In this solo podcast episode, Matthew AI critiques the common romantic fixation on unrequited love, labeling it a form of masochism and self‑sabotage. He argues that chasing someone who doesn’t reciprocate wastes time and energy, and that healthy relationships require mutual investment and incremental trust building. Using the metaphor of constructing a castle together, he explains that trust should be earned step‑by‑step, with each partner contributing effort proportional to the trust they receive. He emphasizes the importance of assessing where one stands on a partner’s priority list and measuring people by the effort they invest rather than by personal desire. The episode concludes with a call‑to‑action inviting listeners to join his online community and coaching program for confidence‑building women.
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Sam Foreign. Hey, guys, it's Matthew. Welcome back to the Love Life podcast. We've been trying to mix it up lately and give you an assortment of different kinds of episodes. Something that we think can help you that's a little more bite sized. So check this one out. This one is from the archives. Also, don't forget, leave us a review on itunes. We really appreciate it. All right, enjoy the episode. I can't be attracted to someone who doesn't want me back. That's not attractive. That's masochism right there. That's what it is. It's this weird thing we do to ourselves. Unrequited love. Unrequited love. Like it's a romantic thing. I love him. I love him. I love him. What's the problem? He doesn't love me back. What the fuck is wrong with you? That's not love. That's worship. And we've become attached to this idea of unrequited love because it's somehow gives us a righteous cause to chasing someone who treats us like shit. I am ruthless with ditching people that don't give me energy. There are 7 billion people on this planet. I have zero time for flakes. For people that don't try very hard. I know so many women who, they get a guy for an hour a week or they get a guy for one night a week and then they're like, I just want to see him more. But you don't understand. We have an amazing connection. We're great together. When we're together, there's fireworks, there's chemistry. We have such a great time. Well, that's a really dangerous thing to base investment off of. When I invest a little bit, does he meet me there? Oh, I'm attracted to you. Okay, let me invest a little. Do you invest back? Oh, you did. Okay, let me invest a little bit more. I don't think relationships are easy. But the part where you say, I want to see you, and he says, yeah, I want to see you, that should be fucking easy. Relationships aren't always equal, but they can't always be unequal in the same direction. He says he has no time, but I see him doing all of these fun things. Well, guess what? That's what he's choosing to do with his time. Let's see what happens. Aren't we having fun? This is amazing, isn't it? Is it magical for you too? Because it's magical for me. Let's keep going. No one can waste your time. Only you can waste your time. I'm gonna allow you to put in that 5% amount of effort that allows you to get 5% of my trust, then 10% and 15% and so on. That's how any relationship is built. You don't start with the trust. You build the trust. You need two people who actually are willing to construct a castle together. And it takes effort and it takes investment, and it takes two people who really want to do it. And as you build the castle, it becomes more and more beautiful. It becomes more and more yours. The weather starts to erode the stone in beautiful and unique ways that make that castle unique unlike any other castle in the world. And a castle you can only get by finding a genuine builder. You don't have a builder. You just have a connection. The right question is, where do I sit right now on his list of priorities? But there is a difference between liking someone and respecting someone. And when you talk to guys, measure them based on their investment, not based on what you want them to be. The message is so important that it will save people decades of wrong decisions. I hope you enjoyed that episode. Everyone, don't forget, go over to askmh.com to join an entire community of amazing women who are working on their confidence, not overthinking, and just feeling amazing in their own skin. You can join that community and it's a beautiful place to be by going to askmh.com and be part of my exclusive coaching experience. I'll see you there.
