This Will Snap You Out of Acting Shy

I'm Matthew Hussey, and this is Love Life. If you've ever felt like you didn't know the right words to say to a man to create attraction and chemistry, then you can't afford to miss what I have for you at the end of today's episode. Stay tuned, because I'm gonna hand you five phrases that are so simple yet so powerful with men that you're gonna be furious at me for not giving this to you years ago. We have a caller in today. This caller's name is Chelsea. Chelsea, are you there?

I am.

Oh, my God, It's Chelsea. Chelsea, how are you?

I'm good. How are you?

I'm just so happy to have you on the show.

Oh, thank you.

Are you happy to be on the show? I feel like I'm happier than you. Oh. I feel like I'm more excited about speaking to you than you are about speaking to me.

No, I'm so happy and I'm super excited.

All right, I believe you.

Oh, thanks.

All right, what's your question? Tell me.

Okay, so I recently went to one of your seminars, which was fantastic, and you gave us a couple of lines to use, and I was just wondering how we can kind of get a little bit more confidence to use them.

What stops you from using them?

Probably I'm too shy.

But what makes you shy? What are you afraid of?

Probably just either, like, rejection or, you know, them just not thinking that good enough to even talk to them or whatever.

And that, by the way, is extremely natural. But. But what is it you want? What is it you want to talk to? Why do you want to talk to guys in the first place?

Well, just to, you know, kind of be more open and, you know, eventually, you know, once you get to know me, I'm very outgoing, and I'm a goofball, and it's the initial conversation, trying.

To get that started so you feel comfortable. You feel comfortable once you really get to show them who you are.

Yeah.

So if I'm right, once you get talking to a guy and he finds out you and your goofy side and your fun side, all of that seems easier. But it's the first part, because what if they misinterpret you? What if they see you as something else? Right.

Yeah.

Well, what if I told you that they're gonna see you as something else anyway if you don't approach them?

Yeah. I've been told that I come across as, like, very hard and cold.

Right. My next question is, what do you want to bring to people? What do you want to bring to people. What do you want people to feel when they're around you?

I like to make people smile and make them happy and make them laugh.

Are you doing that right now with people?

With people I know, yeah.

And people you don't know?

Probably not.

See, in order to be shy, you may not have thought of it this way, but in order to be shy, you have to be being incredibly selfish in that moment.

Yeah.

Do you know why?

Probably because I'm holding back what I'm. What I've got to give, I guess.

Correct. That's exactly right. Because you're holding back what you have to give in order to be shy, you have to be focusing on how scared you are in that moment, how afraid of rejection you are in that moment, instead of what you could actually give to somebody else. I'm interested, Chelsea. Were you a little nervous when you got on this call?

Yeah.

Because you didn't seem very concerned with making me smile or laugh.

No.

You weren't, right?

No.

When. When we first got on the call, I started playing with you a little bit, but you didn't. I noticed you didn't play back.

Yeah.

You went quite quiet on me.

I did, yes. Now that I think about it, yeah, I did.

And were I a more insecure person, I might have felt that you were being quite cold with me.

Yeah.

So here's the interesting part. Your idea of what you want to be, which is. And by the way, your idea of what you are. Because around your friends, I'm absolutely positive you do make them laugh and you have this goofy side that comes out. But I think the shame is that the rest of us don't get to experience that side of you, because I'm sure it's a very lovely and a very beautiful side of you. Now, maybe you're getting shy right now because when you see a guy, you're so focused on how you're perceived that you stop thinking about all those wonderful things you can actually bring and all of those great things you can give to a guy. And the sad part about that is, of course, now he doesn't even see your good qualities. So here's what I want from you. If you're really the giving, loving, happy, goofy, fun, jokey person that you say you are, I want you to start actually living up to that and being generous with that energy, because I would argue. And I want you to take this with the love that it's meant with. Because I care about.

Yeah.

You may not know it, but I care about You, I don't think that you've given that to me. And I think you want to. I don't think you don't want to. I think you want to, but I think you've been too focused on you to make life easier for me on this call. And I think that when you go into your. Firstly, the next time we speak, I want to see the real side of you. I want you to stop focusing on whether you're going to say something that sounds silly. I want you to stop focusing on, you know, this is. This is hard. I don't want to be stupid. You know, I'm just going to be in my own head. I want. When the next time me and you speak, wherever it is, whether it's in person, whether it's on this show again, wherever we speak next, I want you to be generous to me and forget about you for a minute. And the next time you speak to a guy out there in your life, I want you to do the same thing. Give to that guy. Instead of thinking about what you can get, just go up with the intention of giving a great energy, making him feel good. Tell him something that he picked out to wear tonight, looks really good and he has great taste. Tell him something that's going to make him happy even if you walk away immediately afterwards. Right now, I don't care if you focus on great creating attraction. I care that you focus on going over to someone and giving the best of your energy. Do you think that's something you could be committed to doing?

I think so.

Fantastic. Chelsea, thank you so much for being on the call. I really appreciate it.

Thank you so much for having me. I really appreciate it.

All right, take care. Bye bye.

Thanks. Bye. Bye.

So that's it for today, my friends. Little longer episode than normal, but that's the way these calls go. You never know. You never know what's going to happen. None of this is scripted, so we just have to go with it. But I hope that you'll have enjoyed that. I hope that you'll have found something interesting in that. And I always think when things go that way and they have interesting turns in some way, actually, people get more out of it. Now, before you get too mad at me for not giving you the five phrases here years ago that could have saved you all that heartache, this guide is based on years and years of studying the exact words to say to trigger deep chemistry with men. I'm happy to say that all of my effort was worth it because these five phrases work so incredibly well. With men. So let's not wait another minute to download these five phrases. Just go to lovelifepodcast.com compliments.