In this instructional video, success coach Mayur Bardolia explains how the inner critical voice—manifested through vivid mental images of failure and a harsh internal dialogue—can sabotage confidence and performance. He illustrates the problem with a client case where persistent self‑judgment led to depression and a lack of focus on past successes. Bardolia proposes that every critical voice actually stems from a positive intention, such as protecting the individual from embarrassment or motivating achievement. He guides viewers through a step‑by‑step inner dialogue exercise: (1) identify a specific critical thought, (2) ask the voice what it is trying to accomplish, (3) listen to its answer, (4) probe further until a constructive intention emerges, and (5) thank and affirm the voice for its helpful purpose. By repeatedly practicing this conversation, the listener can shift from resistance to acceptance, turning the critic into a supportive ally rather than an enemy. The video concludes with a call to practice the exercise, share experiences, and contact Bardolia for coaching or speaking engagements.
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Discovering the positive intentions of your inner critical voice. Just as fears and anxiety can get in the way of you achieving success, the bad feeling that some people experience from self-judgment and criticism can also hold you back. Nothing can weaken or get you out of the track as effectively as the negative self-evaluation and negative self-talk. People typically use 2 main processes to put themselves down. Number one is making internal pictures of failing or messing up. And number 2, Hearing an internal voice that reminds them of what they're doing wrong. Have you ever thought about an upcoming presentation or a meeting, a presentation you had to give, and found yourself making pictures of getting up in front of the group, looking nervous, and making a fool out of yourself? Did you experience that? Have you ever said something to someone and had a voice fire off inside your head that said, "You dummy! Whatever made you do that? Who do you think you are? You stupid idiot! How dare you think about it?" We all had that experience. Most of us have had experiences similar to this where we became our worst enemy. These mental processes set up, set us up to fail ahead of time. I had a coaching client who was a man who had a big problem with negative self-evaluation, negative self-judgment. He said that he had been feeling blue and depressed for over a year. In exploring this thought processes, he discovered that he was making picture of all the things he did not do very well, and then commenting internally about how awful he was using both of the troublesome processes. When he was asked, what about all the things that you have done really well? What about those previous successes? He responded that he knew that his successes were in his brain, but he just could not focus on them. His internal dialogues were stopping him from doing what he wanted to do. He was fearful, confused, and hesitant. He felt useless and put himself down. I shared few techniques with him, and one of them was to discover new choices in internal dialogue so that his depressed feelings were replaced with a feeling of self-confidence, helping him to become more dynamic and successful member of his work team and his life. And I'm going to share the same exercise Where you will learn what the positive intentions of the critical voices you have and what the negative voice that limit you, that is true and not true. By the end of this video, you will discover the intentions of this critical voice by asking what it's trying to do for you that's positive. Now, not all critical voices are supposed to be ignored. There is a positive intention underlying every behavior for us, or we would not continue doing it. You can assume that this critical voice has some positive purpose that it's attempting to accomplish for you. And it's important to find out what that positive intention is. The primary requirement to be happy and successful is to love yourself. Give yourself care and love. Do not resist that internal critical voice. What you resist will persist. The more you try to resist, the more intense that voice will become. Instead, accept and embrace your internal critical voice with love and care because it's part of you. And I highly recommend you do this exercise repeatedly, especially when you're free from any distractions. So sit back and relax. If possible, Close your eyes and pay attention to your body. Look within you. So again, hear that voice in your mind being critical of you. Pick up the negative critical voice of only one situation and ask the voice, just as you ask another person. Have an honest conversation with your internal voice. Ask, what's your intention for me? Ask, what are you trying to accomplish for me? What purpose do you have in mind? What purpose do you have in mind when you're being critical of me? Allow your internal voice to answer. You may wish to pause this video and join again once you're done. After you have asked one of these questions, remain silent and listen to what the voice says in response. The common answers to these questions are: I'm trying to keep you from making fool of yourself. I want to protect you. You probably hear, I'm making sure you do what is right. I want you to be all that you can be. And after you hear an answer from this voice, notice your response to this intention. You probably don't appreciate what this voice says to you or the tonality it uses, but do you appreciate the voice's intention? If you have difficulty accepting that what you are hearing from your internal voice is positive, Keep asking the voice until you do find an intention that you can agree with. For instance, if the voice says, I'm trying to get you motivated, you can then ask, and when you are trying to get me motivated? What does that do for me? Ask yourself. The voice might say, well, when you are motivated, you get things done and make more money, or be successful, accomplish a task, complete a project. To this, you might respond, and when I'm getting things done and making more money or get this project done, what does that do for me? Then the voice might answer, you will be a success and feel good about yourself. That is the intention that most of us can certainly appreciate and be glad to have a part of us striving for. If the voice initially says, I want to punish you, right? What can you do about it now? Well, you probably won't agree with that voice. Obviously, you won't agree with that intention of your internal voice. And when you ask again, what will it achieve for you? चुपानिश में ask your internal voice. The voice might reply to you. Then you will pay attention to me and remember what I say. After again asking for the positive intention, the voice might reply, I want to keep you out of situations where you will fail and feel bad. So here at last is an intention most of us would agree with, except that it's stated in negative. Forget about the tonality it, you, you used. I mean, your internal voice is using, but focus on intention. What this voice really wants is the positive, for you to succeed and feel good. Have this kind of honest conversation with yourself, with your internal critical voice. Once you have determined the positive intention of a critical voice, the first step is to agree with it. Thank the voice for having it. You are your best friend. Affirm that you, you value its intention for you. I'm glad you have that positive intention for me. Say to yourself, I'm glad you have that positive intention for me. Thank you for wanting this for me. Thank your internal voice. And when you do this, you have achieved a crucial, important step by being friend with your own critical voice. Because it has a positive intention for you. You can now open your eyes if you have closed. Because both of you and the voice agree on the positive intention, you and your internal critic are no longer enemies. Now we have become the friends who can work together to resolve the problem. That remains. The voice is trying to get its outcome. It's trying to save you. It really wants you to succeed. In fact, this irritating and criticizing may even be causing you to fail, which is the opposite of its intention or intended positive effect, which is to help you succeed. Do not resist that internal critical voice. What you resist will persist. The more you try to resist, the more intense that voice will become. And I said this earlier, instead, accept and embrace your internal critical voice with love and care. Because it's part of you. Do this exercise repeatedly and share your experience with me. If you benefit from this video, please recommend it to someone who can benefit from it. Share it far and wide. Share with more people who can get benefit from it. This is Mayur Bardolia, a success coach from North Star Angel Coaching and Spiritual Solutions. If you wish to book a coaching session and workshop or invite me as a speaker, reach out to me at contact@northstarangel.com. Have a nice day!
