that happened. I did Jay Shetty's podcast last week. Imagine that happened on Jay Shetty's podcast in the middle of it.

No. Saved it for us, though. Saved it for us.

So, listen, I'm at this party and there's a group of women and they're talking about the show's sex life. And one of them points out, like, what she couldn't just tell her husband, you know, hey, can we work on our sex before she went gallivanting off with Mr. British? But there's this. I suppose not. I don't think infamous is the right word, but there's a renowned scene now that they were talking about where the guy's in the shower and he's just got an enormous penis, which I was surprised they showed. Which I suppose it shows the inherent sexism in movies and tv.

Which guy, though?

Who do you think, Steve? Do you think it was the Bull Ring husband?

No, it's all Big Ben, isn't it?

Right, very good. So they've played, you know, so they've added to this fantasy. This. This. This pornography is essentially what it is. Right. It's pornography of the mind, actually, I suppose one at the point at which you're just showing an enormous penis in the shower, it might be starting to cross over into just. Just pornography. Well, no, see, there's the inherent sexism again, because we see women's parts on TV and movies all the time, don't we? Anyway, I heard this and there was guys at the party. It was quite funny because there was a guy at the party who was like, I. I immediately went. This is no joke. The guy said, I immediately went and Googled that actor's shoe size. He goes, Because I wanted to know if it was real firstly, as if, like, there just always is a. Like, you know, for sure from someone's feet size what it is. And if he was like a size 7, he'd have gone, oh, phew. Like, thank God.

And that Google has accurate feet sizes for all actors is suspicious as well.

Right? Yeah. We can't even trust Wikipedia on my height. Wikipedia had my height wrong for years. They're not exactly going to get my shoe size right.

Yeah, you're five Foot three.

According to Wikipedia, I was five seven for years. And I'm not everyone. All right, five' eleven. I could say six foot. But I'm an honest man.

Yeah, that is honest.

I always. Steve, I thought it would be good for someone on a dating app if you were 511 as a man. And if. If I was a man, which I am, and I was on a dating app, if you put, you know, 5 11. And then somewhere on the thing you could put, you know, why you should date me. Well, you know, I'm honest because I said I was 5:11.

That's good. That was good.

It's good, isn't it?

If I was 5 11, I'd use that.

Wow, what a little dig.

Stop. That is not a dig.

What a dig. So I. Here's my dilemma. Do I have to watch this show so that we can make a video on it?

Sorry. Okay. Do we have to watch this show? What were the women saying about the fact that. Were they like, oh, British man is so hunky, you'd want to go and have a romp with your ex? Or were they. It sounds like they were on the side of fidelity and commitment and figuring.

Out your relationship was a bit. One of them was. Was like a bit annoyed that she hadn't just had more of a conversation with her husband first. But that wouldn't have. That wouldn't have really played to the fantasy, I suppose, is months of. Months of couples therapy trying to work it out about feelings you've been having.

This thing sounds as well, very, very designed to provoke the sort of angry male community who feel like, you know, they're always writing these sort of hate articles that, like, women are unfaith, only as faithful as their options. And there's some, like, sexy guy, and as soon as he shows up, as soon as she's. He's higher value and has a big old boy down there, then. Then she's off. So it's kind of right. It's quite.

Steve. I always remember, it's funny how you look at things and you go, this is. God. Not to get too. Not to get too philosophical or sound too old, but it's like there's so much of what we read and see creates insecurities. Do you know what I mean? It might be in the value of entertainment. It might be in the way of an article. I remember when I was a kid, I was like 11 years old, just sort of nearing that age where you started to worry about things. One of them, your penis size. And I remember the Day I started worrying about penis size.

Really.

I was reading. Yeah, I remember it. I was reading an article in fhm. Do you remember there was that band, that girl band, Mystique.

Yeah.

In the uk. They were an old garage band.

Yeah.

And for those of you that don't know, in the uk there was a garage was like two step.

It.

It was kind of a sort of sped up something between hip hop and drum and bass on the register. And I used to DJ that sound a lot and I. Mystique was like one of the commercial garage bands. And there was the main woman from Mystique. She was really beautiful and I used to fancy her quite a lot and I just remember a cop. I was reading fhm, which, you know, I was too young to be reading FHM.

It was the 90s, it was the 90s lads mag era. The 90s, early 2000 lads mags. And that was sort of one of the. One of the sort of cleaner ones, but saucy. A little bit saucy.

