In this motivational podcast episode, Matthew Hussey addresses the common feeling of overwhelm that derails New Year’s resolutions, especially in the realm of love and relationships. He argues that most people mistakenly believe big, monumental actions are required for success, leading them to abandon goals early. Instead, Hussey promotes consistency through tiny, daily habits—what he calls a "1% shift"—as the key to lasting change. He critiques the traditional "new year, new you" approach, citing a study that 90% of resolutions are broken by January 15, and suggests focusing on a single, manageable behavior (e.g., greeting a stranger in line) to gradually improve one’s love life. Hussey also encourages listeners to treat his podcast itself as a small, consistent action, urging them to subscribe, leave reviews, and download a free guide titled "Six Shortcuts to True Love" from shortcutstolove.com. The episode blends practical advice, psychological insight, and promotional calls to action, aiming to help listeners create sustainable progress rather than overwhelming, unsustainable resolutions.
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Matthew Hussey here with Love Life.
I have a question for you.
When you think about going after the things you want most in life, how do you feel? Excited?
Inspired?
Capable of doing anything you put your mind to? Or do you feel overwhelmed? Discouraged? Like you're facing an insurmountable obstacle? If your answer is overwhelmed, you're not alone.
Most people feel the same way.
And the reason is this. Most people think that in order to achieve their biggest goals, they have to take big, monumental actions. And that makes them give up before they even begin. But the truth is, the key to achieving our goals is consistency. Small actions done regularly, Consistency can make all the difference between achieving your dreams and staying stuck and unfulfilled where you are.
So let's set you up for success.
I'll do my part by showing up every few days with a new episode filled with advice to help you live your best life. Think of listening to my show as your one small action you can do consistently. Here's your first assignment. Go to itunes and click the subscribe button. This will make sure that you get the latest episode as soon as it's released.
Ready to get started? Let's go. Christmas is over. The new year is upon us. And I know that if you're listening to this, then you're interested in making this a really incredible year. So I'm going to do something a little unorthodox here. I'm not going to come out with the traditional new year, new you type advice. I want to actually help you reverse some of the standard things that people talk about in the new year because I really believe that the way people talk about advice in the new year is not helpful when they give you certain things to do. All it leads to is you not following through on all of the things you've decided on. So let's make sure that this new year, you actually stick to some of the things you create. And I want to make this really relevant to your love life right now because I know that as you go into this year, you want to make this the year that either you create that relationship with someone you're already with that's extraordinary or you find someone extraordinary or you that person that right now isn't paying you any attention, you're able to actually go and get that person. I want you to know how to do that in the new year, but I want to see save you from a crucial mistake right now. One of the biggest things that people do wrong in the new year is they think because it's a new Year. I now have to justify myself. I now have to go through all of these big changes because guess what? It's 2014. Got do big things, got approved to everyone, that I'm going to make it all happen this year. And they treat it like there are 52 weeks in a year. They act like they have to get it all done in week one. So they start making all of these crazy resolutions. They take on 20 new things that they have to do. And of course, we all know what happens by January 5, January 10, January 15, they've already gone back on their resolutions. In fact, studies show that by the 15th of January, 90% of people will have already broken their resolutions. Isn't that amazing? Here's my advice to you. Your life is changed by 1% shifts. It's not changed by doing enormous things all in one go. So right now you may be looking at your love life with a degree of overwhelm, thinking, you know, I've got. I know if I want to feel confident, I have to lose all this weight. I have to start going out more. I have to start getting this new circle of friends. You might be freaking out in that way. All that does is lead to overwhelm. And the problem is, as soon as you get overwhelmed, your brain short circuits and you don't do anything. Here's what I want you to do. I want you to pick the 1% shift in your love life that has the potential to make the biggest difference if you stick to it. Every day, your life is changed more by the one routine you stick to than the 10 new things you take on, if you're honest. And the 1% shift is, I never talk to guys. I always see men that I'm attracted to and I never walk over there. If that's your 1% shift, then that's the thing you've got to start doing. And don't say to yourself, now, this year, oh, okay, fine. New Year's resolution. I'm going to talk to 10 new guys a day, because you know you're not going to do it if you're not doing any of it now. You know you're not going to go for 10 guys a day to begin with. So start by saying, okay, here's my, my challenge. I am going to say hello to one guy in line. Every time I'm in line at Starbucks, I'm going to turn to the person next to me and say, hey, how's it going? That's it. And I have to do it every time I'm in Starbucks. Every time I'm lined up, every time I'm in that coffee shop, every time I'm in that bookshop, in line, wherever you are in line, you have to say hi to the person next to you. That's a 1% shift that will give you a dramatic change in your love life. And it's very different from saying I need to find a man this year. So when I go up to a guy, I have to get his number and I have to go on a date and I have to make something happen because Lord knows I don't ever. All that much time left. That's a really stupid way to go about the new year. Go for a 1% shift that's going to make all the difference. Don't do what every other person out there is doing right now, which is getting ready to make a ton of resolutions they know they'll never stick to. And guess what? In 12 months time, they're going to make the exact same resolutions again. Don't be one of those people. Be someone that this time next year has another problem. And it's a quality problem because it's arisen from the successes and the progress of this year. So in order to do that, I've created a guide for you. It's going to be the six Shortcuts to True Love. This is an action plan for you. Here's what you need to do to get it. Go to shortcutstolove.com so that's shortcuts to love.com. it's waiting for you there. It's completely free and my way of giving to you in the new year and getting you started. So take care and have a great time with that.
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