What’s YOUR Excuse?

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I'm your host Matthew Hussey.

Now here's a secret about men that.

Most women don't realize. Men really want to feel manly around you. If you know how to make him.

Feel like a man, he'll want to.

Be around you day and night. So how do you do this?

I'm going to give you my five most powerful phrases for making him feel.

Manly around you right after we get into today's topic. We are back again today with a caller. I'm very excited to have Angie on the line. Angie, are you there?

Hi Matt, how are you? I'm excited to speak to you too.

I'm excited to speak to you. I I feel very happy that you actually managed to get through to us and were able to answer your question. What was your question, Angie?

Well, the thing is that in the last couple of years, I've gained some weight, so I'm about 40 pounds overweight right now. And so when I was lighter, I was much more willing to put myself out there in terms of dating. And now that I've gained the weight, I'm reluctant to put myself out there as much. So my question is, what can I do in the meantime? Or what strategies can I use to not use weight as an excuse to not make myself available?

How long have you not dated for, Angie?

It's been a few years now, so about three years.

And I'm interested. What, what's made you want to lose the weight now? Because obviously in those three years, you hadn't made that decision to do it, but it seems like now you really have. Tell me, Correct me if I'm wrong.

You know, I think that's right. I've hit 40 years of age now, and I don't want to make any excuses anymore. And I want to feel confident and, and really, I guess aggressive and assertive about taking risks in my life.

Okay, so this isn't just about weight. This is about being more of the person you want to be.

Yes, that's right. You hit the nail on the head.

Very good. Okay, so you're absolutely right. The weight itself could be an excuse because there's no reason for you not to start now. Now, I don't doubt, Angie, I don't doubt for a moment that once you've lost the weight, you will feel more confident, at least on a superficial level. You will feel a more sexy version of you, not because it's inherently more sexy, but because you want to lose the weight. And so I don't doubt that you'll feel better about yourself at that point. The danger, of course, of waiting is that it, it pretends that the only reason you're not taking risks in your love life right now is your weight.

Okay?

And here's what I know will happen if you blame it on the way and you say, let me wait until I lose this before I go and take risks in my love life. Let me tell you what will happen when, once you've lost it, you'll say, what's the nearest and most convenient excuse to not take action? Now, I want you to know the reality because you, you're self aware enough to hear the truth, Angie. And I think you, you want the truth.

Yes, for sure I do.

There will only be more excuses. There will only be more insecurities There are, trust me, there are an endless supply of available insecurities and excuses that we can all have at any given moment. Weight is just your most convenient one right now, right? So I don't say, don't lose the weight. Go get healthy, get fit, and show how strong you can be. Because let's face it, losing weight ain't easy. So it takes strength to go and do that. But since you've got the strength to go out and make the decision to lose the weight, I also know that you have the strength to start applying yourself in your love life. So start now. Appreciate. I will. I will concede that when you've lost the weight, there will be ways that you feel better about yourself. But I will also say that there's no reason not to start now. And guess what? These. These two goals, losing your weight and going out there and creating new opportunities in your love life, they're synergistic because when you start showing yourself that you have the strength to lose weight. And by the way, what happens when you leave the gym after a really good session? You feel proactive, do you not?

Yes, for sure. You feel like you've accomplished something.

Exactly. Now that's the exact state that you want to go and achieve another goal in. I know when I leave the gym, I go home and I want to get crazy. I want to clean the house. Like I'm the most tired I've been all week. But I finished the gym and I want to go and clean the house. I want to wash up dishes. I couldn't get myself to wash up dishes at any other time in the day. But now I want to do it, because I just went to the gym, because going to the gym puts me in what we call a flow state. And when you're in a flow state, you can use that and compound it so that you can go and take it to other goals in your life. I want you to do that in your love life. Do not lose the momentum that you're actually getting from going out there and losing the weight simultaneously. Use that momentum to go and achieve in your love life, and then you're going to really feel good about yourself, because you're going to know that who you want to be is something that you're carrying across every area of your life, not just one.

I think that that's. I think that's amazing. I think that no one's quite said it to me like that before. And I think what I took away from this is that I need to practice because the man that's waiting out there for me is going to need me to be the best part, the best person that I can be. So I need to get out there and practice right now.

That's absolutely right. And guess what? The next guy or the next five or the next ten or who, however many it is that it doesn't work out where they're all practice for the right one that comes along.

Right.

So there's no pressure.

That's right. No pressure.

All right, go have fun. Angie, thank you so much for calling in.

Thank you so much, Matt.

So we started off today talking about the power of making a man feel manly around you.

But how do you do this?

It can be challenging to strike the balance so that you don't sound patronizing when you do this, which is why I've carefully crafted five perfect phrases that you can say to any man that will make him feel like his best self around you. To download these five phrases, just go to lovelifepodcast.com compliments. Foreign.

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