Matthew Hussey shares a pool story about a non-verbal gesture that signals interest and prompts someone to approach you. The move works because it shifts the burden of starting conversation to them, and when they come over, you just say "I just wanted to say hi."
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Hello everybody, this is Matthew Hussie with Love Life. I have an incredible show for you today, but I want to make sure you listen right to the end because I'm gonna give you a special gift, a foolproof way to become the most intriguing woman in any man's life and you're not gonna wanna miss it. So I was at a swimming pool recently in the daytime, which is something you get to do in Los Angeles. I know that's tough for the rest of the world, but it just is one of the bonuses of being here. you don't really do it that often, by the way. So if you are jealous, don't worry, it never actually happens. I happened to be at a personal training session where my trainer had duped me because he said, oh, we're gonna train over at the Roosevelt pool today. And I thought there was a gym there. I got there. It turns out he just really wanted to be around all of the girls at the pool, and I ended up swimming laps. So that was my lunchtime. But something happened while I was there that I thought was very interesting, and it's. It's the most obvious way to get someone you're attracted to to talk to you. And I know that it's gonna sound obvious when you hear it, but oh my God, it just works. So here's what you do. I was watching, he was, I'm swimming laps in the pool, right? He's on the side, he looks over at a group of women. And this is a group of women. So ladies, it's not easy for a guy to just walk into a group of seven women. Right, that's hard. So here's what he did. He looked over and he saw this one woman that he was attracted to and him and her kept looking at each other but nothing happened. She didn't come over because of course she doesn't want to embarrass herself by walking out of a group of friends over to one guy. He doesn't want to embarrass himself by going over to that big group of friends and having a bunch of girls giggle at him while he tries and hits on one of them. So it's a very difficult situation. By the way, many relationships are lost out on because In this situation where two people are both looking at each other, it's a stalemate. No one does anything. So here's what happened next. He was smart enough to pull this one little move and I just think it's magical and everyone should use it. He looked over at her after 10 minutes of them looking at each other and he knew that it was nearing that time where we were about to leave. So he looked over again and this time he gestured for her to come over in a kind of come hither. fashion. And as he did it, he kind of mouthed like, come over. And she looked over and she, what do you think she did, by the way? Do you think she just ran over? No, she did the exact same thing back to him. She goes, no, you come over. And she started waving him over. Now they're back in a stalemate, right? But here's what happened a couple of minutes later. He did it again. She then did it again. And in fact, she went one step further and she cleared a couple of towels off of the sunbed next to her and patted it and said, like, come sit here. He then walks over, sits on the bed next to her, they start speaking. This would never have happened without that one gesture for her or for him to say, come over. Now, ladies, you can do this as well. This isn't just a male move. If you've been looking at a guy for a while, whether you're in a bookshop, coffee shop, bar, it doesn't matter, daytime or nighttime, you've been looking at someone for a while, you can gesture for them to come over. Now, I know you're thinking, what am I gonna say if he actually does come over? Well, here's what you do. Firstly, you don't say, I just, I had this really important question to ask you. You don't go into weird, serious mode. When he comes over, you just say, I just wanted to say hi. You go cute with it. I just wanted to say hi. and let him now take the lead because you're now not doing the work for him. He's doing the work. He's come over. You said you just wanted to say hi. The onus is on him now to carry on the conversation. But guess what? He's doing it from a place of knowing that you wanted him to come over. That's something us guys very rarely get the privilege of, right? We look around all the time. I was in Vegas with a buddy recently. We were looking around. There were people looking at each other all the time. And we said to each other, wouldn't it be great if everyone just had a sign on their head that said, I'm attracted to you? or no, I'm not attracted to you. If you knew for sure the people that were attracted, you just go straight over there. Well, that's what this little hand wave does. Ladies, I promise you, guys are gonna love you for this. They're still doing the work, 'cause guess what? They're walking across the room to talk to you. You're the one gesturing like this queen for someone to come over. You're doing nothing. It's easy.
Do it.
Stop being a baby. That's it. I'll see you soon. By the way, if you're not following me on Facebook, go to facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey. I will see you there. Now, before I go, I want to give you that gift I promised you. I've put together a free guide called Nine Magic Texts no Man Can Resist. Just copy and paste any of the nine texts and you'll be able to be the most intriguing woman in his life, get him to finally ask you out, Reignite his interest if things cool down and a lot more. But be warned, these texts are so powerful he won't be able to stop thinking about you. So if you're okay with that, get your free guide now by going to lovelifepodcast.com/texts.