But you could still read some source in there as a kid.

Yeah, yeah. They had sex.

Yeah, exactly like, yeah. Which every 11 year old needs, obviously. But you know, I went there for my, I went there for my sauce and I. There was a little article with her. It was just like an interview with the lead singer of Mystique and they asked her like, does penis size matter right now? This is a moment where she's going to leave an imprint on me. I think she's gorgeous. I fancy her a lot. You know, I DJ her music. What's she going to say? This is the ultimate verdict. And she, she, she goes by the way to I can't remember her name but apology. If she's a pod. If she's a listener of this podcast, which Steve, I'll tell you, this is more than possible these days because Rebel Wilson put out a story this morning about how she loved our last podcast.

Together, Shout out to Rebel.

She absolutely loved it. Yeah, we should, you should get Rebel on here, Steve.

That'd be brilliant.

I got. Yeah, well she's a, she's a listener. So Rebel, if you're listening to this, this is me putting public pressure on you friend to come join us. I. So, you know, it's possible that the lead singer from Mystique is listening to this but did have an impact because here's what she said. She said, well, if it's not big enough. I literally remember the words of this, Steve.

It was a great art, it was a great piece. It's a Great piece.

She said, if it's not big enough, how are you ever gonna reach those. How are you ever gonna get to those hard to reach places? She made it. She made it sound like some sort of cavernous cave of wonders. Some sort of different tunnels you could.

Go down, Some sort of online adventure game.

How are you. If it's not big enough, how are you going to get to those hard to reach places? By the way, she may have never said that. I've been misquoted in many a magazine and newspaper, so it's possible. She said it doesn't matter and that the writer then took that to mean what they wrote. But this was what came across and it. And it stuck with me through those teenage years. That's. That's how easily insecurity can be born. By the way, think about that now. Like, that was me at 11 from an FHM article. Think of kids now with Instagram disaster. Yeah, think of like if I was. Imagine I was 11 watching Sex Life. I'm not hearing it from the lead singer of Mystique. I'm seeing a guy with a third leg in the shower like Boogie Nights and I'm thinking Good Laws. Well, I suppose boys are getting that anyway from porn, aren't they? When they're watching porn. Where are we in this podcast? My point is.

Your point is what? Body insecurities stay with you.

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Love y. Well, my. I suppose my point is that these shows are great as stories. They're great as like. Like, they're like, you know, they are like that cheap magazine or a comic book that you're reading just for some sort of fantasy story. Yeah, they're probably not. They're probably not something we should take many lessons from. You know, what? Why I. I'll tell you why I started this three hours ago as an anecdote was because I was thinking, do I have to watch this show so that we make a video on it? Because I think a lot of people who have seen it would really like us to make a video on it. But I don't want to have to watch the show, and probably now no one else does either.

Well, look, I'll take it on myself to watch the show if you want, and feed you some thoughts for as long as I can be bothered to watch a show.

Well, thanks, Steve.

It's. Yeah.

Steve, can I say one other thing?

Yeah.

I'm interested in your opinion on this. Oh, go on. You say.

I was just gonna say.

Change directions.

I was just gonna say on this topic, I do. I see Instagram a little bit that way you're talking about as well, where I treat that. A lot of people say that Instagram and things makes them feel insecure. You've got guys with like, rippling six packs. You got women who look like glamour models and they're kind of everywhere.

Right.

But I treat that as like a pulpy comic book, silly magazine. Like, I. That's how I see it, as like a cartoon thing. I know they're real people, but I've got. I just like, these are people doing like an extreme version of a kind of play acting. And they're really, like, disproportionately mutated. Like they're just focusing completely on their body and airbrushing it, changing it. And I kind of. That's my way of putting myself at a remove from it. I'm like, this is silly cartoon comic book version of beauty. And I kind of treat it as all a bit of a silly game.

That'S that's a, that's a good way of looking at it. Like, it's, it's like a comic book. It's just these ridiculous accentuated things. That's it. That's a really good way of putting it.

Yeah.

I mean, it's accentuated both by the attention they're given in someone's profile. If every other picture is a picture of his six pack abs. And also accentuated quite literally through the filters and, and tools, they now have to be able to do it. Yeah.

