Mayur BardoliaTraining Coordinator, Grifols · Success Coach & Learning & Development Facilitator since 2010✯Available for contract facilitation

Add “And That’s Okay” to Your Self Talk

18 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief motivational monologue, the speaker addresses the common experience of an inner critical voice that generates shame and hampers action. The speaker proposes a simple self‑compassion technique: whenever a self‑critical thought arises, prepend the phrase “and that’s okay.” By acknowledging the mistake or nervous feeling without self‑condemnation, the listener can reduce fear and shame, think more clearly, and take responsible action. The speaker emphasizes that the phrase does not excuse harmful behavior, but rather removes the emotional attack, enabling constructive response. The talk concludes with a call to share the technique widely.

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We all carry an inner voice that comments on what we do. Sometimes that voice sounds critical and harsh. It says things like, you are not good enough, or you should be further ahead by now. That critical tone builds shame, and shame shuts down the action. I teach a simple shift. Add the words, and that's okay. I made a mistake today, and that's okay. I can fix it. I feel nervous about this, and that's okay. I can still move forward. This does not excuse behavior. It removes the fear, shame, and the attack. When you drop the shame, you think more clearly. From there, you take responsibility without putting yourself down. If you like it, share it far and wide. Have a nice day.