In this guided coaching video, Mayu Bardolia explains that the emotional weight of past disappointments changes not because time passes, but because the way we remember them shifts. She introduces a practical technique called the “movie music exercise” that lets viewers deliberately re‑encode unpleasant memories. The process involves selecting a specific past event, visualizing it as a mental movie, and then replaying that movie while playing a piece of upbeat, mismatched music (e.g., circus, cartoon, dance, or dramatic classical). The contrasting soundtrack alters the emotional tone of the memory, often turning it into something humorous or neutral. Viewers are instructed to compare their feelings when watching the movie with and without the music, experiment with different tracks, and repeat the exercise for several low‑to‑medium intensity experiences. The video concludes with a call to share the technique, reflect on the transformed memory, and contact Bardolia for coaching, workshops, or speaking engagements.
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We have all had disappointments in life that later turned out not to be the big deal we thought they were at that time. People often say they change with time, but it wasn't the length of time that changed them. It was how they remembered the memory of disappointment that changed. You cannot go into the past and change the past, but surely you can change, or you can manage how you remember it. And if the memory is not serving you and makes you feel unpleasant, sad, or nervous, you can then change the way you remember it so that the unpleasant memory of the past Does not bother you and makes you feel calm, happy, or just relax. You don't even bother about that. Remember, the best thing about the past is it's already over, and there is no need to keep repeating it if it's not helping you. And in this video, I'm going to share an exercise. That I call movie music exercise that will allow you to deal with any unpleasant memory. On completing the movie music exercise, the mental code, your memory for that unpleasant experience is going to be different because you change it deliberately. Once you know how to do this, you don't have to wait for your feelings to change. You can do it right now or even anytime. The technique works best with everyday problems of low to medium intensity. Okay? So sit back, relax, and close your eyes. And begin by thinking of an everyday difficulty, any unpleasant task or unpleasant experience. For example, recall a time that you were disappointed or embarrassed, a time when you did not feel very good about things or situation. Think about it. Pick a specific and real event. From your past, think of that specific event. As you think of this specific event, notice what images and sounds come to mind, and watch a movie of this event unfold before you. When you are done, notice how you are feeling. Now select any theme music. Now select some theme music that mismatches the feeling you got from the movie you just watched. Your memory is probably serious and really heavy, so select something light, bouncy, like circus music, funny music, or cartoon music. Some people prefer upbeat dance music, while others like overly dramatic classical music, or some play old playful songs. Repeat movie of that unpleasant experience with music. When you selected the music, you have it playing nice and loud in your mind as you begin to watch your movie of unpleasant experience again. So watch that movie and play that funny music at the same time. Have the music continue playing all the way through to the end. Now check results. Now rewind that movie back to the beginning, and this time play it without the music and notice your response to it. This time, have your feelings changed? For many, incidents have become ludicrous and even humorous. For others, their unpleasant feelings have been greatly reduced, or at least neutralized. If your feelings are not yet satisfactory for you, try using different kinds of theme music with your movie until you find one that works the best for you. I would recommend that you do it now so that now unpleasant memory doesn't bother you anymore, or so-called unpleasant memory doesn't bother you anymore. Repeat this exercise with at least 3 more different kinds of unpleasant experiences. Experiment with different kinds of theme music to find out which one is workout, You know, working out very, very best for you with different kinds of experience. It's quite fun. You should do it. Now take a moment to recall one of those changed memories. You'll find that it has a different and more resourceful feeling. You probably notice that with this new feeling, You spontaneously begin to think of other things you could say or do that might be more useful if that kind of situation happened again. Share your experience with me. If you benefit from this video, please share this with someone who can benefit from it. Share it far and wide. This is Mayu Bardolia, a success coach from North Star Angel Coaching and Spiritual Solution. If you wish to book a coaching session with me, or a workshop, or invite me as a speaker, reach out to me at contact. At northstarangel.com. Have a nice day.