And it's like, I want burritos in my life. You know, I haven't got that kind of. It's like, let them do that thing. That's cool. You can have the protein shakes for lunch. You can have that.

I quite like it when a woman posts a photo of like the bikini photo of, you know, two. It's literally the same moment, but just a slightly different pose.

Oh, yeah, those are good ones.

This is how different you can make your ass look in the space of three seconds for a photo. And one of them will make the world insecure about their ass and the other one will make us all feel united in our asses. And I, I quite like that because it's, it is so. It makes it so evident how so many of the things we're comparing ourselves to are, are not just, it's not just, you know, an unrealistic expectation for ourselves, it's an unrealistic expectation for themselves for the one that posted it, that they can't even live up to that three seconds later after the photo is taken. Sure, I think that's fascinating. Steve, to switch gears, we've got. I'm going on the Michaela Peterson podcast today. And I can't wait, because Michaela is, I think she's really, really interesting. I think that her story is fascinating. What she's dealt with in her life is fascinating. I am extraordinarily excited about the conversation. In my, in my research, I watched her, Russell Brand and her father, Jordan Peterson, all together talking and they got into the subject of children. And Jordan Peterson said, quite a bold statement, which, as we all know, Jordan Peterson is not known for. But he goes, he said, I don't think that anyone can truly grow up until they have kids. What are your thoughts on that statement? Because I heard that and instinctively given that, I think people don't necessarily realize this about us, but we have spent probably more time with women going through issues around their biological clock and the, the possibility of not having kids. When that was in their blueprint. It was something they wanted more than anything in the world. And maybe they don't get to have them. Maybe they don't meet someone in time. Maybe there are complications they didn't anticipate. But we have dealt with so many of those issues that when I heard that, instinctively I sort of went, oh, that's, that's a big statement. But I also completely understand the sentiment of it. I understand where it's coming from. And perhaps someone with kids would say, but Matt, you can't truly understand until you've had kids. I always love that Family Guy jokes where Brian suddenly realizes he's got a kid and he starts saying to Stewie, like, when you have children, you will understand. Like, he suddenly becomes so patronizing, annoying to be around, because it's like the rest of the world doesn't understand anymore. He's suddenly transferred into a world where there's something he understands that the rest of the world doesn't, that doesn't have kids, which there is a bit of that. I think we should talk about that at some point. But what do you think of that statement?

Well, far be. Far be it from me to venture my opinion against a world renowned psychologist, but I.

I think your opinion is valid, Stephen.

Sure. I mean, I don't have kids so that it's a dimension of life that isn't available to me yet. So I can only, I can only sort of pontificate, I think. I'm not sure because I feel like there are. There are so many areas of life where if you haven't experienced it yet, there's a level of maturity and understanding that is just closed to you. Maybe if you've never been. He's talking about growing up and it's like, well, maybe if you've never had a job, you've never really been grown up. Maybe if you've never paid your own taxes, you're not grown up. Maybe if you've never had to support anyone, you know, you've never grown up. And you know when you're in a relationship, you feel like, oh, man, God, before I was in a relationship, I really didn't understand what love actually was or what it is to actually have to manage other people's needs as well as my own.

Right.

You used to living your own selfish single life. So I am well prepared to accept that there is a whole sphere of life that is unknown to you until you have kids. And lots of parents say to you, my God, I never knew how much it really takes. Or they say, I Never knew my capacity to love until they had kids and that I'm perfectly prepared to take them on their word for that. Maturity, though, is a multifaceted thing, isn't it? Because some people never mature in certain ways, even with children. And there's ways they stay completely immature and reckless and like, you know, kids. I mean, in a, in a bat, in a negative sense, not the having a lovely, innocent sense, but in being naive and immature. There's ways that people never mature in all sorts of ways. So I'm kind of reticent in some ways. It's like, yes, I can totally see that. But I'm also reticent to put too much weight on that compared to a hundred other ways. You could be totally immature and, you know, foolish if you like. And irresponsible. And irresponsible. Right. There can be people with children who are extremely irresponsible and incapable. So I wouldn't put it on that simple, one linear, one dimensional thing of maturity. I think.

