Life coach Mayur Bardolia offers two questions to shift how you think about problems. Ask "What is stopping me?" to see the barrier is usually yourself, then "What would happen if I did?" to replace fear with possibility.
Hello, it's your friend Mayur Bardolia and welcome to Life Changing Experience. Before we move on, let me just give you a small introduction about myself. I'm a life success coach, business coach, neuro-linguistic programming, which is widely known as NLP, master practitioner. I'm also a counselor, author, and a hypnotherapist. Okay, today I'm going to help you to solve your problem. I will give you 2 magic questions which will help you to solve your problem. Now, before we go on to those questions, let's discuss about what is problem. Problem is actually the absence of solution, right? Okay. When you're thinking about the problem, you're focusing on problem, and you want solution instead, right? So the thing is you need to focus on solution in order to get the solution because you get what you focus on, right? When people have faced any problem in the past, what they do? They relive the past again the moment, and they think. It will happen over again. So in order to overcome that, you need to think of solution. You need to find out the possibilities. Because I believe that there is no such thing as problem, there is an absence of solution. Just like there is no such thing as darkness, there is an absence of light. Okay. People are not stuck. You are not having any problem. You are not stuck. You have lack of choices. You need more choices and solutions and possibilities in order to grow in your life in the future. So let's go back to our questions. Questions will help you to think about the solution. And question number one is, what is stopping me? Okay, what is stopping me? Now this is a really powerful question. When you ask yourself, what is stopping me? You're freezing the problem in the present. Okay? Now the thing is, people always think about the past. What happened in the past, it can happen over again. Let me tell you a very big secret. No, nothing, it's no secret. It's actually the reality. The best thing about the past is, it's already over. Right? The best thing about the worst past is, it's already over. And your past does not automatically equal to your future. When you ask yourself, what is stopping me? The most probably you will answer yourself. Okay? Yourself. You are stopping yourself. Now sometimes people argue, what about some real barriers in the business? And I say that if something has been achieved by someone, if someone can do, you can do it too. I would like to quote one of my favorite sentence: if a thing is humanly possible, consider it to be within your reach. So if they have overcome those problems which you are facing right now, those problems are not real barriers or real problems. Those are only in your imagination. Now, how you can create more choices in order to grow in your life, in order to solve your problem? Ask yourself question number 2: What would happen if I did? What would happen if I did? This is generally people don't ask. People ask in the opposite way. They say, what worse can happen in the future, right? What can go wrong in the future? What problems may come? In the future, remember you get what you focus on. So when you ask yourself what worse can happen, you are creating the negative, less empowering, and less productive outcome in your life. Now it's not going to help you. Does it help you? Not yet. So ask yourself what would happen if I did. When you ask yourself, you're creating the more powerful, positive, and productive images. And representations about the future, and you create more choices. You are into more resourceful state, right? Ask yourself, what would happen if I did? What would happen if I could? Now, when you ask these questions, what's stopping me and what would happen if I did? You are into more powerful and resourceful state. So ask yourself, write it down, think about it, and. Share with me your feedback. I would love to know your experiences, right? So if you want to get in touch with me, you can visit my website www.mayurbardolia.com, and you can also visit my website called articles.mayurbardolia.com where you can find tons of ideas and information and knowledge and wisdom. And I wrote more than 90 articles so far. So you can get benefit from those articles. And also you can take advantage of my live training programs, and those training programs are designed based on real-life experiences, real-life experiments, and in-depth research. And if you want to catch me on Facebook, yeah, you can catch me on Facebook at facebook.com/MayurBardolia. You can watch more of my videos on my YouTube channel at YouTube.com/MayurBardolia. I thank you very much for joining me today. I wish you all the best. Take care.
