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Hello everyone, this is Love Life with Matthew Hussey. You know, we've all been hurt in relationships. If we're not careful, we can end up shutting ourselves off completely to protect ourselves from more pain. But that cheats us out of opportunities to find the love we really deserve. So what should we do instead? I want to come back to this at the end of the show. But first, let's get into today's episode. I have something I wanna give you as we lead up to the Christmas period because I know that as we lead up to the holidays, there are so many people out there who wanna find love. It's a time that reminds us that we want love, especially 'cause we see every advertisement out there is about people being close to family, friends, lovers, every influence we have at that time is about the magic of being close to the people we love. And it follows that we also want that special experience with someone romantic. in our lives, someone that we can have this amazing romance with. Now, if it's the beginning of December and you haven't found anyone at all yet, you may not find love by the end of December, but you might actually begin a romantic relationship with somebody. You might find somebody that you actually have an amazing time with and maybe it goes somewhere in the new year and it carries on, or maybe it doesn't. But I know that it would be so much fun and excitement for you. to find someone great during the holiday period. So, if you're alone right now, one of my key pieces of advice for you is to be more sociable this month than you are inclined to be. During the holiday period, we're far more inclined to kind of be cozy and stay at home and watch movies and tuck ourselves in in our pajamas. It's something that Although we associate that with the holiday mindset, what you really need to be doing right now is being out and being sociable. And of course, there's no greater time for it because there are so many parties happening during this time. People are having work events, people are having drinks with friends. There's no better time when everyone's out and in that good mood to go and meet people. So, I want you to go out and meet people. I want you to say yes to activities that people put in front of you. And by the way, if you get no invites to anything, do your own thing. Arrange a little happy hour for you and some people you care about and get together and go out. But when you're out, spend most of your time talking to people you don't know. Spend most of your time talking to strangers. Spend 20% of the time talking to the people you already connect with, who you went with. Because this is a time where I want you to be meeting new people that you can see over the holiday period. If you meet a stranger, an attractive guy, and you hit it off, a great thing to be able to do with him is to go Christmas shopping or, you know, go out for a coffee during the daytime. It's so much fun to have dates during this period when it's all wintry and, you know, everything is decorated for the holidays and there's a kind of natural romance in the air. It's a really fun thing to do, but the only way that stuff is going to happen is if you actually take some risks. Risks to leave your house, risks to break your routine when you're out instead of just talking to people to actually flirt with them and talk to them about what they're doing over the holidays. And hey, you're trying to find something for your brother, I'm trying to find something for my sister. We should go and find stuff together. We can both help each other there. There's all of this stuff that that you can suggest to people during this period that allows you to get more sociable and allows you to take some more risks. So lots to do over this period. I want it to be a period where you don't play it safe. Go and take risks and have fun. There's no bad can come of it. Only good can come of it. Yes, you might have some minor rejections. Yes, you might have some nights where you go out and you don't meet anyone that you really like, but truly only good can come of it. You'll have new people in your life, new interactions, you'll have more stories from the holiday period, and you'll feel like at the very least, even if you don't meet someone, it wasn't wasted. Now, in order to help you with this, I've actually created a guide for you over the holiday period that takes you through the steps one by one of finding someone great over December, someone that you're going to enjoy spending time with, and someone that come midnight on New Year's Eve, you'll be able to be close to and feel romantic with and have a very exciting start to the new year with. So, here's what you need to do to get this guide. Go to kisshimatmidnight.com this entire guide has been laid out for you to find someone over the holiday period, even if you're starting from scratch and you don't feel like you have a busy social life right now. It's going to take you through the steps to meeting someone great and someone that, as the name suggests, you'll be kissing at midnight. So, go to kisshimatmidnight.com and download this free guide that I've created for you. I'm excited to see the results of you going through it. At the beginning of today's show, I brought up the question, how can we open ourselves up to love again when we've been hurt? In one of my live seminars, I actually coached a woman through this in a Q&A session, and I want to give you free access to it today. I call this video the 3 Female Mindsets that Drive Men Wild and it's filled with empowering and practical advice that you can use today. To get your free access, just go to lovelifepodcast.com/mindsets.