I suppose the idea is that you can't ever truly be unselfish if you don't have children. But I, you know, the, the truth of that idea aside, I, I suppose where it takes my mind because that's the world. This is the world we live in. You know, my lens a lot of the time is how would that statement, how would that thought affect people in situations over which they may have no control? There is a kind of, you know, culturally, I'm still fascinated by the, by the assumptions that are made about success based on relationship status, marital status, whether you have kids. And it's, and it's quite easy, you know, I, I've experienced as a man, people who, you know, at certain points in my life, when I've been single, the assumption is, well, why aren't you in a relationship? And you can feel there's a tone to that question. And of course, women feel this to an incredible degree. I, I feel it. And perhaps you, Stephen, feel it to an incredible degree. I suppose from a professional pressure that sometimes people put on us, like, you should be in a relationship if you're doing what you're doing, which I don't actually agree with because I don't think, you know, that being in a relationship is a personal choice and it should be based on, on the person in front of you and whether you want to be in a relationship as opposed to just the desire to be in any relationship, regardless of who it's with, so that you can say you're in a relationship. I think that A relationship, you know, should be, should be like a kind of a dream career path. You, you do it because you feel compelled to do it by having found something that you really love doing as opposed to feeling like you just, you know, you just should no matter what, just choose any, any old thing and do it because you feel pressure to go to, to an office every day.

And this is what I reject, by the way. I reject the, the over ascribing of some special status to relationship children. People can choose them things for really, really bad reasons. And that's where I reject the idea that someone is further ahead because they got married and had kids. It's like some people could have done that in a completely ludicrous, foolish way that suggests complete immaturity. So that's where I reject, I reject the societal idea that there's a continuum of immaturity from single to maturity to children and relationship. I think that's, I have, I have issues with that because I think people make bad choice. I think people make bad choices when that is seen as just an essential, necessary stepping stone or even just, it's always applauded.

Yes, yeah, look, I mean life more simply, I think life comes down to choices. Christopher Hitchens said, you know, in life you have to choose your regrets, right? And there's, it's, and whatever you do, you're missing out on something that's just always true. You know, you're, you're always, if you're single, you're going to be missing out on the experience of, you know, having, you know, you get to the evening and you want to, I don't know, veg out with someone that you don't have to entertain or someone that you really, you love and feel connected to and you just want to watch a movie. Then you might be missing out on that. You might have a casual thing or something in its place, but it may not, it's not going to be the same. If you're in a relationship or you have kids, then you, it's going to be much harder to, to go around the world and travel or to do other things that you might want to do or to get the solitude that you might crave at times. Like there's, there is just always going to be something you're missing out on. I, it is, I suppose, an interesting conversation. Perhaps Jordan Peterson would argue that there is just a, in the hierarchy of lives well lived, that having kids is the kind of the pinnacle of that. But I, I, that's, that's an interesting argument. And I think that there's a life. To me, there's peak experiences in life and having children is a peak experience. It's one of those peak. It's like one of the most incredible things I believe a human could ever experience in life. But I come from a world and I suppose from a coaching philosophy that wherever you are, whatever situation you're in in life, it's about making the absolute most of your situation. It's whether you're single, whether you're in a relationship, whether you're going to have your own biological kids, whether you're going to adopt if you can't have your own biological kids, or even if you can, but you just decide that adoption is more meaningful for you as a, as a kind of narrative, as a story, as a. Has more meaning. I, I believe in making the most of wherever you're at. And sometimes when I hear certain statements, there's a, It's a kind of value statement in itself that says this is unequivocally the highest thing that you can do and that there is no other. It's like there is only, it's like saying there's only one path to enlightenment. You know, there are many routes there. So, yeah, I'm kind of fascinated by this because I, I just, I worry, I worry about the pressure put on people in general. I worry about the pressure people feel to be in a relationship. I worry about the, you know, especially women. I worry about the pressure they feel to be in a relationship or the, the shame that they sometimes feel for not having found someone, or the, the low self worth and confidence that comes from not having found someone, so much of which is projected onto them by other people. And then if enough people at the dinner table say, how come you're still single? Why haven't you met anyone yet? Or doesn't it, doesn't life feel meaningless without having found a relationship or having had a family? Or the more people say that, the more it becomes a kind of a brainwashing that you feel compelled to believe and then you feel deficient in your life. Even if life's going pretty well for you. Even if, you know, a relationship could be a month from now around the corner, you could meet someone a month from now or six months from now or a year from now and your life could completely change. And that's great, but I hate the idea that in the meantime people think that their lives somehow count for less or are worth less because they haven't found that thing.

Well, yeah, and you can be responsible for Others in so many ways. Right. And in some ways that might be one of the things, if I'm speculating that the Jordan Peterson is talking about there, where one move to maturity is being responsible for others outside of yourself. And you can do that in many ways. But I'm, I'm more like emotionally libertarian where I think people can make sacrifice and take responsibility in many, many different ways in life.

You know, you broke, you broke up there, Steve. What did you say? You're more.

Oh, sorry. I said like, like personality wise. I'm more libertarian in the way that I see people's choices in that people can make sacrifice and take responsibility in many different paths in life. And clearly marriage and kids is one of the most obvious and most clear ways to do that. But I think there are other ways to do that. And also to go back on what you said, you said about how. Yeah, I think you and I, through years of coaching as well, have just seen so many people who have been self torturing, thinking they should stay with the wrong guy because of family pressure, because of religious pressure, because of outside judgment and stay with the wrong person and they feel guilt and shame, Shame. And that's where I think, man, this belief could be dangerous if people just think they, they failed because they are not moving towards that right now. And that, that's my fear of people just being shoved into relationships and responsibilities that are wrong for them.

Yeah, I think whatever chapter of your life you're in, whether you just got your heart broken, you're going through divorce, you find yourself enjoying being single, you find yourself out there dating someone just broke your trust, whatever situation, or you're listening to this and you're in a long term relationship and you have children. It truly is about waking up every day and saying, imagine I was starting life now like my imagine I woke up into this world today as a brand new human being. It's like kind of that movie soul where the little souls come down and they inhabit a baby, you know, an actual body and then they begin living their life. Well, what if you were a soul that came down and inhabited this body that you have today, this morning and inherited the life that you just woke up into today as opposed to having created it. Because sometimes it's the having created it that comes with all the baggage. I, the situation I'm in today, the situation I woke up into, I created, I am responsible for. And that comes with all the regrets, the regret, the self loathing, the baggage of, you know, I'm a piece of shit, I'm where I am today because I didn't do this or because I made that mistake, or because I stayed with this person too long or because I was too afraid. And I think that it's a great thought experiment. Say, if I came down out of this world as a soul and inherited my body and my life today, inherited instead of created, what then would I do with it? What, what game would I play with this life that I've just inherited? What challenge would I set myself? What. What would I do if I. If my only mission was someone said, hey, you just inherit this life in this body. You've got 20 years or 30 years or 40 years to have the best time ever, to make the most of it, to do the best you can with whatever you have this morning, on this day, what would you do? And you see that as the game. That's a really different scenario. And that I actually think that that is the game. I actually think that is the game. Because you today isn't the you that you were 10 years ago that created today. You today is a new version of you who inherited this life that the old you created. So now's your chance to see what the new you can do with that. But if we get stuck in the past and where our lives should have been by this point, that, that constant being stuck in what my life was supposed to be, that is a trap. You're not. Our lives are never where they're supposed to be. They're where they are. And we should wake up in today and look at where we are, not where we think we're supposed to be, and say, now what do I do with this? Okay, I woke up into this body. Now what? Well, I think we did it for today. In six minutes, I've got to go and jump on a Michaela Peterson podcast, which I can't wait for. I'm so excited about this. For anyone listening, we have a 30 day confidence challenge that we are running right now that thousands of people have already been through as a practical blueprint for measurably improving their confidence in 30 short days. And the idea of this is not to transform everything about your life in 30 days. It's just what would happen if you for 30 days took practical measures to improve your confidence. What would then happen to the rest of the year as a result of the momentum you built from those 30 days? And so what I've done is created five very specific challenges that we're all doing together that are designed to pinpoint the areas of maximum leverage for your confidence. And they're not really difficult missions. They are totally realistic, manageable missions. That's the whole point of this. It's not to scare you. It's to give you momentum. It's to build confidence. So there's five really practical challenges missions that we're doing over 30 days together and then we're going to measure our progress at the end of those 30 days. It's going to be insanely fun. The people that have already been through it have had some really interesting, real, practical, measurable results from it. And to go and register for that completely free, it's not. This isn't something we're charging for. You can go to mhchallenge.com and sign up. So come join us for that. And as always, you'll hear us in the next podcast. We can't wait. Thank you, Stephen.

Thanks. Pickles, Peaches, Puddings and Pears. This is Matthew and Stephen signing out.

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